Do I need some perspective?
more by soon2bhis
What are your plans?
Gluten free bees!
more in Wellness
I got bit by a copperhead last night
Peacock Wedding theme!! June 2012 wedding
more in Boards
How often do you clean your diamond ring?

Homesick and panic attacks...

posted 6 months ago in Wellness
  •  
    1.
    Member
    1,357 posts
    Bumble bee
    soon2bhis    December 26, 1999  

    I am so desperate right now!  I recently got a new job where I'm away from home for 2 weeks at a time.  I've always gotten homesick when I was younger (ie at camp), but I sort of thought I had "grown up" or something.  I also have an underlying anxiety disorder that was under control until I started this job.

    I can't stop crying and having random panic attacks.  I don't even know what to do anymore.  I know I seem like a baby, but it's out of my control.  I'm trying to keep busy but there's not a lot of "work", it's mostly me sitting around.  I plan on quitting after this time around, but DH is mad about me "jumping" from job to job (we moved to a new city where I got an awful job, stayed for 3 months, then got this one).

    If you pray, I would love prayers.  If not, advice?

     
    2.
    Member
    849 posts
    Busy bee
    miss sparkly cat    December 26, 2013  

    I dont know how you feel about it but you should talk to your doctor about this. They might be able to give you something to atleast help you calm down and sleep. Also could you bring a few small things from home to comfort you? I know how you feel with panic attacks, I get them when I am in large crowds and it sucks. I hope you find some way to deal with this

     
    3.
    Member
    1,357 posts
    Bumble bee
    soon2bhis    December 26, 1999  

    I'm waiting for DH to get me on his work insurance, so...2 weeks to go til I'm home and can actually go see a doctor. 

    I'm pretty sure I'm going to be quitting this job, which is unfortunate because it really is a good job, but it's not worth me stressing out like this. 

    How do you cope with your panic attacks?

     
    4.
    Member Icon
    Member
    1,483 posts
    Bumble bee
    AB Bride    June 25, 2011   Canada

    I don't know if it will help, but besides bringing small things from home, what about pictures of friends and family?  Maybe a blanket (if you're sitting at work, even a throw for around your shoulders) that smells like 'home' might help?

    How long have you been at this job?  If you're able to, do your best to stick it out for a little while; sometimes adjusting takes a bit of time.

     
    5.
    Member Icon
    Member
    1,483 posts
    Bumble bee
    AB Bride    June 25, 2011   Canada

    Oh, and try any hot beverage that you find soothing without any caffeine.  I find some tea always helps when I'm stressed.

     
    6.
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    shyviolette    October 2012  

    I also have trouble with panic attacks sometimes- mine are just brought on by different things. My anxiety is more in the realm of public speaking/presenting, which I'm finding I can no longer avoid as I near completing my degree. I have avoided it completely in college believe it or not; that is, until last year. I had no choice but to do a presentation, and it was probably the worst i've ever been in my life, which I think was because I hadn't had any exposure to it since high school. Maybe your homesick anxiety is just amplified right now because you never resolved it completely and haven't had to deal with it since you were very young? It probably seems overwhelming right now, but try to keep in mind that it's just overblown right now and it can get better. 

    One way to deal with them is to just breathe- it sounds stupid, but it helps, really. For me, it works best if I sit back or le down and breathe deeply and slowly into something like a pillow- it helps to regulate your breathing, and slow your heart down; for me, panic attacks mean a racing heart and I can't catch my breath. 

    It also helps to reason with yourself. It helps to think to yourself or even to write down what you're afraid of or anxious about and why it's not that big of a deal, and how it's not going to be so bad. It also helps to just talk to a friend or watch a a movie or something to get your mind off of thngs. Like PP mentioned, is there something you might bring from home that would be comforting to you?

    Another thing that might help is taking valerian root- it's an herbal supplement you can find at places like walmart, and it goes a long way in helping to ease anxiety. It doesn't have any side effects for me, but it can make you a little sleepy. It really does help to calm me down if I'm super stressed out about something though. 

    It can be tough, but this is something you're better off to try to deal with before you decide to quit your job- it could take a little time to get used to, and it'll feel great to be able to overcome the anxiety, even if it's in little steps.

    If you're still having problems with the panic attacks, or even if you aren't, definitely try to talk to a counselor about your concerns if you're able to. Good luck!

     
    7.
    Member
    301 posts
    Helper bee
    Goodatlove    August 2013  

    Are you eating right? I know for me, I get stressed out more if I havn't been eating correctly. Having a full, happy belly helps me to think better and not worry as much.

     
    8.
    Member
    3,390 posts
    Sugar bee
    soyjoy222    June 1, 2012   PA

    You really need to talk to a doctor! You shouldn't have to feel this way.

     

    @Goodatlove: I agree. Make sure you are eating good, nutritious meals and taking good care of yourself. This can make a HUGE difference in how  you feel!

     
    9.
    Member
    302 posts
    Helper bee
    StaceyMay81    May 11, 2011  

    Sorry you're going through this but I can relate. I have anxiety  and I'm currently reading a really awesome self-help book called When Panic Attacks by David D Burns, an award winning psychiatrist. The book is all about resolving anxiety WITHOUT the use of drugs and so far it's been really helpful. This Dr talks about how he has resolved some of the most stubborn cases of anxiety and other problems without ever having to use drugs and sometimes in as little as a few sessions. He has exercises you do througout the book and it really does teach you how to change your thinking and talk yourself out of a panic attack or any situation that makes you anxious.

    I highly recommend it. Hope things get better.

     

    Reply

    You must log in to post.





    Visit our sister sites eHarmony
    Online Dating
    eHarmony Advice
    Dating Advice
    Project Wedding
    Wedding Songs
    JustMommies
    Pregnancy Calendar
    Copyright 2004-2012, Weddingbee.com
     

    Find your vendors on Weddingbee

    Real reviews from brides in your area!

    Favors by Weddingbee

    • Favors by season

    Shop Now ยป

    Find Registry Find Registry Find Registry

    More
    User Posts Today
    Lyndzo 26
    his chippymunk 20
    Ms. Salamander 18
    LammChop 17
    fivemonthsnotice 17
    beargoose 16
    kat2014 15
    mypinkshoes 15
    aussiebee 15
    Mrs. Chai 14

    Wellness

    User Posts Today
    Miss T-Rex 3
    happyface 2
    qwerty2k1 2
    serendipity9.8 2
    vttp926 1
    KatyElle 1
    Eva Peron 1
    imalittlebirdie 1
    MrsMeNow 1
    les105 1
    More