- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I know that my cousin (and MOH) is planning a shower in my hometown, about six hours away. This makes perfect sense because all my family and childhood friends still live there.
I’m a little worried about the guest list for my shower. In my family, showers are always surprises, so I have very little input, but I’m pretty sure my cousin would invite FI’s family. I highly doubt they would travel to my hometown. I’m 100% OK with that as I realize it’s a long way and FI’s mother isn’t in the best health. I’m pretty sure they’re assuming that my family will take care of a shower, but I don’t think they’ve clued in that it won’t be here and I’m afraid that they’ll feel left out of the festivities. I know they could plan a shower here in my new city, but it would literally be a party for 4 people and that doesn’t seem worth it.
This truly isn’t about asking for another party or more gifts and really is about not wanting FI’s family to feel left out. FI knows my shower will be in my hometown – Should he casually bring it up to them so they aren’t caught unaware? Does that seem gift grabby? His family is a tight-knit bunch and have considered me one of their own for many years.