Hometown Wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Tigerlynn:  Having to drive an additional 2 or 5 hours after flying in is a big inconvenience. In the end, do what works for you and your budget though. Guests that want to be there will figure it out or send their regrets.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Maybe offer a bus transport from the St. Louis airport the day before the wedding and the day after the wedding to save guests the cost and stress of renting a car.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@Tigerlynn:  We had our wedding in the middle of nowhere, Wyoming.  People flew from all over the country to either Salt Lake or Denver and then drove 5 hours, or they ponied up an extra $100+ per flight to fly into a small airport half an hour away.

We were really lucky – literally EVERY important family member and friend who was physically able to attend, did!  About 80 out-of-staters and another ~30 people who drove 3-4 hours from in-state, as well as about 50 locals..  But, this was in our mutual hometown and the wedding served as a family reunion / friend reunion for a lot of people.  It’s also a gorgeous area and many people extended their trip into a mini-vacation.

People will make it there if they really want to.  It is asking extra of them, though, so you shouldn’t be offended if they can’t make it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our wedding was 3 hours from the nearest large airport, and less from smaller more expensive ones. I felt a little bad that they had to get out there but most people made it work, rode with our local family and friends etc and I didn’t get a single complaint. We were very lucky that no one complained about the location frankly. We also got married in a really great vacation area where it was easy for people to make a trip or weekend out of it. I’d probably not fly then drive 2 hours to a wedding for an acquantance or even for a cousin I wasn’t close to if the wedding was in a random spot.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

2 hours from an airport would most likely be a deal breaker for me. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

So according to your family, anyone who lives in a small town isn’t allowed to have a wedding? Sounds like a really lame excuse to me.  My mom hosted a family reunion for 175 in a town almost 2 hours from the nearest airport. If they want to be there, they will. Especially if it’s your hometown, I would understand why you’d choose to have it there. Then again, I love small towns and any excuse to go visit one.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@OkieHeart:  if you live in a small town most likely most of your guests will live there too

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Tigerlynn:  for me, it would depend on how many people have to travel. if it’s the majority of your guests and/or it is a big wedding (like, over 50 guests) it is very inconvenient.

 

honestly, I’d only pay for two flights or flight+car to go to a wedding if 1) you were my very best friend 2) it was a spot where I could make it a vacation (the beach or a major city)

 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Tigerlynn:  We’re doing this. I am from a small city in New Hampshire, about a two-hour drive from Logan Airport in Boston and a bit over an hour’s drive from Manchester-Boston Regional Airport, while FI is from Los Angeles (and to further complicate matters, we live in San Francisco!). We went back and forth for a month or so about which coast to have it on, and ultimately came to the conclusion that A) his family is in a much better position financially to travel than mine is and B) western NH is a beautiful place that most people would never have occasion to visit, while LA is a pretty common tourist destination. Not to mention a wedding in NH will be significantly less expensive than a wedding in LA! 

In order to make the long trip more worthwhile for our guests, we decided that we would dedicate the money we saved by holding the wedding in NH toward having several special events and activities to which all our out of town guests are invited. Rather than a traditional rehearsal dinner, we will be having a welcome barbecue, and the day after the wedding we will hold a farewell brunch. We also plan to hold a golf outing Friday morning, with some sort of a concurrent event for non-golfers (honestly this will probably be a champagne brunch/DIY and set-up party, since most of our female friends and family absolutely love to help put on weddings and other events) . I also plan to put together a welcome bag with a booklet of local attractions in case guests want to stay an extra day or two and do their own thing.

So I guess this was a very roundabout way of saying this is absolutely fine, but you should look at it in much the same way as you would a destination wedding and do your best to help your guests fill their schedules with other activities. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@daisyfay:  +1  

Our wedding (described above) was definitely a destination wedding for maybe 2/3 of the guest list.  We had a wecome BBQ dinner (with kegs, bluegrass band, etc) on Friday and a bagel brunch on Sunday, as well as a group hike and dinner out (we didn’t pay) on Thursday.  I think if you ask people to invest a lot of time or money to travel, it’s appropriate to offer more than one 6-hour event…

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@lolot:  Ooh, a hike! That’s a great idea. i might steal that one. 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@daisyfay:  it was really fun!  highly recommended.  (Our hike ends in a place where THIS happens!)

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@lolot:  Oh lovely! I bet your guests loved it.

One of the most-climbed mountains in North America is a short drive from my hometown, so I can’t believe it didn’t occur to me beforehand! Lots of easy to moderate trails for a fun half-day hike.

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