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posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
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    Looks great! Tell her to get it. : (14 votes)
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    It's OK. If she can't find anything else she should wear that. : (12 votes)
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    Don't think so. Ask her to find something else. : (20 votes)
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    Bumble bee
    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    So here's the story: I'm letting my girls pick their own "off the rack" Little Black Dress for the wedding. I really wanted them to buy something that the actually *could* wear again. One of my BMs sent me these pictures the other day asking if I liked this dress. Note: this is not her in the picture and the dress would be ordered in black. She works for a fashion designer in NYC (not sure if I'm allowed to say but...they're twins whose names rhyme with Larry Mate & Smashley lol), that is who made the dress. My wedding is in late May in Cleveland. She is concerned that it's not "special enough" (her words).

    My opinion is...well I'm not sure. I actually REALLY like the dress. It would look great on her and I think in black it would look especially nice. Our wedding is semi-formal. The guys are wearing suits instead of tuxes, all of the girls' dresses are cocktail length. Do you think it's a good fit? I can post the dresses the other girls are wearing if that helps? Thanks!

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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    I'm not sure how it will fit in - its definitely not your traditional bridesmaid dress, though I agree its beautiful. Can you post the other dresses? It'd help us gauge how this fits with the whole bridal party "look."

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I think it's really classy and if you gave them "off the rack LBD" criteria, this definitely fits. I like it. I wanna see what everyone else is wearing, too! But since they're all in black, I don't think the styles matter as much. a bunch of LBDs just goes better than a bunch of, say, red, in varying styles. Me thinks anyways.

    Also, i'm jealosu of your friend's awesome fashion hook up =]

     
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    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    Here are the dresses the other girls have picked. I really appreciate the help...this is kind of hard for me. One of the models is wearing tights in the pic, but the BM wearing that dress will not have on tights. Just an fyi :)

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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Um....It depends on what the other girls are wearing. I understand you're giving them all the opportunity to pick off the rack but at the same time you want them all to have the same sorta feel right? While its cute as all get out...it ultimately speaks business meeting to me. If however, your other girls are gonna be this covered up then she should def go with it.

     
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    judya64    October 2, 2010   connecticut

    Your friends dress is really nice i love the back. I also like the choices your other brides maids chose,

     
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    mrskesslertobe    September 18, 2010  

    This is tough one because it is a pretty dress, but I am not sure it really goes with the rest all that well. The rest seem to have more of a common denominator, she might stand out a little.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I think it'll still all fit together just fine. Especially b/c they're all in black. The only big difference, stylewise, is the dress has long sleeves and the rest of the dresses are "party" style dresses. And it's a gauzy chiffon. It doesn't necessarily "fit" because it's a different style and material, but I think once you line them all up, they're all in black, they're all styled and have bouquets, nobody'll think, "hmm that girls' dress look weird" or anything. It's very stylish so I think it'll be fine. I still say give her the thumbs up; it'll look great all together. I've seen group photos where the dresses aren't 100% cohesive and it looks great. Representative of the bridesmaid, too =]

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Ok I just saw your other post. I would send her these pics and ask her if she thinks she can find and love something in this area. The other 3 girls dresses are all somewhat similar and her dress is WAY different.

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    It's a pretty dress, but it doesn't match the style of the other dresses.  I would probably recommend she find something sleeveless to go along with the other dresses.  

     
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    veganglam    January 5, 2013   Philadelphia; Wedding in NYC

    I actually am not a big fan of the dress, honestly.  I think it would look a little dowdy on most people.  When I see the other dresses, it really cements my belief that she should look for something else.  Those have a much different feel to them, as previous posters have said, very "party", and are all made of satin.  Hers isn't either of those things.  I think it's just going to look really out of place when she's standing up there.  Like she didn't get a memo or something.

     
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    snmcdowell    9-13-08   Chicago

    It. Is. Stunning. It is super classy and would look great with the other dresses. To each their own, right?

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    Now that I see the other dresses, I'm not crazy about it. Its a nice dress, but not really a wedding party dress. Have you shown your friend what the other girls are wearing? Since your friend is into fashion, maybe if you show her the other dresses and challenge her to find something that complements the overall look of the wedding party, she'll find something a little more suited for your event.

     
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    rabbit    September 3, 2010   Milwaukee, WI

    I think the dress is gorgeous but unless she is your maid of honor, and thus it were okay for her to stand out a little bit, I would send her the pictures of the other 3 dresses and ask that she keep looking. The material is not only obviously different, but with her being the only one with sleeves and the rest being sleeveless, she'd stand out like a green thumb.

     
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    aja0829    August 29, 2009  

    I think the right shoes and jewelry would really dress it up and it would be super cute. Part of the charm of having everyone choose their own dress is so that each person's individual style shows through. Your friend is living in NYC working for fashion designers, so I'm sure she has her own unique viewpoint. 

     

     
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    MrsJKH2be    October 2010  

    Not going to lie BUT at first I didn't like it...thought it was boring....

    HOWEVER, I think it would look wayyyyy better in Black....Plus, try to picture it w/ the accesories and shoes and I think it will look very classy!

     
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    ponypi9    June 19, 2010  

    I think the dress is nice, looks sexy and classy on the lady in the picture (great body).  I get the feeling that the fabric is probably very delicate and adds something to the dress that we don't get in the picture.  It's not a real match with the other dresses but I would go for it.  My girls are doing a mismatched thing.  I decided my priority was that I wanted everyone happy and comfortable-it's their money.  I've been in too many not so nice BM dresses myself....  I also think of it this way 1, You are all going to be standing there together for a pretty short time and for that everyone is focused on you.  If someone thinks she's the odd one they will forget it in a few seconds.  2, Although everyone takes the wedding party pictures, the pictures that stay around the longest are of the bride and groom.  Very few people have the whole bridal party on the mantle five years later.

     
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    sadie    9/19/2009   Seattle,WA/Bend,OR

    I think if she has the right body she could totally rock this dress. True, it doesn't "go" with the other 3 dresses as in it's not strapless or has a plunging neckline so it doesn't "match", but you did ask them to get a LBD they would wear again.  I think back to the post about mis-matched dresses that work...I like the idea that this dress IS different, yet still really simple and beautiful.  I think if the dress was shortened to right above the knee it would be a cool, unique compliment to the other dresses. 

     

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