(Closed) Honest Opinions…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that since this is a genuine concern over the family being able to attend both weddings that it is in her best interest, too. I think you have the right frame of mind that you are not telling her when to get married, but it is always possible that this is just something she wouldn’t have thought about. I think that it can’t hurt to mention it in passing over the course of wedding conversation that you are booking venues for your date just as a way of making her aware of the date, NOT to say that you don’t think she should get married then. The other thing I have to ask is — if you haven’t booked the venue, can you be sure it will be your date? Would you turn down your dream venue if they didn’t have that date available?

I think ultimately you can make her aware of your date, but it is up to her whether or not that information is relevant when she makes her decision.

Post # 4
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1104 posts
Bumble bee

Does your cousin know that you have your date set already? Also, how close are you? I have one cousin who is one of my best friends, a bunch I know fairly well and then 25-odd that I’d hardly know if I passed them in the street! I think it depends on your relationship – if you were close I’d say let her know you’re booking your venues and just casually ask how that might work with her plans.

But, unless you guys are really close, at this point I would probably just go ahead and make your plans. It sounds like your cousin is only just pregnant and only just thinking about getting married…a lot could change in the next year and I wouldn’t go changing plans or having awkward conversations when it’s not necessary yet.

Post # 5
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would talk with her, just to clear your head. But also keep in mind that this may be her plan today, but after she has her baby EVERYTHING might change. She might have to push things back because of any number of unknown factors!  Also, since you are having an out of town wedding, you’re going to have to assume that many of them might not make it. The close and important people will make the effort if they have the funds, but it can be a lot to ask of other people you may not be that close to.

I would talk with your cousin, make sure your family knows your plans and can make that date and go with your plan.

By the way LOVE YOUR WEDDING DATE! It’s ours too!!

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