Honestly- How do you all feel about bachelorette trips??

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Personally I feel like it can be a bit much. There’s a lot of financial pressure on your girls, even if they’re only paying for themselves. If they want to plan it, great! If not I wouldn’t mention it to them. 

If you’re just wanting to get away why not have a girl’s weekend? By not associating it with your wedding you’ll be taking the pressure off everyone else. 

Post # 4
Member
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We went to Jamaica for mine and we had a ball! All of my girls didnt go and I was fine with that. I actually had some other friends that came along that werent bridesmaids. It depends on your group. I would like to think that good friends can be honest and speak up. If they dont want to go then they dont come.

 

I also wouldnt mind going for a friend’s bachelorette but I love to travel! I will add that most of my friends are single with no children and make decent salaries ($60k-110k) so that could be why…

Post # 5
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4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Depends on the group. I could never ask my girls because they couldn’t afford it. If we all had good salaries and few commitments? Then I’d probably be game for one.

It can be a big burden though, so I would hesitate.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think  in many cases both bachelorette and bachelor parties have gotten out of control. Most young people are not in a financial position to be wasting that kind of money on someone else’s wedding.

Post # 7
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Honestly? I think it is ridiculous. I don’t understand expecting/pressuring people you care about to go on a trip with you and spend tons of money on top of what they are already spending.

If you frequently vacation together anyway, then fine. Otherwise….

Post # 8
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Personally, I hate them. I’ve been asked to go wouldn’t would mean taking extra vacation time and the locations are enough that it rivals our annual vacation budget. The real reason I hate them is because it’s always easier for someone else to figure out how I should spend my money even if its something that’s pretty much for them.

If it was something within a reasonable driving distance it would probably be okay, but every one I’ve seen or been invited to starts with a minimum of a three hour flight, and I’m sorry, that’s just too much for a party.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It depends on where you go and if you have the funds to do it. For mine we went to tourist northern town for the weekend.  No one was forced to go and we shared a room for costs.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I mean, I guess it depends on your friends. If y’all are rich then go right ahead! But even in my financial situation, I wouldn’t be that excited to go on a trip for my friend’s bach party.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Boxerlover24:  Im tripping with my MOH to have a weekend away on the Gold Coast with a complete spa day and an awesome relaxing beach/shopping day – so excited!

Im doing it with only my MOH for a few reasons, she’s getting married literally a month after me so we are combining our bach (but it would have been just us two even before she had a date), its too far and much too expensive for anyone else and we want to just spend it with eachother 🙂

When it comes to big trips, and expensive ones too, I would opt out because I can’t afford to spend a weekend doing things I didn’t really choose to do and I find it a little much to be asked. Would you vacation with them doing joint activities any other time of year? If not then don;t expect them to do so just because you are getting married 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ask your MOH what she thinks.

I love girls weekend trips, but would not want to be pressured into going.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ask your MOH what she thinks.

I love girls weekend trips, but would not want to be pressured into going.

Post # 14
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640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I went to vegas for a bachelorette and it was epic.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think it depends.  A 2 hour trip to the mountains and spending one night if costs were kept reasonable, sure.  Going from here to Vegas?  No.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

I think this depends on your group of friends. Do they expect to spend money on your bachelorette trip, with the understanding that when it is their turn to get married, you will also spend the money to attend theirs? If so, then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.

In the interest of full disclosure, I went on a bachelorette trip and regreted it. I thought it would be a nice chance to bond with some girls and it turned out to be a huge financial headache. The other girls seemed to enjoy it though – they were getting married in rotation so it was understood among them that they would pay for each other’s trips. I was not part of this circle so I repeatedly felt like an ATM.  

I do think it’s a plus you’re willing to pay your own way. I agree with AlwaysSunny – if you plan your trip around the perspective of enjoying some time with friends instead of in the context of your wedding, you might take off some of the pressure. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to this, it depends on your social circle. You could just ask them 🙂

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