Post # 1
Just a pet peeve of mine, not directing at anyone at all! I think lower necklines can be lovely and have a strapless dress myself… but I was looking at pictures of a past family wedding this morning and kept wondering to myself… how in the world is that girl staying in there????
I understand women who naturally have more than I do (I’m a B-cup) but still…. I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable walking down the aisle if everything but my nipples were peeking out of the top of my dress. I don’t get it….
Is anyone with me on this or is this just my personal quirkiness coming through? I swear I’m not a modesty police officer… I just cannot understand women who purposefully spill out of their dresses on their wedding day in a non-classy way. My FH loves my body but I can guarentee he’d like me to save that for him and not for every male attending our ceremony.
Edit: I don’t want to start any harsh feelings but am honestly confused. Maybe it depends on the personality of the bride??? I’m really not sure.
Post # 3
Probably the personality and the level of comfort. I always opt for a little more coverage with strapless dresses because I’m a small C and petite and when I raise my arms my whole torso slims and everything else slips down. And I’m sorry, but I don’t like anyone enough to show them my nipples in public. 😉 But maybe other ladies’ bodies fit in strapless dresses better and they don’t have to worry about that so they can be a little more risky. I think it’s just personal taste.
Post # 4
i think there is is suitable amount to show, i’m an e cup so it’s hard not to show anything and tbh i like showing a little, but at the end of the day my dad will be there and it’s something he doesn’t need to see
Post # 5
I’m a little jealous b/c I couldn’t have cleavage if I tried… but I would think my guests might be uncomfortable with it. Personally, I think it’s tacky in that setting. I’ve seen plenty of curvy brides look amazing, showing off their figure without putting on a show.
Post # 6
haha.. I have thought this myself! My dress is strapless ( with a sweetheart neckline) and I made sure the girls were covered. I also have the same problem, @claireos:…. I am a 32D ( small D) and my rib cage just will not hold anything up.. so my dress has a very structured bodice to make sure when I do the YMCA, there won’t be any B’s coming out( ( B and is in boobies… sorry, lame joke of the day)
Post # 7
My poor cousin lost a good deal of weight right before her wedding. I’m not sure why but she didn’t have have dress altered and my mom reported that whenever she leaned over to hug someone everyone was terrified she’d fall all over the table. She also took off her foundation garment for the reception which did not help.
To avoid any spilling (or “floating boobs” as one BM put it) we stitched my ceremony dress to the top of my longline just to be safe. The only cleavage-y shot from the whole wedding is from before we stitched it.
Post # 8
I’d pretty much have to wear a turtleneck to avoid having cleavage, and my fiance would be very unhappy with that lol. I think there is a tasteful level of cleavage for every chest size, but it is something hard to quantify or describe. One thing that I personally find distasteful is when the bottom of the boob is visible :/
Post # 9
I’m a B and tend to wear low cut things because they don’t look crazy sl*tty on me. My dress was a v neck and I look at some of my wedding pics and think “holy sh*t thats a lot of boob”.
So yeah.. sometimes its unintentional haha
Post # 10
FI’s wedding dress pick leaves very little to the imagination. He is a little bummed because I said an emphatic NO to that dress. I definitely don’t want it all hanging out on my wedding day. I don’t think that is classy. I understand he wants to show me off, but the girls don’t need a viewing! Not everyone sees the female form from a purely artistic standpoint. I am not a prude and I am very comfortable with my body. However there are appropriate and inappropriate places to display one self. For instance you can go topless to a nude beach but not a church LOL. That being said I wonder if some inappropriate dresses happen by accident. My friend ordered her dress made in China and the bust was very short. Unfortunately she didn’t have the time nor money to replace it so she displayed a little more of her g size girls then she wanted to!
Post # 11
ech. honestly, i think its trashy. save it for your wedding night… aunt betty and uncle tom do NOT need to see all of your goodies, and i dont think grandma appreciates it either. I am a plus size girl (14/16) with 36Ds. My dress is a strapless ball gown, but you better believe that the ladies will be safely tucked away. dont get me wrong, a little cleavage is fine, but no one needs the whole show (except FI, of course)
Post # 12
Ugh. I so didn’t want to be the bride with cleavage. Part of the reason I bought my gown and passed up on a much cheaper one that I loved was in an attempt to hide the ladies a bit.
So I bought a size 16 when I’m a size 12 on top usually, and it was supposed to be enough. It was, but then I took it to my seamstress and she totally butchered it :(. I had my bridesmaids let it out a bit the night before so I didn’t have so much pressure on them (causing more cleavage), but I still showed more than I wanted to.
So basically, a lot of them might have had good intentions but weren’t able to follow through. I know you’re a B so you haven’t faced this, but sometimes getting 34Gs into a dress is a long process with too many steps that depend on other people :(.
Post # 13
@stokieGal: I’ll second this. I’m an F cup and I’ve deliberately chosen an off-the-shoulder dress so I can really show off my cleavage, without fear of quite spilling out.
Honestly, I went on my first dress shopping trip with my mum to a very swanky bridal boutique. I was trying on a dress and the sales lady said “Now if this fitted properly, you wouldn’t see all this cleavage.” My mum stifled a laugh and said “No one would recognise her without cleavage!”
Plus, my fiance would probably refuse to marry me if I showed up in a covered up dress. He’d be convinced I wasn’t myself.
Post # 14
I’m petite and a D. I tried very hard in the process to not feel like I’m hanging out. Its very hard not to regularly. Im cool with it but for this, I was shooting for a bit more decorum. All the sweetheart necklines were like HELLOOO and the straight across ones made me look like I had a shelf. I chose a scoopneck dress so problem solved-zero cleave.
Post # 15
I heard a pastor tell a story about a woman whose boobs DID fall out of her dress AT her wedding ceremony (that he was officiating at.)
It does happen…
Post # 16
@red_rose: Falling out is usually more due to poor dress construction than anything else. The only time I’ve fallen out of a dress it wasn’t cleavagey and I was only a B cup (I was 14). I’ve worn very low cut dresses to many events involving enthusiastic ceilidh or swing dancing and never fallen out.