Post # 1
I love sterling silver and have always had jewelry made of it. I bought my fiancee’s (we are both women) engagement ring in sterling silver earlier this year and she loves it so far. There is one noticeable scratch in the metal if you really look but she doesn’t mind it – it’s nice to show that you wear it every day!
So now she is also looking to buy me a ring, and honestly… we are pretty short on money right now and it is so much cheaper to get a silver ring than white gold. I’m also sensitive/allergic to nickel so I might have to have a white gold blend without nickel, which is even more expensive.
I feel like if it comes down to it, I’d rather get the ring in silver, and if it does get noticeably scratched or worn, I could always reset the stones in a new band… right? I’m looking at a halo-type ring.
I feel like maybe I am less attached to the idea of “wearing this ring every day for the rest of my life so it has to be super sturdy”. I’d like to, but I also want to wear it and enjoy it NOW, while I’m engaged! We have a whole lifetime to afford a fancier anniversary ring or something.. but my wedding is in 11 months and I don’t want to get my engagement ring the month before the wedding because we couldn’t afford it until then!
So… does anyone else have a silver engagement/wedding ring? Is it really that much softer or weaker than gold?
Post # 3
I guess I should also add that I’m not totally set on having to wear an engagement/wedding band set. I might wear my e-ring on my right hand after the wedding, or switch them out, etc…
Post # 4
what kind of stone are you looking for? I really don’t think you are going to find any diamond rings set in silver. you definitely will be able to find sterling silver rings (some rhodium plated, some not) in a halo style set with CZ, but they might not be the best quality.
look around on etsy. I’ve seen some pretty rings that are moissanite & silver, but none of them were halo settings.
Post # 5
@janie-janie: no, not diamond. I’ve mostly looked on Etsy, I think I want a green tourmaline or lab emerald in silver. I’ve been able to find those, and they seem much cheaper than the gold rings. But I’ve gotten paranoid by so many people saying that silver isn’t durable enough…even though I bought my fiancee’s ring in sterling last April and I still think it looks great so far.
Post # 6
If it’s too thin it gets bent out of shape. I had a CZ RHR that actually broke in 2!
Post # 7
Judith Ripka makes beautiful sterling silver jewlery… My RHR/DPR is a blue stone set in sterling silver.
this is link not working is pissing me off… ha! Search Judith Ripka 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s weaker than gold, but it seems to tarnish more easily. Silver also can’t be cleaned the same way as gold. I was told that a silver ring cannot be put in an ultrasonic cleaner. It is possible to get silver halo rings, though, if you’re not looking for a diamond. I have a silver and sapphire halo ring. I’ve also had a silver Claddagh ring for over twenty years and even though it got badly tarnished, it’s fine otherwise! I was also able to remove the tarnish by lining a casserole dish with aluminum foil, putting the ring on the foil, covering the ring with baking soda, and then pouring boiled water over the ring. The chemical reaction caused by this will clean the silver and the dirt goes onto the aluminum instead. I think the answer to your question is that silver requires a little more care but it’s pretty durable overall and it’s beautiful.
Post # 9
I had a silver ring with a cushion cut white sapphire and the prongs were so bendable that I had to return it. I didn’t trust wearing it at all. Also, with my skin chemistry, silver tarnished badly on my hands.
When you speak of metal scratching, also think about the gemstone you’ll choose because many scratch too if worn all the time. My initial e-ring was a smoky quartz and it got large scratches over a year. I changed to diamonds after that, because they are the strongest material in the world and stay beautiful.
Here’s the silver ring I returned:
Post # 10
silver rings don’t tarnish on me as long as I’m wearing them. they only tarnish when I take them off and put them away.
I think it would be fine to get a sterling engagement ring that you’ll wear for a year or two. but if you do plan on wearing it every day for more than a year, you might be better off getting something that is bezel set, or has thick prongs. I really don’t think a halo setting will hold up very well for longer than a few months because they tend to have really tiny delicate shared prongs.
my recommendation: go to etsy and type “sterling engagement ring” into the search bar. there will be so many gorgeous gemstone / silver rings to choose from.
you might even be able to email the designer and ask them if they think their ring could handle everyday wear. just be careful where you are looking. not all items on etsy are handmade, and basically if the item is really inexpensive, it might be very poor quality. I’ve bought a few things that looked nice in the picture but were super bad quality in real life (but I’m talking about really cheap stuff, like under $20).