Post # 1
I’m seeking some words of wisdom…
We’re thinking of setting up a honeyfund website for our gift registry.
The honeyfund was the best option we felt for us and our guests. We dont really want gifts but our family will wish to buy something but we also dont want to just ask for money. The honeyfund where people can select what their money contributes towards made the most sense.
Anyway, my concern isnt really the honeyfun its more the thank you’s.
I’d like to personalise them for example, say someone buys us tickets to a museum in Paris. We’d take a pic of us with the tickets at the museum and thank them and tell them what a nice time we had and all the great things we saw. My intention would be to share and thank them for making our trip special.
The problem is the honeymoon wont be for 4 months after the honeymoon.
5-6 months seems like a long time for a thank you card, or will people understand given it was for a honeymoon?
Any other suggestions of how to do it? I’ve thought of 2 thank you’s but it just seems too over the top.
Post # 3
I would send a hand written thank you once the gift is purchased, and then go ahead and do the picture thing you are doing! I don’t think anyone would mind being thanked twice, esp with a neat picture to go with it.
Post # 4
@Tellemonster: 5-6 months is way too long. Every etiquette expert says maximum 3 months.
If you insist on sending a photo of you with the gift, then you should send a second mailing.
Given that you aren’t actually registering for museum tickets, just cash I would just thank them for their donation and leave it at that.
Post # 5
We did the honeyfund route as well and sent pictures from the honeymoon along with the thank you cards but we honeymooned immediately. I would agree with pp that 5-6 months is way too long for a thank you to go out. I would just write how excited you are to use their generous gift for the musuem, blah blah blah. Still be very specific and make sure you mention exactly what it was they wanted you to use the money for.
Hope you have a great time!!!
Post # 6
@Tellemonster: send a traditional thank you right after the wedding and then send the photos later on as a second thank you (or maybe include it in your Christmas card)
Post # 7
To be honest, I would be annoyed that you waited 5 or 6 months for a thank you card to be sent. The personalization is nice and all, but to me, it doesn’t make up for the incredibly long time for the thank you card. Thank you cards should be written promptly, as soon as the gift is received. And to be more blunt, I honestly wouldn’t care for a photo of you holding tickets at a museum. No offense.
Post # 8
Thanks all, looks like two thank you’s it is!