Honeymoon 6mo later?!?!

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

We’re waiting to have our honeymoon as well. FI doesn’t get much time off for holidays and he’s using it to be free when we havewedding guests in town the week before and after our wedding. Plus we’re broke, so we’ll have ot have a honeymoon at some later date. I secretly fear that date will be NEVER. 🙁

Hopefully your FI’s parents will keep their word on paying for the honeymoon no matter when it is, but I wouldn’t count on it. 

Post # 4
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t expect FI’s parents to pay unless they offer. If they do that they will probably tell you the timeframe. 

Post # 7
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

(( HUGS )) to you… what a sad turn of events.

Here’s what I would do (I am an Encore Bride… and Older)

Having been married twice I will tell you that a Honeymoon, or in the very least a Mini Moon is very important… a real must do… that in my mind EVERY Couple should plan for.

The Wedding is important… but lets face outside of the few minutes where you say your Vows to one another… the Reception tends to be TOTALLY something that is done for the Benefit of Others…

The Honeymoon is ALL ABOUT THE BRIDE & GROOM

So I would argue it is the THE MOST IMPORTANT THING

(Infact this time round… Mr TTR & I both being Encores, decided to take an extended vacation, Elope to a favourite Destination in the middle… get Married… and then go on a Dream Honeymoon.  No Regrets, it was AWESOME)

In the very least you’ll want to run off together for a few days after the Wedding… more so if you have the Traditional BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding… cause that can be truly stressful in the week leading up to it, and YOU WILL BE EXHAUSTED

You need to spend some time pampering each other… and kick starting your life as Man & Wife away from the rest of the world… and especially away from the day-to-day routine of work, bill paying etc.

Even if it is just 2 Nights in a Hotel… so be it.

(I think most Employers are going to be understanding to that issue… marry on a Saturday, come back to work Tuesday for example.  Altho I wouldn’t discount them allowing you time off for your Dream Honeymoon after the Wedding… until you actually ask them)

Bora-Bora sounds FABULOUS

So YES you most certainly want to plan for that, even if it means rescheduling for a later date.

As for paying for it… If his Parents have offered (I assume they have).  They I am sure if you talk to them about “the conflict” with work they’ll still be understanding and pony up for the Honeymoon even if it is delayed.

The key thing is tho you have to square away what is REALLY Happening.  Work First… and then with his Parents.

Clearly you need to rely on that age old Wedding skill… COMMUNICATION… looks like you have a bunch of folks you have to have a chat with about your Wedding Plans.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 8
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ooooooh, just read your UPDATE.

Ooops indeed.

As one of The Hive’s resident “Etiquette Snobs… lol”, I can say that what you’ve done is make an inappropriate assumption.

Not sure where you got your Info, but it is SOMEWHAT inaccurate.

Traditionally the Groom alone (or the B&G in modern times) pay for the Honeymoon.

BUT as it is usually considered to be on the Groom’s List, sometimes his Parent’s will help out in regards to this expense

Here is a list of Traditional Expenses for the Groom side

The Groom / Grooms Family would pay for the following items:

* Bride’s Engagement & Wedding Rings

* Groom’s Gift to the Bride

* Groom’s Attire

* Groom’s Gifts to His Attendants

* Ties & Gloves for the Groom’s Attendants, if not part of the Clothing Rental… OR if the Groom wants something specific that would cost extra.

* Bride’s Bouquet (can differ by local custom**)

* Bride’s Going Away Corsage

* Bouts for the Groom’s Attendants

* Corsages for Immediate Family Members of both Families (can differ by local custom**)

* Officiant’s Fee and / or Church Donation

* Transportation & Lodging Expenses for the Officiant (if from out of town or invited to officiate by the Groom’s Family)

* Marriage License

* Transportation for Groom & Best Man to the Ceremony

* Expenses of the Honeymoon

* All Costs of the Rehearsal Dinner

* Accommodations for the Groom’s Attendants (Best Man, Groomsmen / Ushers)

* Bachelor Dinner for the Attendants (if the Groom wishes to have one)

* Transportation & Lodging Expenses of the Groom’s Family (if required)

** When it comes to Traditional Etiquette… Flowers sometimes are ALL picked up by the Bride’s side… as the Bride’s side is responsible for more of them overall (Church Decor – Reception Decor – Bridesmaids Bouquets).

 Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@graste:  We are not going on honeymoon until three months after our wedding because my FI works away so is only home for 7 days after our wedding. 

We are staying at the hotel where we are getting married on the wedding night. Then we are holing up at home on our own for te rest of the time he is home for and not seeing anyone lol.

I think having a gap before your honeymoon might help give you something to look forward to after the wedding (thats what I’m hoping for).

Post # 11
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36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Definitely take at least a night or two in a hotel to enjoy right after!!  We had our honeymoon 5 months after our wedding and we loved it!  

i think a bonus of waiting (that we didn’t even realize) is the fact that after spending all your time on planning the wedding and it’s over you have the next thing to look forward to!  It was great to keep up the excitement, planning, and healthy habits to be bikini body ready :). 

if you need any tips on Bora Bora let me know!  At minimum if you are a drinker, get your two bottles per person of wine, champagne or liquor at duty free in LAX.  So great for the convenience when you are enjoying your honeymoon villa and also saves some cash 🙂

Post # 12
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@graste:  I know that the honeymoon is traditionally immediately after the wedding, but who says you have to do it that way now?

I’d rather delay and have time to save up for a long and awesome trip far far away than take a short, cheap getaway somewhere nearby just for the sake of having a honeymoon straight after the wedding.

That’s actually what we’re doing. We’re getting married in April but probably not going anywhere until November/December – I don’t really know what’s happening as my fiance is planning it all… But I keep telling him not to worry if we can’t do it straight away.

Post # 13
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@graste:  I also want to add that our friends got married a few years ago, and they went on their honeymoon four days after – it was a 10 day break, but the day after they returned they both had to go back to work, as normal, which I think would suck! It’d be such a mood killer!

If you plan it around other holiday breaks (i.e. Christmas, or for me, the uni holidays which are in June/July), then at least you can still enjoy spending time together at home once you get back, instead of heading in to work the next day.

Post # 14
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh god-you really “expect” people to pay for your party/honeymoon? I’m kindof just shocked to meet one of your type….

 

As for a delayed honeymoon-it is what you make it, but especially since you’re already married and your wedding is just a for-show princess party anyway, I’m not sure why delaying it a few more months would matter at all.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow, I would never expect my in-laws to pay for my honeymoon! Then again, we paid for the whole wedding ourselves. We were married in June and went on our honeymoon in February. It made more sense to go away to a warm destination during the cold winter months than during the summer time. We did go away to a bed and breakfast a few hours from home immediately after the wedding but we only stayed a couple days.

 

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