Post # 1
Okay I know these are getting popular and I have heard several people who (as guests going to a wedding) really liked being able to contribute towards champagne in the room or a romantic dinner for the couples honeymoon. My MOH-my sister thinks this is a great idea for a couple like my FI and I, who are paying mostly for our wedding ourselves and could use extra money instead of registering for things we already have. My FI and I have lived together for 3 years and pretty much have everything we need in the kitchen/household, while I would like to upgrade a few things, our registry would just be a bunch of random stuff we really dont need.
But this being said, any honeymoon registry is just asking for money. Even when it says buy the couple champagne in their room or a snorkeling experience– It comes as cash.
As nice as it sounds and I would love to recieve mostly cash instead of gifts.. I find this SUPER tacky and like we are asking for money.
What do you guys think about these type of registries.. tacky? or are they becoming acceptable as a form of registry?
Post # 2
futuremrsJR: I think they’re tacky. If people want to give you cash, they’ll give you cash. No need to let on that it’s earmarked for a honeymoon.
Post # 3
It really depends on your guests. Some people feel better buying champagne or a snorkeling experience, and if that’s what you’ve put on there then you should definitely use it towards that.
You can always opt to not do ANY kind of registry, and people will likely just give you cash. There are some who may still get you a physical gift.
Post # 4
I personally think they’re tacky. If you want money, simply don’t register at all and your guests will get the hint.
Post # 5
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
I have no problem with this kind of thing personally. I’d feel better giving the couple something they actually want as opposed to a third blender they neither need nor want. Just ensure you don’t ask for a specific amount since some folks might feel embarrassed if they can’t offer a higher amount but still want to contribute with however much they have.
Post # 6
futuremrsJR: Just don’t register for gifts and people will most likely give you cash.
That said, we registered (but would have prefered cash) and out of 100 guests, only one gave us a gift (that wasn’t on the registry). Everyone else gave us cash.
Post # 7
futuremrsJR: To me, asking for money is tacky, I wish it wasn’t but it is. But then again, having a registry is just asking for gifts with a certain monetary value, so why is that viewed as less tacky. I don’t know. I wish it was more acceptable to ask for money, especially since people are much more established prior to getting married these days and don’t need as much “home” stuff. I would want money too. Plus, much of my family isn’t well off, so they tend to get gifts on sale and with coupons so their gift is “worth” more than what they actually they paid, so they don’t like giving cash. Even though I would rather have $5 than some ugly decoration from an oddlot store, it is what it is.
Post # 8
We just received an invitation with one of those awful ‘money poems’ in it. We know the couple have their own house and everything we need; we had always planned to give them cash, figuring they could put it towards a honeymoon/whatever else they need/want. I was never going to get them a toaster. I would imagine 99.9% of the other guests would have done the same. So the poem felt a little unnecessary, I guess. I think I’d have preferred something more to the point (I don’t have an objection to gift lists in invitations unlike many on here; it’s the mention of cash I’m less keen on and the implication that you must be a moron who might otherwise buy someone a toaster that irks me) eg ‘If you would like to get the bride and groom a gift, a contirbution towards their honeymoon wold be appreciated’.
But then, I’m a pretty direct person lol.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the responses!
I had thought about what If we only register for those few things that do need an upgrade, will people get the hint when there are only 10 things on our registry? I am not sure how to have a shower with no registry (I guess every shower I have been to is very traditional with EVERYONE bringing a tangeable gift).
OR – Just register for a bunch of stuff and return it?? I am looking for solutions to avoid people seeing an obvious attempt for cash barbie86: I would never put in an awful money peom! haha.
Post # 10
I don’t care for soliciting money. If someone wants to give you money, they will.
Post # 11
futuremrsJR: if you are planning to have a shower and only want to put 10 things on your registry, you have to limit your guest list to under 10 people. Again, if you want money, don’t have a registry, which in turn means no shower.
I don’t think registering for stuff and returning it is a good idea. I would be pretty upset if I learned a friend did that.
Post # 12
We struggled with this, and we ended up doing both. We registered for upgrades/things we needed, and also made a honeymoon that consisted of extra upgrades/packages/experiances/dining.
Ironically enough, the only things that have been purchased have been from the honeymoon fund – I think it’s really just convienant for people who are super far away.