Honeymoon and Cash registries?!

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

futuremrsJR:  I think they’re tacky. If people want to give you cash, they’ll give you cash. No need to let on that it’s earmarked for a honeymoon.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It really depends on your guests. Some people feel better buying champagne or a snorkeling experience, and if that’s what you’ve put on there then you should definitely use it towards that.

You can always opt to not do ANY kind of registry, and people will likely just give you cash. There are some who may still get you a physical gift.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I personally think they’re tacky.  If you want money, simply don’t register at all and your guests will get the hint. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I have no problem with this kind of thing personally. I’d feel better giving the couple something they actually want as opposed to a third blender they neither need nor want. Just ensure you don’t ask for a specific amount since some folks might feel embarrassed if they can’t offer a higher amount but still want to contribute with however much they have.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

futuremrsJR:  Just don’t register for gifts and people will most likely give you cash.

That said, we registered (but would have prefered cash) and out of 100 guests, only one gave us a gift (that wasn’t on the registry). Everyone else gave us cash. 

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

futuremrsJR:  To me, asking for money is tacky, I wish it wasn’t but it is. But then again, having a registry is just asking for gifts with a certain monetary value, so why is that viewed as less tacky. I don’t know. I wish it was more acceptable to ask for money, especially since people are much more established prior to getting married these days and don’t need as much “home” stuff. I would want money too. Plus, much of my family isn’t well off, so they tend to get gifts on sale and with coupons so their gift is “worth” more than what they actually they paid, so they don’t like giving cash. Even though I would rather have $5 than some ugly decoration from an oddlot store, it is what it is.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

futuremrsJR:  Tacky.

We just received an invitation with one of those awful ‘money poems’ in it. We know the couple have their own house and everything we need; we had always planned to give them cash, figuring they could put it towards a honeymoon/whatever else they need/want. I was never going to get them a toaster. I would imagine 99.9% of the other guests would have done the same. So the poem felt a little unnecessary, I guess. I think I’d have preferred something more to the point (I don’t have an objection to gift lists in invitations unlike many on here; it’s the mention of cash I’m less keen on and the implication that you must be a moron who might otherwise buy someone a toaster that irks me) eg ‘If you would like to get the bride and groom a gift, a contirbution towards their honeymoon wold be appreciated’.

But then, I’m a pretty direct person lol.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t care for soliciting money. If someone wants to give you money, they will.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

futuremrsJR:  if you are planning to have a shower and only want to put 10 things on your registry, you have to limit your guest list to under 10 people.  Again, if you want money, don’t have a registry, which in turn means no shower. 

I don’t think registering for stuff and returning it is a good idea.  I would be pretty upset if I learned a friend did that.

Post # 12
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We struggled with this, and we ended up doing both. We registered for upgrades/things we needed, and also made a honeymoon that consisted of extra upgrades/packages/experiances/dining.

Ironically enough, the only things that have been purchased have been from the honeymoon fund – I think it’s really just convienant for people who are super far away.

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