Post # 1
Oh Wise Bees, I need your advice:
Currently I’m underemployed. We recently moved from Washington, DC to Michigan so that FI could go to grad school at night and I could be closer to family. He was the first one to get a job in his field, and I got one that paid the bills but that I don’t plan to be at long term or by the time we get married.
That being said I want to book our honeymoon in January. A couple places I have my eye on allow early bird discounts at that time. However, I may not be in a ‘long term’ job by then. Assuming the honeymoon is less than 10 days long (Monday-Wednesday of the following week, probably will end up being 7-8 days) is it okay to book the honeymoon before taking a job?
Post # 3
@beeintraining: You can always tell a new employer about the wedding and the honeymoon AFTER you have been offered the job. I would not mention it until you are offered a job, nor would I put the rest of your life on hold until you get the job you are hoping for. That day may not come for awhile.
Post # 4
Book it now, figure out how to work around it later! I have friends in the job market in Michigan… It’s not pretty out there! So good luck!
Post # 5
Book it now. Don’t put your life on hold for work, that’s not a work life balance! Honestly, if a prospective employer has a problem with plans you’ve already made, that may not be a good place to work.
Post # 6
I had this same dilemma – I opted to wait to book until my job was confirmed. I wasn’t willing to risk my dream job for a vacation I could take another time.
Sorry if this isn’t the answer you’re looking for!
Post # 7
I was in the same position, and booked everything with the plan to tell my employer after the job offer about the wedding and the trip.
I didn’t actually get a job offer for another 7 months though, so it wasn’t ever an issue. So glad we went ahead and booked it, and didn’t put my life on a hold for a job that didn’t even exist yet.
Post # 8
@julies1949: Ugh, I did this and then my boss fired me the week I got back from my honeymoon. She never told me that she was pissed I didn’t bring it up in the interview!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@beeintraining: Just use it as your bargaining chip for when you accept a job. Plenty of people do that, nothing wrong with that. I’ve done it plenty of times: I’m just letting you know that ___ has been planned for quite a while so I’m going to need _ time off at _ time.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for your input! I think I’m going to go ahead and just book it, I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t doing something egregious.
@RunnerBride13: That’s the most horrible thing I’ve ever heard.
Post # 11
@RunnerBride13: Oh well, It’s probably not a place you want to work anyhow if they treat people like that.
Post # 12
When I graduated from grad school I expected it to take me a while to find a job. So I booked a 2 week trip to Thailand with my, then, boyfriend. But then I got a job interview very quickly. I told them that I alreayd had this trip planned, but that I could take the time as unpaid leave and it wasn’t a problem at all!
Post # 13
I say book it. When you start interviewing, just let people know you’re getting married and these are the days of the already booked honeymoon. Most people will be understanding of that. I’ve had a few jobs where I’ve gone in after vacations were already planned, I was always upfront and honest about it and I never once was told i couldn’t go or they wouldn’t hire based on that.
Post # 14
Just mention it when they ask when you can start, especially as that date gets closer.
“I could start right after Christmas, but I have a trip already booked for the second week of Jan, so maybe it’d work best to just start after that.”
If you have an interview next week, mention it during the second interview or when they ask about availability. Be upfront, but that’s not something you need to bring up in the 1st interview. Reasonable people could work it out, so you don’t need to have your vacation as your #1 concern (to them) at your interview. At the second one you can ask “When do you need someone to start? And I just want to make sure it wouldn’t be a problem that I’ll be gone this week and a half – obviously I’d take it unpaid but I already booked the trip.”
Post # 15
We booked our honeymoon for January, and I don’t even think it’s refundable (not significantly anyway). I’m in the middle of applying for new jobs. I’ll worry about it if I have to, but I’m not at that point yet.