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So, we were just talking to a friend who recently came back from her honeymoon and she had mentioned how she wished she would have just waited for a little while before they left. They went on their honeymoon the day after the wedding. She said that she still didn't feel decompressed from all of the crazy events of the wedding and planning and everything else (she had a REALLY small informal wedding).
She mentioned that we should consider taking a week to just go back to normal after the wedding and THEN go on the honeymoon....She said she would have been able to enjoy more of the honeymoon if she wasn't so worried about the gifts getting to the right place, the Thank Yous that still needed to be sent, the cleanup of everything (including their house) and a lot of other things. She still had a blast, but I think she has some regrets for not getting things settled before leaving.
What are you bees doing? Are you jumping headfirst into the honeymoon or are you waiting?
If you've already been on your fantabulous honeymoon, do you have any tips on WHEN after the wedding to go? A day? Two days? A week? Whenever?
Thanks for the advice as usual!
We left 4 days after our wedding and I'm SO glad we did. It meant that pre-wedding I didn't have the stress in the last week of also having to pack bags for the honeymoon and it then post-wedding we were able to have a couple really good comfort meals and just come down to earth a little bit before we went off on our trip. We also flew for 36 hours (to Australia) so having the break between the madness of the wedding and then the madness that was just getting to our honeymoon was really nice - especially because DH isn't as experienced a flier as I am. I'd definitely recommend it.
We are leaving a few hours after the wedding (plane leaves at 5:30 am). We kinda have no choice because it will cost more if we waited, FH can't get too much more time off from work, and the semester will be starting for me again. Our parents are going to help us out with getting the gifts back to the correct location after the wedding so that helps me ease my mind.
We couldn't go on a honeymoon because we didn't have enough vacation time... the DH had to get back to work, so hopefully we can go on one next year sometime.
:'(
I am giving us a one-day buffer to see some OOT friends, open our gifts, snuggle our cats...and last minute packing, but then we are off for 8 days in paradise!
We're waiting to even plan, we got married last weekend and now we're going to start thinking about it and planning it in the next month or so. We're doing a mini-moon in the states, but the big "honeymoon" is for later at an unknown spot at this point!
we'll probably be going on our actual honeymoon 6-8 months after the wedding, for a couple reasons. one, we both would like to take off most of the week before the wedding to relax and get everything done without being super crazy, but that would be difficult with work if we then took the next 2 weeks off for our honeymoon. our jobs are pretty flexible but 3 weeks is pushing it, especially since it's FI's busy season at work. we could go 2-4 weeks after the honeymoon, but by then the weather at our hopeful honeymoon destination will not be as warm as i'd like. as of now the plan is to do a 3-4 day minimoon somewhere withinin a 3 hour radius of our wedding location or our home, and then do the big honeymoon abroad the next spring/early summer. my good friend did this and they were very happy with that decision, it gave them something to look forward to during the post-wedding blues.
I was glad we left immediately because I wanted to get away from worrying about the cleanup, the gifts, the thank-you notes, etc. No trouble decompressing for us, it was just what we needed after the wedding - just the two of us, nobody else at all.
I was lucky enough to have a 2-part honeymoon.
We went to Whistler & Vancouver on the Monday following our Saturday wedding. We had a big open house/bbq at our place on Sunday. We partied late into the evening so I didn't get around to packing until EARLY Monday morning. But we got it done.
I will say this...crazy as it was to get packed and make it on a honeymoon almost immediately after the wedding it was sooooooo worth it. There's no substitute for that *JUST* married feeling. We spent the whole week all schmoopy and calling each other "husband" and "wifey." It was really fun to talk about the wedding. We were giddy and smiley and drunk on the effects of the wedding emotions.
We just went on part 2 of the honeymoon...6 months later. To Maui. And while it was amazingly beauitful, we don't feel *just married* anymore. So it was very different.
I highly recommend going right after if you can swing it. Prolong that high before getting back to reality...
we're going on a cruise and while we could have left the next day, we waited a week to make sure that we had plenty of time to travel to florida and get to the port because the ships won't wait for anybody (unless you book a flight through them, which we didn't do). so a week we'll wait! that way we can open gifts, cash checks, work a few days, relax, pack with ease and maybe shop for new honeymoon clothes! i also think it will help to draw out the wedding.
We're leaving almost 11 months after our wedding. lol We really didn't have a choice. A) My DH had to report back to duty less than a week after the wedding and B) We had no funds available for the honeymoon. I'm obviously glad we waited (even if we could have gone) because now I get to enjoy my wedding knowing that my DH gets to come home with me (and not go back to the Army) and we can afford a pretty sweet honeymoon down in the Bahamas for 8 days!!!!
We were pretty lucky to take a mini-moon in the city we were married in. My awesome co-workers got us 2 nights at the Ritz, so we definitely felt pampered!
We got married Sat, left Monday around 9 AM. I loved that because gave me a day to do laundry and pack and rest vs. having to worry about packing AND the wedding a few days before. That way, you're not stressing about being ready for both. Also, a lot of flights are early morning and you won't want to wake up early after the wedding night.
i voted asap, but it wasn't quite that--we got married Saturday and left Monday morning. it was pretty perfect, though I guess we could have waited another day. we were exhausted the day after--we also had a day-after brunch, so we spent that afternoon/evening napping and taking care of errands. it was plenty of time to take care of what we needed to do post-wedding and spend more time relaxing with our families. but, we had a long day traveling to our honeymoon and i ended up getting sick the first night, partially because i hadn't eaten well the day we travelled, and maybe also because i just had had so much adrenaline that my body was crashing...but i was totally normal and LOVING every minute of our honeymoon the next day :)
we waited a week before we went on the honeymoon. we were exhausted after the saturday night reception and im way too OCD to leave gifts/cash/ty card list waiting for me to come back to after the honeymoon. i also had class that i couldnt miss, so it worked out. we went back to work/school for five days and then got to relax without a thing on our minds but to enjoy the honeymoon for 8 days straight! :) LOVED every minute and i would do it like that over again for sure. good luck with hm planning!
We're talking about doing a delayed honeymoon by a couple of months. The plans started that way because of work conflicts, but now we're realizing it will be nice not to have to worry about planning and having everything ready for a big trip right before the wedding.
We have 2 nights in a lazy inn nearby before we head to NYC for 5 days.
we are leaving one week after our wedding. We're both too anal retentive to leave asap after our special day; need time after wedding to decompress somewhat and tie up loose ends at work that week in between...
Ideally, I would've left on Monday instead of Sunday. Then I would've been able to go to the brunch the day after and clean out my hotel room myself...(still missing my RD dress).
But it was really nice decompressing ON the honeymoon. I made sure that we had very few plans at the beginning - the veg out by the pool part. It was also nice that other people were dealing with the presents and guests and that I didn't have to.
BUT...packing before the wedding was torture. Although, packing is always torture for me. I set aside all of Thursday for it, but I was going completely insane.
We are doing a semi-destination wedding in the Florida Keys, which is a two- to three-hour drive for most of our guests. Because we're planning a whole weekend of activities with our guests, I had enough on my plate without adding honeymoon logistics (and expense!) to the list. So we're going to do a mini-moon at a nearby hotel for a couple of nights after the wedding, and then we'll plan a real honeymoon 5-6 months afterwards. I agree with @pb and j that it will give us something to plan and look forward to after the wedding.
We waited 2.5 weeks. I wanted some down time after the wedding where I'm not planning anything, not even packing a suitcase.
We waited a day. It was perfect because it gave us time to come home and pack and then we left the next morning!
We got married Sat and left late Sunday. It was pretty great... we had time to open presents w/ our family, have lunch, finish packing but not get back into any RL stuff. I think it was perfect (for us).
Our plan at present is for a three night stay somewhere nice, maybe down in Kerry, the day after the wedding. Then, because of college commitments, (me) and film commitments, (him) we'll be heading cross the pond for a three week CA adventure at the beginning of June. To be honest, I'm kind of happy we have a good reason to wait a few weeks - the Thank You notes will be long gone by the time we fly away, and the idea of doing that much packing in wedding week brings me out in a rash! But there is a huge appeal to the idea of dropping everything and just gettin' the hell outta town ASAP...
We are leaving the day after the wedding. We plan on spending our wedding night in a nice hotel and then the next morning wakeup and head off towards Hawaii.
I don't have the time to take off right after the wedding (and as a special ed teacher with students who are prone to chair throwing tantrums, I didn't want to leave my assistant with a sub for a whole week). So we're going on a "mini-moon" up to the mountains for a few days after the wedding, then taking my week of Spring Break for the "real" honeymoon to Sedona, AZ.
I think it's going to be perfect. We'll get a little bit of time to get away right after the wedding, but without the stress of flying across the country and having a weeks worth of stuff packed along with getting the wedding stuff done.
We left the Thursday after our wedding. I'm SO glad we had a few days to sort out things at the bank, clear up any unresolved issues with vendors, relax, eat leftovers, pack, etc. In fact, we probably could have waited another day or two and used those days well too!!!
We got married on a Saturday and left on Monday. It was pretty good, but it would've been nice to leave on Tuesday because we had to drive back to Mass from Connecticut (which took 4 hours because we had to drop off a bridesmaid...ugh, long story) and then we stopped by my parent's house to get gifts/cards/decorations etc. We stayed up til 1am doing laundry and packing, slept for four hours, then left. We came home to a very very messy apartment! Luckily we caught up sleep and relaxation in Jamaica!
I'm not sure when we'll be able to have a honeymoon, but it'll probably be a long time after the wedding!
We left immediately from the wedding and for us, that was perfect! I wouldn't have wanted it any other way! We got married on a Saturday and that night, stayed at a hotel in the city. The next day, we went on a cruise that departed from our city so we took a short taxi ride to the port.
I loved that we had a beautiful wedding day and went immediately into relaxing and spending time together! We had talked about spending the wedding night at home before we left for the crusie the next day. But, I knew if I went to our house i would get caught up in things to do and all kinds of stuff. I'm glad our vacation started immediately!
There are two things to note that made our scenario work: My parents live in another state and stayed at our house after the wedding before driving home the next day. I knew that my detail oriented mother would make sure all the presents got to the house, any messes that were made the morning of the wedding were cleaned up, the house was properly prepped for our week away (doors locked, alarm on, thermostat turned down, etc, etc.) Knowing that she was taking care of those details freed me not to worry about them.
I planned to take two days off of work upon returning from the honeymoon. I was able to relax knowing that when we got home I would have time to unpack, open & put away our wedding presents, put away items from the wedding, take care of legalities (name change, marriage license, etc, etc.).
I think different scenarios work best for different couples. Think about yourself and what sounds most desirable to you and your FI and go for it!
We'll be leaving a month after the wedding due to Mr. E's spring semester finals.
We went on a short little mino moon right after for three days (a day after the wedding) but we arent taking our actual honeymoon until a year later for our one year anniversary. We are going to England for one week and Greece for two!
We are getting married in Sept so we are doing a small trip right after. About 2 hours from home camping fishing hiking. Then we are doing a 9 day trip in Jan or Feb either bahamas or colorado.
We're cheating and doing two honeymoons. One directly after the wedding and one a few months later. We're doing this because we're having a destination wedding in Mexico. Our family and friends will stay with us one week and we'll be staying an extra "honeymoon" week since we'll already be down there. FI really wants to do an "actual" honeymoon though, so we'll be saving up to do that about 4-5 months after our destination wedding in order for us to be able to afford somewhere like Thailand or Europe for a few weeks.
My husband is in the military and he only got 3 days off total for the wedding. So we spent the night of the wedding at a hotel, and he left the next day =(
We are planning a 1 year anniversary trip to New York though, which we are VERY excited about!
Due to husband’s work schedule (and mine too), we are taking 4-5 mini-moons throughout this year, and a big “honeymoon” next summer. We were married on a Saturday, both took the following Monday off work and both went back to work on Tuesday.
Honestly, after a solid week of entertaining both sides of the family, and friends, and hosting a co-bachelor/bachelorette dinner, a rehearsal dinner, a wedding and a big morning after brunch and then small lunch and activities with friends – I would not have wanted to go right away on a honeymoon. We were freaking TIRED! LOL
It was nice to sleep in Monday, get up and make coffee, go back to bed and open all the cards and gifts and facebook/etc. messages, then take a nap and just lounge around. It was also *really* nice to clean the house and banish all the wedding crap and crafts to the guest room and have a house that looked normal again.
I totally get the impulse to get away right after the wedding, and always assumed we would do that – but for us personally, it would have been sort of a waste of a vacation as we were so tired out after the wedding weekend and just wanted to hide out a bit with each other and no one else.
We are having a semi-destination wedding so we will have to take at least 1 week off for the wedding.
We will do a "mini-moon" on our drive back down from Maine to NYC. Maybe a few nights at cute bed & breakfasts along the way.
Then after the first of the year, we will go on a 2 week or so honeymoon. Neither of us have enough vacation days to do our destination wedding and two week honeymoon in the same year.
Plus, I'm sure we'll be exhausted post wedding and I don't want to spend half the honeymoon trying to catch up on sleep!
Our wedding was on a Sunday, we left early Tuesday morning. It was perfect! We had a whole day to unwind/relax/pack and it made it easier for me to sleep on the plane. I loved the feeling of "just getting married" and being together somewhere scenic and warm to getting used to the thought of being man and wife together. Perfect!
We are waiting a bit for our honeymoon, for all the reasons you mentioned, plus our wedding is taking place out of the state where we live. Travelling to the wedding location then taking off for the honeymoon in the same weekend just seems like too much. The good news is that it really opened us up for deals. When we could look at packages that took off any time within the month after we are getting married, as opposed to only things leaving the day after the wedding, it opened up some good options.
We leave about 24 hours after the wedding ceremony... I'm glad we got an afternoon flight, no rushing the morning after the wedding!
We are waiting 8 days to go on ours. FI has to work the week after our wedding so we're leaving the next Monday. I'm glad we'll have a little time to decompress/clean our house/open gifts/maybe write thank you notes. But 8 days is kind of too long to take the whole time off between wedding and honeymoon for me, so I'm not thrilled that I'll have like 3-4 days at work between. Ideally I'd love to have like 4 days between.
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