Honeymoon Complications – What would you do??

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@TroubadourTango:  Would you guys want to do a short Honeymoon now and then take the longer Honeymoon sometime next spring or fall? It’s not ideal, but it will keep him on his Boss’ good side and allow you guys to have a little vacation after the wedding.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TroubadourTango:  Have the wedding as scheduled and wait and see how the job issue turns out. Why waste all this negative energy when he may be able to go as planned?

 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Sucky situation! I second the idea of doing a mini getaway right after the wedding and then doing a bigger trip in the spring.

 

It is unfortunate but the job should probably come first, right?

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@TroubadourTango:  Then change your attitude about it. Instead of being upset that you get a little trip after the wedding, tell yourself that you’re lucky because you guys get TWO trips! Not only that, but you’ll have something to look forward to in a few months once everything calms down. You’ll really be able to enjoy and fully experience Europe without constantly worrying about how it will impact his new job.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would plan your long honeymoon for after the work event. If you think of it this way, you get to look forward to your wedding and a small get away and THEN you get to look forward to ANOTHER big event – your long honeymoon!

Post # 9
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@TroubadourTango:  Well it seems that it is pretty important for him to be at this event so have your wedding and delay the honeymoon a couple weeks. Couples do this all the time and it really isn’t a huge issue. The trip is just as meaningful after a short delay.

Think of it this way, in delaying your honeymoon you get to rest, relax and recoop after the wedding (which I guarantee you will need) and your DH gets to participate in something that will aide in his success. Then after a great wedding, wonderful rest period and successful business venture the two of you get to celebrate all these things with a great trip. Sounds like a win-win to me!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Or you could save the long vacation for yor one year anniversary.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If the date for the even is set already, he needs to figure out if he needs time to prep and exactly how much time you have.  Ifyou have a week, that’s still plenty.  Where are you flying from?  What about a week long vacation in the Carribean?  Or if you’re on the east coast, you can do Ireland, or Paris/London in a week, or Spain. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LoggerHead91207:  +1

Instead of being upset about it, change the way you think about it. To me, this is a no brainer – I would do something short for a few days right after the wedding (minimoon) and then plan a really awesome spring vacation as the actual honeymoon. It sucks, but his job is more important than a honeymoon.

I wouldn’t risk him missing out on an important annual event at a new job, even if his boss says it’s ok and he can set everyone up and not actually be there. The honeymoon isn’t booked and can be moved and him keeping his job and remaining in good graces with his boss are way more important than going immediately after your wedding on a honeymoon. I actually don’t know anyone who has done this – everyone has waited a few months to allow things to calm down and to have more than 1 thing to look forward to.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our “honeymoon” will probably be a one year anniversary trip because of scheduling at work.  It’s not big deal, it’s still your first big trip as a married couple even if it isn’t immediately after your wedding.  If you are worried about November being too cold, what about spring?  Is there a B&B near by you could go to for a few days after the wedding if you are set on a get away right after the wedding?

Post # 14
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

Do a mini-moon after the wedding and do a bigger honeymoon when it’s more convenient.  My FI and I have had similar issues with scheduling, and we chose to delay our honeymoon until December (3 months after the wedding).  This year is really important for FI’s career, and it would set him back massively at work to take 2-3 weeks off right after the wedding.  It’s much easier for us to take time off in December when most people are out of the office for the holidays anyway.  At first, I was a little upset that I couldn’t do the traditional honeymoon immediately after the wedding, so I totally know where you’re coming from.  But, I took it as a blessing in disguise because we now have better pick of hotels, flights, and we have an excuse to not see our families over the holidays.  Also, it’s going to be way more relaxing for us to do a honeymoon with no work stuff lingering over our heads 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why not just postpone your honeymoon until the spring when it’s warm? We got married in September but couldn’t go on our honeymoon right away because my husband got a movie. We went in January. It was fabulous. We did take a mini-moon before the wedding as well, it was like having two honeymoons!

Post # 16
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Newbee

We’re in a similar situation with our honeymoon.  FH and I will be graduating from college in May.  Then he will be starting a new job in June, only 2 months before our wedding.  Since he is already having to take off a few days for the wedding, we decided to put off the honeymoon for a few months when he can take more time off from work.  I was a little bummed at first, but know that it will be well worth it when the big trip comes.   Plus, now we get 2 trips instead!   

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