Post # 1
So FI and I are in somewhat of a tight spot. We are getting married in August of this year. So we have already decided that we will not be going on a tropical honeymoon until winter time because we know we will want to escape the cold by then! So, the week after the wedding we are going to go on a “mini-moon” to Chicago for 4 days.
Our plan was to go to Cayo Santa Maria, Cuba sometime in december and there are a few gorgeous resorts there that we would choose from. All of these would fall around $1000-1200 for each of us.
Where the dilemma comes in is that we have friends of ours getting married in January 2015 (so about a month after we were planning to go to Cuba) and they are having a DW in Runaway Bay Jamaica. The price to go for the week for their wedding is $1700 per person. While we are “good” friends with the groom, we aren’t quite as close as we used to be. And to be honest, neither me or my FI really love his fiancee. Most of our closest friends will be there and it sounds like it is going to be a really fun time.
I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to miss out on all the fun that all of our friends are going to have on this trip and I would like to visit Jamaica. But, FI and I wouldn’t get to go on the honeymoon we (I) have always wanted/picture with just the 2 of us. And I am struggling to justify spending almost twice as much on a trip if we were to go to Jamiaca for the DW.
What would YOU do????
Post # 3
@Bri1o: You could plan to attend the DW in Jamaica but overlap the dates so that you have a few days by yourselves and a few days with the group.
Post # 4
I’d just take your vacation to Jamaica instead. I loved Jamaica and since you’ll already be married for awhile I’d just go have fun with your friends. It’s not like you’d be sharing rooms with them anyways.
Post # 5
Go to Jamaica. Spend a few days at the resort with your friends and a few days at a different resort. Best of both worlds!
Post # 6
@julies1949: Hmm this could be a possibility! Maybe something we will have to look into..
@CityBearBride: Interesting idea. Although I think I would rather just stay at one place..I’d rather only unpack/get settled once 🙂
Post # 7
@Bri1o: depends on why Cuba was your dream honeymoon destination. If it’s because you got engaged there or you always dreamt of naming your kid Santa maya or whatever the name was, do it 😉
but otherwise I think Jamaica May be just as nice and if you split it up, you can still have your honeymoon of just the two of you plus the wedding. especially with all your friends there, you’ll probably be sad once January comes that you didn’t go.
Also if you wanna avoid bumping into everyone during the honeymoon part, packing your stuff and moving to another resort really doesn’t seem like such a big hassle. But then we love to experience different sides of the country when we travel and are usually not longer in the same location than three days, so I really don’t see any issue with packing up lol.
Post # 8
@Bri1o: I would skip the wedding and make it about u two, not another couple.
Post # 9
@julies1949: +1 not to mention Cuba will always be there. Maybe you guys could go as an anniversary trip.
Post # 10
@Bri1o: If it was me, I would be going on honeymoon as I pictured with my FI (DH), and I would decline to attend the DW even though all my friends would be going. Yes, they’ll have fun no doubt – but it’s not a friends trip to Jamaica, it’s a DW wedding and you don’t even like 1 out of the 2 people getting married. I’d skip it.
Post # 11
I’d go on the Jamaica trip but Id try to work it so I had a few days either before or after where it’s just the two of us. For example, if everyone is going friday-friday maybe you and your FI could go the Sunday before – until the Sunday after the wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
@Bri1o: I would probably keep my honeymoon – BUT I would make sure your response to the friends is that you had already planned your honeymoon before you knew about Jamaica!
Post # 14
I think going on a vacation with your closest friends would be fun! How many other times will you have that opportunity?
Post # 15
If you always wanted to go to Jamaica why don’t you go there just the two of you in December?
Either way, I’d want to go just the two of us….you’ll still be newlyweds, and those group trips turn into spending a lot of time doing what other people want to do vs what you two want (especially if it’s a wedding…it’s likely they’ll plan stuff for ppl to do). I’d rather have the time with my new husband alone.