- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
We’re having two weddings. Two full fledged very different weddings, one in the US and other here in Costa Rica. I know many bees hate this but we want to share it with all the people important to us and sacrificing one group over the other isn’t an option. I’m explaining because there are reasons we can’t mix both.
The main reason for two wedding is FI grandparents, they are the most amazing, loving incredible people I have ever met, and needless to say they are fundamental in my FI life. His grandpa is a minister and we want him to marry us, unfortunately they are very old (90) and can’t travel due to health problems. We also have several friends who live in the US and may not be able to afford coming down here for the big party, so we’re having a religious ceremony in the US in june, it will be a very DIY ordeal, either a backyard BBQ or a restaurant reception.
Since it’s a pain to transfer paperwork between countries we’ll be getting married legally here in december with a bigish black tie wedding and the whole nine yards. We also still want to feel like it’s a wedding and not a hoax. It’s in december for several reasons, mainly that FI is moving back here in May and we’re hoping that by december he’ll have a stable job and I’ll be one year away from finishing med school, only missing my interrnship. Our friends and family are split about half and half and unfortunately many may not be able to travel due to money, that’s why we aren’t having a destination wedding in the US.
Here is where the honeymoon problems come into place:
If we go in december We would have two weeks maybe, I start internship January 1st and FI might get time off or might not depending on where he’s working at, especially since he would be the new guy. We have a lot of friends and family flying in and seeing them for three days and then leaving feels like a waste when we probably won’t see them for a long time. We want to go somewhere exotic or far away at least (ie not Carribean) and the jet lag wouldn’t be worth it for ten days I think. If we go in june we will go to the beach for a couple of days after friends and family have left though to still relax from the wedding.
If we go in june: We would have a month and some days, I’d be in vacation and FI wouldn’t look for a job just yet, instead he’d be freshening up his med knowledge since he would’ve been out of the field for two years by the time that came around. It would be summer in most parts of the world which opens many destinations (me and snow do NOT mix) that aren’t available in december. Problem is, we wouldnt be technically married, I mean religiously yes, and for both of us that’s the most important part, but there’s a slight smack of annoyance when I think we wouldnt be technically married (Type A/OCD anyone?). Should this bother me enough to not go in june?
Anyone else had something similar happen to them?