- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
This kind of seems like a strange place to as for advice, but I’m sure many of you had to make some significant compromises with your soon to be spouses through the delightful process of weddiing planning….so maybe it’s a good place after all.
My situation (I’m the guy, if it makes any difference): My soon to be bride and I are scheduled to be married next summer. I can’t say that I really care about any of the details, big or small, so long as there’s a modest ceremony that results in marriage. However, my fiance is dead set on a large, expensive, and so well planned wedding that the prep work likely rivals what went into taking down Bin Ladin. That is she is massively invested in every detail but the cerimonial trip after the wedding.
My fiance is just finishing up a doctoral program that has demanded considerable amounts of her time the last few years. Before we had met, she made plans to take a legnthy walk around Europe with one of her friends as a graduation present to herself. Graduation is scheduled for one month before our wedding, and life circumstances make a honeymoon after the wedding impossible. As of today, the graduation trip is still on, and there are no plans of a honeymoon.
I can’t say that I’ve every dreamed or planned for a honeymoon, I am of the male variety, but I never even had the option it seems. To me, everything but the ceremony itself is a compromise to make my fiance happy, and the honeymoon is one of few things I think I would enjoy. Money is not an issue; my parents generously offered to pay for a trip that could take us anywhere for quite some time.
What I’m looking for: Opinions on what’s a reasonable compromise…this feels like a lot to ask to me. I don’t want to squash my fiances established plans, but I also feel like I’m along for the ride on this whole wedding thing, much of which is me making a compromise for her. If anyone else has came across a similiar issue with their significant other that required a large comprimise in the wedding planning process, I wouldn’t mind hearing about that either. Thanks.