Post # 1
Do you believe in a "honeymoon period"?
I guess it’s the idea that sometime after a honeymoon-like period, the intense love will eventually wear off… and it’s up to the couple to find another more "mature" love to last through the years.
Or can a couple stay in the honeymoon period forever?
Post # 3
At least by studying brain reactions of those in new love vs. those together for many years, the "honeymoon period" idea holds true in most cases. BUT I recently saw a study where some couples together for 20, 30 years still exhibited the same reactions when thinking about their significant other that others do within that supposed honeymoon period.
I think the love of the first few years is different from the love found decades later, but that doesn’t make the love any less "true".
Post # 4
How long do they say the typical "honeymoon period" lasts?
Post # 6
I would say that yes a honeymoon period exists, however, I wouldn’t consider the "love" to wear off. I think people get more comfortable in their roles as husband and wife and aren’t as loop-de-loop head over heels kind of love anymore.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t say love wears off, but I would definately say it changes to a more mature love. I also really don’t think the honeymoon period lasts for about 2 years…I would like to meet those couples!
Post # 8
Isn’t it the seven year itch?
I don’t think love should be confused with lust; i.e. that crazy can’t keep my hands off you when are we going home wink wink feeling. The honeymoon period is like that time when you can make concessions with your FIs faults and not be annoyed. Then it’s over and BAM! Arguments! But some people never get there. Some people get there, get over it, and fall in love all over again. I guess I just believe in love.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
We had our honeymoon period years before we were married, I think! It does wear off. I feel like it felt like a "high"… and now it just feels like a comforting, everyday thing.
Post # 10
I do think there is a honeymoon period for some, but I don’t think the love ends at that point.
My husband and I have been together four years and lived together for 2.5 years of it. So when we got married nothing seemed to change for me. Is that bad? I don’t think so. I guess we had our honeymoon period after we moved in together.
I think it is new & exciting for couples who have not lived together and all of a sudden their spouse is around all the time.
Are things as exciting as they used to be? No, but our love is stronger then when we were "head over heals in love".
Post # 11
Everything depends on the couple!
Post # 12
I don’t think the honeymoon period can possibly last. That initial rush of lust and love and ohhhh he so fine!! is fun for a while. But if you don’t build a relationship together based on friendship, common goals, and interests, you don’t have anything left after that rush fades away. Real love is in the ugly moments of life, not just the good parts. 🙂 I don’t love my FI the way I did when I was 18, now 8 years later I love him in a richer, deeper, more beautiful way because we’ve grown together as people.
Post # 13
I was a psych minor in college and I remember studying the phases of a long term relationship. Initially there’s the high which is supposed to last about 3 years, then comes the nesting phase which lasts about 10 years and then there’s the mature love that comes as the children are older.
I may be off on some of it, but I believe 100 percent that love can last a lifetime. Right now T and I are supposed to be in the "holy cow you’re the best thing since sliced bread" honeymoon phase. And we are. We’ve been together almost 15 mos and going stronger than ever. But we are also comfortable together and there is so much love it’s amazing. I still get the butterfly-giddy feeling, but also a comfortable, safe feeling with him also.
As a mom, I can tell you it’s important to always connect with your partner as you raise children later on. I was a single mom and know how sometimes challenging being a parent can be, but this job is the job you’ll love the most if you two are wanting children. Just don’t lose sight of what brought you together over the years.
My grandparents will be married SEVENTY years this August. And they still hold hands.