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It totally depends on what you can afford (without debt IMO). If you can afford this then go for it. Personally I don't splurge on things like hotels, since I barely spend any time there, I book nice but cheaper.
DH and I are fully on the same page about all things financial, and this includes vacations.
I caution all people to not think of the Honeymoon as something other then what it is, which is a vacation. It's just one of hopefully many trips you will take as a married couple.
Personally, I would never fly first-class unless I was seriously rich. As someone who has had 11 hour flights numerous times, I can tell you that yes, 11 hours in economy isn't exactly a whole lot of fun, but it certainly isn't unbearable (esp if you have in-flight entertainment), and goes pretty quickly surprisingly enough. So unless you're getting a very good price, I would slip this; maybe consider extra legroom instead, which is typically a lot cheaper (just a small amount more than economy).
However, I would definitely 'splurge' in terms of time; yes, you will get other opportunities, but I think that honeymoon is the perfect time to splurge; you have the excitement of being newly married for a start, plus you don't have too many ties (I don't know if you want kids, but if you do, it's highly unlikely you'll have the time or the money to do something like this again until they're grown up)
We will be spending a lot on our honeymoon; probably around $9k for a 2 week all inc long-haul trip (that's hotel, flights, and spending money). We love our holidays, and it's nice to live in luxury once ina while.
But yeah, I'd skip the first-class flights; I'd sooner either save the money, or spend it on an even better hotel. To me, an 11 hour flight is just not worth spending any more money on than I have to.
I would totally do a 2 week trip in Hawaii (though I wouldnt spend it on one island. I'd definitely take the chance and visit 2 or 3 for 14 days. Kauai and Volcanoes National park is amazing) and 3 days in LA, but I wouldnt fly first class. Slightly bigger seats, getting served drinks as people are boarding, and a slightly better meal instead of just a snack is not worth the money imo. If you had miles to kill, maybe. I've flown first on miles and on my company, and its not all its cracked up to be. You're still sitting... on a plane. I agree with @andielovesj: , it's a wedding and honeymoon, but at the end of the day, its just another vacation. My honeymoon was fabulous, and yes, its my only "honeymoon", but at the end up the day, it is just another trip with a fancy name. We've gone on and will go on other vacations that will be even more amazing than the honeymoon.
i cant help you much with the finance issue between you and your fiance... but i just booked our honeymoon to maui, and found this amazing condo.
it's beautifully updated with a gorgeous pool, etc- but because it's a condo unit and doesn't have some of those extra amenties like resorts do, it's much cheaper. (were paying ~$220)
maybe if you wanted to stay a little while after the wedding, you could do a night or two in the honeymoon suite, then switch to a nice condo?
http://www.kaanapalibeachrentals.com/vacation-rental2.maui/Honua_Kai_Resort_and_Spa
Thanks for all the input! I think we're going to plan a slightly shorter trip (to save money), and look into some more affordable options for most nights with a few splurges. As for budget--we're still working on that but are in agreement that we won't spend any more than we can afford.
That Kanaapali place looks great!
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Long post coming up, sorry!
So, FI and I are planning our super-small destination wedding for this summer. We're considering one week in HI our "wedding" time, in which we will be sightseeing with our families etc. in addition to the ceremony. After that, our plan is to go to other islands.
And that's where I start freaking out, because what FI wants to do for this overall trip seems crazy lavish to me. He wants: 2 weeks in HI after our wedding week (so we can be on our own); stopover in SoCal on the way back east, for 3 days. He also wants to fly first-class to Hawaii, since we will be taking an 11-hr flight.
2 weeks of hotels on Maui . . . a freaking first class ticket . . . 3 days in LA . . . holy crap that is going to cost a lot of money for a honeymoon. Not to mention we will be away for almost a month! I work but have a month of vacation time; he's self-employed.
My parents and I are covering the cost of coach air travel to the islands, interisland flights, the ceremony, reception, dress, etc. as well as a small party in my hometown at a later date. Costs for all that are generous but reasonable and probably way below average. We won't need additional airfare for the honeymoon, as we'll already be in HI, so it is just the hotels etc. FI knows that the wedding budget my family and I have will not include any first-class tickets, so if we get those for the long flight to HI it will be out of honeymoon budget.
I come from a frugal but very comfortable family. He comes from a wealthy family but in general is a frugal person. He wants to splurge in terms of time and flights for this trip--saying that it's a once in a lifetime experience and we deserve it. I feel like an a-hole spending so much, frankly. I guess we technically can afford to do something like this, as his parents will kick in some money for our honeymoon and he has savings.
Has anyone else had issues with their FI having very different attitudes about splurging on a wedding/honeymoon? Even though we relate to money differently on a daily basis, in general he is not a spender. I don't worry about him throwing around our money willy-nilly after we are married. I am worried about looking like a jerk to my family for planning a fabulous trip like this, when I have student loans etc.