- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Long post coming up, sorry!
So, Fiance and I are planning our super-small destination wedding for this summer. We’re considering one week in HI our “wedding” time, in which we will be sightseeing with our families etc. in addition to the ceremony. After that, our plan is to go to other islands.
And that’s where I start freaking out, because what Fiance wants to do for this overall trip seems crazy lavish to me. He wants: 2 weeks in HI after our wedding week (so we can be on our own); stopover in SoCal on the way back east, for 3 days. He also wants to fly first-class to Hawaii, since we will be taking an 11-hr flight.
2 weeks of hotels on Maui . . . a freaking first class ticket . . . 3 days in LA . . . holy crap that is going to cost a lot of money for a honeymoon. Not to mention we will be away for almost a month! I work but have a month of vacation time; he’s self-employed.
My parents and I are covering the cost of coach air travel to the islands, interisland flights, the ceremony, reception, dress, etc. as well as a small party in my hometown at a later date. Costs for all that are generous but reasonable and probably way below average. We won’t need additional airfare for the honeymoon, as we’ll already be in HI, so it is just the hotels etc. Fiance knows that the wedding budget my family and I have will not include any first-class tickets, so if we get those for the long flight to HI it will be out of honeymoon budget.
I come from a frugal but very comfortable family. He comes from a wealthy family but in general is a frugal person. He wants to splurge in terms of time and flights for this trip–saying that it’s a once in a lifetime experience and we deserve it. I feel like an a-hole spending so much, frankly. I guess we technically can afford to do something like this, as his parents will kick in some money for our honeymoon and he has savings.
Has anyone else had issues with their Fiance having very different attitudes about splurging on a wedding/honeymoon? Even though we relate to money differently on a daily basis, in general he is not a spender. I don’t worry about him throwing around our money willy-nilly after we are married. I am worried about looking like a jerk to my family for planning a fabulous trip like this, when I have student loans etc.