(Closed) honeymoon registries

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Would you use a honeymoon registry?
    Yes : (24 votes)
    45 %
    No : (29 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 2
    7282 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    As a guest it is far more convenient for me to slip some cash inside of a card.

    Then I don’t have to think about funding your sex fest holiday.

    Post # 3
    42082 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    vanessa1359:  If I was going to give a couple cash, no matter what they used it for, I would just give it directly to them. Why have a fee deducted when they could have the whole amount?

    Seriously, does anyone really think that if they gift the couple an outrigger excursion, that the couple is necessarily going to use the money for exactly that?


    Post # 4
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We did a traditional gift registry and a honeymoon registry.

    The gift registry was used for the shower, we didn’t get any physical gifts from the wedding itself. We had about $500 of extras/upgrades/excursions purchased via honeymoon registry, and everything else was cash.

    Post # 5
    5763 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Marriott doesn’t charge a fee for their registry service. I ove honeymoon registries. I don’t mind giving cash and it is my default gift but if someone has a honeymoon registry, it makes me happy to contribute towards making it a memorable experience!

    Post # 7
    1829 posts
    Buzzing bee

    vanessa1359:  to be honest, I’m with the person who said it was tacky. I know people often think that it is not the same as asking for cash, but essentially it is. 

    Like julies1949, putting the money towards a honeymoon registry does not mean the couple will spend it on what you say it’s for. 

    Post # 9
    1154 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I vote no, I think they’re inappropriate.  I like to give wedding gifts that I think the couple will use for the rest of their lives (china, tableware, quality kitchen utensils, serveware, etc.) and that could potentially be passed down, not paying for a vacation beyond their means or swimming with dolphins this one time, and I think asking guests to do so is rude (the same way asking for cash directly is rude).  Use cash gifts toward your honeymoon if you choose to do so, but don’t ask guests to contribute to your sex-cation instead of giving you whatever gift they would have chosen.  

    Post # 10
    767 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    vanessa1359:  So… I voted yes. I like the idea of helping them financially because I know how hard it is from a financial stand point. With that said I have a honeyfund and I have used it to register for things at random places.

    I don’t think its right to judge people for their decisions– that money may mean way more than the $30 towel set you are gonna get from Target. I would rather know that it MEANT something. 

    Post # 11
    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have contributed to honeymoon funds, but I don’t particularly like them. 

    In the end, the $100 I’d spend on a fancy toaster is the same as the $100 I’d contribute to a honeymoon fund, but I think philosophically, I find them–and things similar to them, such as house downpayments, new car funds, college funds (for baby showers)–sort of an overstep to ask for. Because there is a difference. At the end of the day, it’s not my responsibility to finance someone else’s life, and that is what bothers me about the *request* is that it suggests it should be my responsibility. 

    Now, in the end, if you’re good enough of a friend for me to go to the wedding, then I’ll cut you a check and be done with it. Fine–I get that as far as I am concerned as the giver, money is money and a registry’s a registry. But I think that’s wherein the problem lies–to me, this is sort of a tipping point in general courtesy and generosity and pushing it towards a transaction in which the monetary amount counts more than the intent. 

    So, considering I’m not the only one out there who’s not really that into Honeyfund, you might think about having a small registry for actual items that you can use–there are TONS now that are outside of toasters and towels. You can even register at places that could complement your trip, such as REI. And I’m saying this also because unlike me, there are some people who, when looking at a single option that is Honeyfund, will get you something random. Oh, and bear in mind that in some cases, not everyone is hip to internet commerce–some particularly older individuals may not even know how to use it OR they’re suspicious of it even if they know how it works. 

    Post # 12
    213 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve never heard of this idea but to be honest I think it is tacky. I think registries in general are tacky (I know I am in the minority on that)…but this is over the top.

    Post # 13
    889 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Honeymoon registries are really common where I’m from in the UK and i’ve certainly never had to pay a fee or anything…In fact it’s always been really easy and actually more convenient than withdrawing the cash to put inside the card. 

    Personally, If i’m going to spend the same amount on a couple anyway, what does it matter if it’s cash, a gift, vouchers or put into a honeymoon registry? How is it any different from a guests point of view? 

    If i’m honest, I find gift registries far more tacky where couples are asking for specific things at specific prices…I want to be able to pick exactly how much I give and how I give it! 

    Post # 14
    6666 posts
    Bee Keeper

    There is a huge  difference between voluntarily giving a gift of cash and being asked for it. 

    In addition to the  reasons already mentioned, a honeymoon is a luxury, not a necessity. Wedding gifts are traditionally to help the couple set up their home. If the couple are so well off that they need nothing, then they should also be able to afford a honeymoon within their means. Guests should not be asked to fund their lifestyle choices. 

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