(Closed) Honeymoon Registries…good or bad?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My advice is a little off because we took ours down. I mean, it still exists, it’s just not up on our website anymore. We are going to Couples in Jamaica for our honeymoon and originally registered on HoneymoonWishes.com. I’m not really sure how it compares to other ones, but I liked how you could just get the cash from it and not necessarily use it specifically for the item/service purchased. There was no set up fee, which is nice. However, there is a 7% service charge. You can choose to have your guests pay an extra 7% on each gift or have it deducted from your gifts when you withdraw them (it’s like a bank, you just have the money sent to you). We decided to take it down for a few reasons: 1) We have other household registries with plenty of stuff on them. 2) We felt if someone was going to give us money, we would rather not pay the fee. 3) We already paid for our honeymoon, and we originally felt it would be nice in case people didn’t want to give us money, this would be a nice alternative, and now, we feel the opposite (see reason #2). Haha.

I think, all in all, they’re a good idea if you’re not registering for other items, it gives people something to "give" you. But definitely do your homework on the different ones, like if you have to pay a set up fee, how you get your money, how long it could take, etc.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

We used Honeyfund and people love it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

We used Honeyfund and few people have been using it.  I think that is probably because of the ages of most of the people invited (older).  Our friends who are younger, have liked it a lot. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

When I originally heard the idea I thought it was great. But then when I suggested it to my mom and her friends they all thought it was super tacky and said they would never purchase something like that for someone.

Their feelings were that wedding presents are building blocks to for your home, pieces that will stand the test of time. I don’t really have  a concrete opinion of it, I understand the idea of ‘what better way to give a gift to someone than to buy them a luxurious dinner at a resort’ and things like that. But I guess those in the older generation see that as something that you should buy for yourself as a reward???

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

we originally only had a honeymoon registry.  then I thought, though we had lived together for a while and had most things, they weren’t "nice" things.  so we had both.  we only got a few honeymoon registry gifts, but those who did use it really liked the idea.  however, it is like registering for money.  I don’t think anyone who bought anything realized that they weren’t actually purchasing a snorkeling trip for us – just giving us money to potentially doing these things…..which makes it awkward for those things we didn’t get to do that were purchased for us.  on the other hand, the "gifts" we got were totally used for our honeymoon!  it really helped, because we didn’t really budget for the honeymoon, we just said we’d do what we could.  so thanks to them, we got to enjoy it a little more!  but if you are going to have both types of registries, and prefer one gift over another, try to make one more prevalent than the other – have only a few gifts on the traditional home gift registry, or even by word of mouth say you prefer one over the other.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our friends had one for their honeymoon last summer, and we gave @ $100 of honeymoon stuff (we had a hunch it was just cash, but weren’t positive).  Now, exactly a year later we are getting married and I suggested doing the same honeymoon reg. as our friends (in addition to Crate and Barrel and Bloomies) – and my FI skoffed at the idea.  Though he loved GIVING a honeymoon reg. gift – he didn’t want to register with a honeymoon registry.  He had a hard time articulating, but it just "didn’t feel right."  I think it goes with what previous commenters said: young people (like us) loved the idea, but older people (a good chunck of everyone’s guest list) might not look upon it as favorably – and I think FI didn’t want those disapproving eyes.  (But they also probably disapprove of Bloomies – though it is definitely the best registry ever!).

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My sister suggested it, but the more we thought about it, it really is just asking for cash.  We figure that people who want to give cash will go ahead and do that; I expect a significant number of our family to do that, as they understand we are trying to fix up a house, and FI’s son is starting college this year, and we have told everyone who asks that we are going to have to wait a few months for the honeymoon, in order to be able to afford it…  With all that, I expect that more than a few people will be nice enough (even though we have registered for the typical kitchen and house stuff, plus some home improvement items at Lowes) to give us cash or a check with a nice note that says "For your honeymoon" or "Towards new appliances" or something like that.  The thing is, where we live anyway, it’s not really done to ask for money – although people are happy to give it if they think it’s what you need.  I think that registering for a honeymoon would probably end up with us receiving fewer cash gifts overall, just because it would turn some people off. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Personally I don’t like it. I also am one of those people that when the couple asks for cash I give a gift because I think it’s so tacky to ask fo cash. I think I don’t like it because in essence you are really just asking people to give you money.

The bottom line is that some people will give you money as gifts (whether you ask for it or not) and you can just use that money to go towards your honeymoon if you wish.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We are having the same question now.  We don’t need or want any household items, or at least not enough to fill a registry.  We have had friends to the honeymoon fund, and we liked doing it.  I think that younger people who are web-savy like the honeymoon funds, while older, more traditional guests may not like it and find it tacky.  We might try to register for a few traditional things for the house and then also for a honeymoon fund, and just let people decide what to do.  I have no problem telling some of my friends and family that we prefer the cash, and then letting other people who want to give a gift chose from our sparse registry.  I personally don’t care if we get any gifts, we just want to have a fun party with our friends and families.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

we used honeyfund. i have received a lot of good responses back on it even though onyl a handful of people used it. The response was that it was very different and since we live together already, they understood why we would go that route. I dont agree that its asking for cash. Even if it was, is that any different than asking for a blender? why register for items you dont even need? I think a lot of poeple do like to give money and if thats the case, they feel they can at least apply it to something… we are going to vancouver/alaska on our honeymoon and we’ve already got a whale watching trip, a revolving restaurant dinner and a few other things. We also did register at 2 stores to update some of our older items. The combination gave people lots of options.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We are using justtogether.com for our honeymoon fund. I loved the idea of being able to register our honeymoon because we don’t really need any household stuff and we are paying for everything ourselves so this will hopefully allow us to enjoy an awesome honeymoon. On our wedding website we told everyone about the honeymoon registry and also put two other traditional registry options for the folks who prefer to purchase an item instead. I did make it very clear as to what our preference was and told them about our honeymoon plans and some of the things we would like to do. Justtogether.com does charge a 6% service fee for the credit card use but does guarantee it is has the lowest fee compared to similar sites. (If anyone else has found one lower let me know) I personally think if the couple want a honeymoon instead of "Stuff" then people should accept that. If you really want to go that route that do it….it’s your day and you shouldn’t stress about what everyone else thinks. Do what you want to do!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i’m not a huge fan of honeymoon registries.  we’ve lived together for a while, so have most of the household stuff, but ended up registering for upgrades or things we wouldn’t normally buy ourselves, like art objects (reasonably priced, of course).  it wasn’t the right choice for us to register for the honeymoon – too much like asking directly for cash.  Most of our guests are family and are already put off by our online registry!

We do have friends getting married next week who are having a honeymoon registry, but they are also moving to another country shortly after the wedding, so receiving items or gift cards won’t really work well.  In that case, it makes sense.  For their registry, it was hard to find things in a lower price range, so they ended up registering for a bunch of meals in addition to the rooms and other, more expensive items.

Ultimately, do what you want and what you feel is useful/makes sense.  There is no pleasing everyone!

Post # 15
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Wannabee

Just wanted to add an additional tip here…

We have invited a lot of friends and family members from Europe.  Originally we only had standard registries but then realized nobody abroad could buy gifts w/o a US credit card. 

After recieving checks that we really couldn’t cash at our bank and paying all kind of crazy bank transfer fees we found that http://www.travelersjoy.com accepts international credit cards.  It has been a great way for these guests to participate and kind of fun to get some extra $$$ for the trip.

Post # 16
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Wannabee

We did a honeymoon registry and it was awesome! We were worried abotu what people would think but they had tips on the website and we received over $4000 towards our honeymoon! We were super happy with the service and website at happyhoneymoons.ca. They really took care of us and we had a blast in greece! I recommend happyhoneymoons.ca for you if you don’t want to get bad gifts and get your honeymoon paid for.

TR

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