Post # 1
We have lived together for a little while now and this is not my first marriage. We have almost everything that we need so registeries are kinda rough for us.
Has anyone done a Honeymoon Registry? What responses are you getting?
Post # 3
Our guests have loved it! They know we already have our pots & pans and have enjoyed being a part of planning the honeymoon. We’ve received donations to our honeymoon, a massage, snorkel trip and more!
We used Honeymoon Wishes but I’ve heard good things about Depositagift.com also.
Post # 4
I’ve given a gift through one. The only thing that makes me think twice about them is the extra fee that the site tacks onto the gift. I’d try to find a site with small or no fees if I were doing one.
Post # 5
I’ve given a gift through a Honeyfund registry and honestly, I found it weird.
Basically, you pick what you want to get for the couple and the site then states that you have to mail them a cheque and can send a printable “coupon” for them as well. I found it awkward because a) really, I’m just sending them a cheque…so if you have guests that don’t like giving money and you think that by giving “experiences” you can get around that…well…the guest is still sending you a cheque and b) I REALLY disliked the “coupon” which had a rectangle that said “affix payment here”. REALLY didn’t like that.
That being said, I did like that we got to send the entire amount to the couple…I’m just not one to actually give money at weddings, so I found this really awkward. If you think that you’re guests will go for it, great! 🙂
Post # 6
we are using honeyfund.com – do not think they have any fees, that’s why we chose them.
Post # 7
@ArwenBride: That’s because the couple didn’t use the PayPal option. You don’t have to print anything with that if you have the electronic option. Also, why do you feel awkward giving the couple something they actually could use and will really treasure? That money is going to buy an experience they’ll think back on for the rest of their lives. That’s pretty awesome, in my opinion!
To the OP – we did Honeyfund, and they do not take any money out of your gifts. Our guests thought it was great, since they are all 30’s-ish and up like us, and would rather have a great trip/experience than a bunch of “stuff”.
We’re using our gifts towards a 6-month trek through Asia next year. We are blogging and then sending picture postcards of us doing the activities people contributed to as a second “thank you” card. I think it’s a great idea!
Post # 8
We had a friend use a honeymoon registry and I thought it was great! I also had to print out a coupon and mail them a check as @ArwenBride did, but it didn’t bother me–we would have mailed them a check regardless.
Post # 9
our Best Man and his wife used Honeyfund and we LOVED it, and are planning on doing the same! we are in the same boat – have lived together for a few years already and so don’t need a lot of “traditional” registry gifts. it’s my understanding that Honeyfund doesn’t charge a fee which is why we are planning on using them rather than other sites. we are also going to do a small more “traditional” registry for the few people that we anticipate will feel more comfortable giving a regular gift (i.e. some of our parents’ friends), but all of OUR friends are totally into the honeymoon idea!
Post # 10
@crayfish: Ah! That explains it. I would have had less of an issue using PayPal.
To be honest, I’ve been the in “I don’t like giving money” wedding camp on a few threads. It’s just how I was brought up. That be said, this couple wanted the “experiences” of a couples massage or whatever and so, because I like to give gifts that people like, that’s what the FH and I gave them. It doesn’t change that giving money is awkward for me and that I found the process a bit weird. There was no judgement, it’s just not something that I would do.
My point was more that if you have guests who feel awkward about giving money and aren’t willing to do so, then you may have issues with a honeymoon registry. If you think that your guests will go for it, fantastic!
Post # 11
Thanks guys this is all awesome info and TONS of help!
Post # 12
There was a thread on here a while ago about giving cash, but I did want to just put out there that I would advise at least doing a tiny objects-oriented wedding registry because I’m one of those people that doesn’t like to give cash–of any kind (gc/Honeyfund/whatever) and would appreciate being able to give a physical gift. I’m recommending this not because you have to agree or cater to ME per se, but I know that I’m not the only one out there who feels this way, and I suspect that some–a minority–but some of your guests would feel more comfortable purchasing a gift-gift for you rather than contributing to a fund.
(Plus, if you DO have people like that, sometimes having a small registry will discourage them from giving you something totally random–which by the way, my MIL has absolutely no problem doing if there’s only a cash-contribution option!)