Post # 1
I want to splurge for our honeymoon, but my fiance doesn’t want to. Therefore, I mentioned the honeymoon registry. He thought it sounded like we’re being cheap, but I feel it’s the best way to compromise.
Our original idea was to have 2 anyway.. One for Macy’s and one for Bed Bath & Beyond. But I feel we should pick only one.
Post # 3
I personally am not a fan of honeyfunds/honeymoon registries (plus I hear they take something like 8% of your money as a service fee) so I would default to your other registry, or just give a check at the wedding. And no, I don’t think that giving a check is the same as giving to your honeyfund.
Post # 4
We used Traveler’s Joy and loved it. We also registered at C&B and Macys but our honeymoon registry received the most gifts (probably because a lot of our friends are big travelers). The fee is a bummer but the site was awesome and it was super easy for our gifters to use their credit card to give a gift. We’d recommend them highly.
Post # 5
I’d just have a smaller registry– people will understand that you want cash.
Post # 6
I honestly don’t like the honeymoon registry idea. If you search the boards, you’ll see tons of threads about this because there are strong arguments on both sides. I understand why some people do them, but they are very frowned upon in my circles. In my opinion, it’s asking your guests to finance your vacation, which I think is wrong. I think honeymoon registries are in poor taste, and opt not to give to them at weddings I go to if it’s an option. It’s a personal preference thing.
Regardless, I give checks at wedding, and you can use that money towards whatever you’d like, whether it’s a honeymoon or something else. Like a PP said, I don’t think it’s the same as doing the honeyfund. I’m more traditional and would rather give you money and let you decide what to do with it, rather than earmarking it for scuba diving or dinner or something.
Post # 7
@abbie017: <–what she said.
Post # 8
I think honeymoon registries are great, but don’t rely on it to fund your entire honeymoon. We received many gifts to the registry (our friends and family loved it!), but most happened in the week or two before the wedding. There’s no way to predict how many of your guests will choose the honeymoon registry for gifting. My best advice: plan a honeymoon you can afford and any gifts off the registry will make it more enjoyable!
Post # 9
@KristenGotMarried: There is a service charge, but it is less than 8%, typically a gift giver has to pay for wrapping and shipping so it is actually less than that in most cases.
@abbie017: The way that I see it, you will only ever have one honeymoon. Also, the idea of giving the wedded couple gifts is that they can start their new life together and the honeymoon is the first part of that new life together. I do feel strongly that you should never demand gifts or make the guest feel obligated to give gifts but almost everyone buys something off of a gift registry anyway and I would rather contribute to giving someone something that they will always remember than giving them some towels or whatever that they’ll have for a few years and then throw out.
Post # 10
@Zusie: I understand your perspective, and in my post said that I know there are strong arguments for. Like I said, personal preference. A honeymoon isn’t required after a marriage, and if a couple can’t afford one, maybe it should be put off for a year until it’s a better financial situation. That being said, I prefer to give cash/a check and that money can be used howver the couple sees fit. I know in my family, if I registered for a honeymoon fund, I wouldn’t get a single cent in it, because my family sees them as poor etiquette. That’s just my family and how I was raised, and I completely see the flip side of it and don’t judge people who do it — I just choose not to partake in that way. In my experience, most people give money at weddings and don’t buy off the registry (again, how my family does it), so for me, it’s a moot point.
Post # 11
@Zusie: In all fairness, it costs me nothing extra to write a check. I personally don’t like Honeymoon registries because, to me, it’s like asking for cash and there is usually the aforementioned fee. The couple just gets one big check anyway, so I don’t see the point in going through a website that takes a % of the gifts. I think the best route is to just have a small registry and use the cash you get for your Honeymoon.
BlueWolverine also makes a good point that you shouldn’t be relying on a Honeymoon registry to fund your Honeymoon.
Post # 12
I don’t wish to get into any argument here–people think what they think and I’m not going to change anyone’s minds. I just want to point out that Honeyfund has no fees.
Post # 13
@bookworm88: You know, that seems like a pretty good idea. I’ve been reading everyone’s opinions and it really does seem to be a personal preference. Trust me, I have no problem splurging, but for my Fiance its a different story. I’m trying to get him to understand this is our ONE and ONLY honeymoon (hopefully lol) and it is not the time to be cheap. There are ALOT of girls in the family, probably more than the amount of things I”d put on the registry anyway, so perhaps having a small one is the right thing for us. We are waiting one year (hopefully, again) to look for a house, so I don’t want a ton of things being stored in the meantime.
This seems to be a pretty heavy topic, though. lol The last thing I want to look is cheap, and my Fiance and I can well afford a honeymoon. We are both working professionals. I just wanted to explore all of my options.
I am still unsure of what to do exactly. We are attending a travel expo this weekend to get ideas on what the price will be, and perhaps take it from there.
Post # 14
We went through much the same conversation – and compromised on the honeymoon registry (we’re paying for our own accommodations, but registered for activities we want to do, like a carriage ride, a multi-pass to historic sites, and a sunset cruise in the harbor). Doing so greatly expanded what we’re able to do with a small budget, since our own money now only has to cover hotel and some meals.
We’re using http://www.wanderable.com/. The only fees are the PayPal transaction fees.
The culture I grew up in frowns on giving money as a wedding gift, and honeymoon registries are a little iffy, but we figure some of our friends would rather give us a memory than just another china teacup. My mom was horrified until she saw Wanderable, which makes it very tasteful. Then she decided it was a great idea, and if anyone doesn’t care for it, well, we’re also registered at more traditional places for more traditional things. Much of it, I think, is in how you word it.
Here’s what we wrote for our registry page intro:
Thank you for visiting our Wanderable honeymoon registry! We’re very excited to plan our visit to Charleston, a place we’ve both wanted to go for a long time. And we’ll get to see it for the first time together.
Our budget covers our accommodations, but there are many things in Charleston we’d like to enjoy, and you can help us create memories to last a lifetime!
Wanderable requires an invitation, but you request one on the site and it only takes a couple of days to come through. Good luck!
Post # 15
So we decided not to do the honeymoon registry, and I am glad now that we didn’t really look into it. Making my registry was fun, and exhausting! lol And our honeymoon cost us exactly what we wanted to spend thanks to Sandals and their amazing deal!!
Post # 16
Hmmm…..I have a honeymoon registry, with activities we want to do, and our guests can purchase an activity from the list (our honeymoon is already paid for). But we also have a regular in store registry for those that are more traditional.