Honeymoon Registry?

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

They keep a percentage so it’s really a rip off.  People who want to give you cash know how to give cash!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Jme_C:  we are using travelersjoy.com… And we like it so far! there is a fee and u can choose for you to cover it or for your guests to cover it. There is a page on there that explains what the fees cover. I looked at a bunch of sites comparing them but travelersjoy had the nicest format IMO and that was what we decided it was worth it. We have gotten a bunch of conpliments from people that love both the idea and the website

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

I would not go this route, personally.   There are many previous threads thst cover this topic well, but the bottom line is that it’s not a universally accepted practice and goes against  traditional etiquette.   That is because a lot of people perceive it no differently than asking for money and feel that a luxury vacation or other similar  lifestyle choice  is entirely your own responsibility, not the kind of thing to ask,  hint, or expect  others will or should subsidize.  

On top of this, it is a rip off, since people think they are giving you a certain amount, but the service takes a piece.  As a guest, I would voluntarily write a check before donating to a fund.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center

We used honeyfund.com and LOVED it and so did our guests! Many of them really enjoyed being able to give us an experience as opposed to stuff. Once your honeyfund closes they give you your $ in a lump sum, that way you have flexibility on how to spend it on your honeymoon. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We used honeymoonwishes and loved it. Our guests enjoyed the site as well. There is a small fee that is taken out of each gift but it still ended up being a significant amount of cash we received.

Guests contributing get to see your destination along with activities and excursions on the wish list. It was very simple to go online and transfer the money into our bank account. We decided not to do the typical registry because we had tons of things from our combined household.

 

Definitely do research and check them out. Worked for us.

Good luck and congrats!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t gift through a honeymoon site.

Call me old fashioned, but I was raised that a wedding gift shoould be something lasting and for their home.For the same reason, I rarely give cash or a cheque- perhaps if the couple is moving right after the wedding. Even then I would be more inclined ot give a gift card so they can buy something for their home, not pay bills with my gift.

The honeymoon was/is the responsibility of the couple.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Jme_C:  We are using honeyfund and we and our guests love it. It does keep a percentage. For a $100 gift, we receive about $96. We tried to find one that didn’t take a percentage but they weren’t as nice or didn’t associate with a well known company (Honeyfund uses paypal and most people know the security of paypal). 

Regarding the fact that the honeymoon should be paid for by the couple – I do agree to an extent. We are not asking our guests to pay for our honeymoon, instead we are asking for extras like tours, a camera, dinners out, etc. We are not asking for plane tickets and the like. We also will be taking pictures of us doing the things that the guest paid for and sending that along with our thank you notes.

We own our house and have lived here for 4 years already. We already have the traditional registry items and were not going to register at all. Our guests kept asking about what gift they could give so we decided to go with the honeyfund and it has been working really well so far.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree with Kir32.  I will be using some sort of honeymoon registry.  Not sure which one yet. We live in Oz, getting married in Boston, with the majority of guests being on my side in Boston.  I am not having a bridal shower; maybe an informal pot luck lunch a week before the wedding if people want to stop by—mostly for my parents friends

FI and I are mid-late 30s, have lived together for a few years and don’t really need the “setting up the home” gifts.  Plus logistically it doesn’t make sense to register in America; and things in Oz are priced according to cost of living here—-which is expensive; I think Sydney ranks more expensive than NYC. 

Our photographer also offers a registry, so guests can contribute to our albums or other artwork we might want.  Also, we are having a wishing well on the wedding day.  So guests have the option to gift us in a number of ways. 

In this day in age, I really don’t think people mind gifting in non-traditional ways.  People are waiting longer to marry, live together before marriage….  I know in my case, I dont get to see my loved ones often..  They think its awesome I live in Australia, they’d be happy to gift us anyway they could. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

Since we didn’t register for gifts a few of my friends insisted we set up a Honeyfund account…. still no donations yet, lol. I’m on the fence about it. I feel like if people want to give you money they will.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Jme_C:  Do you really want to ask your family and friends for “donations?”  

Donations are for charities and people down on their luck – not for luxury vacations.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

This is pretty common practice in the UK now. It’s unusual to see actual boxed gifts anymore as the majority of couples getting married are already living together (often for years) so really dont need a load of items to set up a home.

Couples tend to get cash, vouchers or money paid into a honeymoon gift account.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We have a honeymoond registry. So far, the only people who have used it have been all of our relatives from England – just an interesting note. 🙂

No one from the good old US of A has used it but they have bought MANY things off of our traditional registry.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are debating setting up a Honeymoon fund, so this thread has some good information to start some research as to which site would be best for us.

I moved in with my FI last summer (MONTHS before we got engaged). I owned my own condo, and he owned his home. We both had each of our places fully furnished, so when we merged, we kept certain things from our homes but did donate/sell anything that wasn’t needed, or that we had double of. So, we really don’t need a TON of stuff unless some things could just be replaced, but it still wouldn’t be a lot of items to ask for. Plus, we wouldn’t have the room until we move – which we will within the next couple of years. I still want to go to Tagret and have some fun, but it would be more beneficial to receive money that could be used towards a honeymoon, or our next house.

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