Post # 1
so… my FI and I registered for our honeymoon on a cruise. We were going to send out the regitsry cards with the invitations but only to select people since we know not everyone can help with that.
So we are okay with that until we got an e-mail letting us know that the cruise had to bepaid in full by 60 days before the cruise. well, 60 days before the cruise is about the time we are suppose to send out invitations. I have no idea what to do now seeing as it is proper to seend out invitations 6- 8 weeks before the wedding and not sooner.
ANy ideas on what to do??
Post # 3
Well, it’s my understanding that you’re not supposed to include regitry info in the invitation at all (it’s considered rude- although there is some debate about that).
However, are you having a shower earlier? Could you have the hostess of the shower include your registry info in with the shower invite?
Otherwise, I would just have you families spread the word that that’s what you want but it has to be done early.
How does your registry work? Is it through the cruise line? Can you contact them and ask how it normally works? Perhaps you get a refund if guests contribute after the pay in full deadline?
Post # 4
after the dead line it goes towards cruise cahs i guess. money to use towards things on the cruise.
Post # 5
Are you planning on taking lots of excursions and stuff? If so, you could probably spend over $1000 for 2 people.
There’s lots of stuff to spend money on when you’re onboard- excursions/tours, spa services, premium dining, beverages, photographs (they take formal portraits), the casino, duty-free shopping (alcohol, jewelry, clothing, etc), phone and internet, etc.
What happens if you can’t spend all the money? Do you get it back?
Post # 6
my understanding is that although honeymoon registries have options for you to "specify" certain things (e.g. $100 for snorkeling excursion or what have you), the gifts just go into a big account and the check is later sent to the couple. So in the end the gift is a cash gift, it’s just being requested against very specific experiences. So my point is I think you’re fine. You can pay for the cruise up front and still get gifts twoard your honeymoon (even just the cruise itself) afterward b/c you will just ultimately receive cash from the registry site. I suppose there are some sites that might be different, but I think the majority work this way.
Post # 7
You should also note that a honeymoon registry is there help pay for "extras". If you cannot come up with the money to pay for the cruise before you receive the cash from the registry, than that’s a whole new ballgame… Although i’m not sure if that is the case for you two?
Post # 8
we are doing a honeymoon registry through honeyfund, and it sounds like it worked the same way. as guests purchase us "gifts" the money is either dumped into a paypal account that we created, or they selected "cash" and will give us a check at the wedding.
since you typically have to pay for trips up front, and the registry funds dont get to you until you cash it out (probably after the wedding), you either have to front the money for the honeymoon and pay yourself back, or plan your trip for a few weeks/months after your honeymoon, once you’ve received your gifts.
we’re doing the former…most people don’t purchase their gift until a week or so before the wedding, if not later, so if you want to go right after your wedding you might not have much of a choice. otherwise, id say push the cruise back a few weeks – you’ll enjoy it more if money isn’t a worry!
Post # 9
I think people would have hurt feelings if you don’t treat everyone fairly regarding the registry ….