Post # 1
My fiance and I have been living together and setting up our home for the past two years. We have everything we need. The new trend is the Honeymoon Registry, which I am actually a fan of since our situation is not uncommon anymore. Unlike asking for money, our honeymoon registry actually has us select items we need for our trip (luggage, digital camera) and activities to do while at the resort (dinner on the beach, moped rental, scuba diving) for our guests to purchase for us. The website coordinates with our chosen stores and resort to have all of the items to us before the ‘moon or the activities planned when we get there.
I want to put in our invitations a little card that states we have everything we need for our home and to please visit our honeymoon registry website for gifts. Not exactly sure how to word it…. I have seen a few online that have little poems and rhyme and whatnot. That is not our style at all. I want something worded classy but I don’t want it to sound like we are asking for money or too good for gifts. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
@gymchick2: I am not good at writing, but you could include something like the following. We have everything we need for our home, but if you are interested, you can help us fulfill our dream by getting something on our honeymoon wish-list. (You could mention how you are already established in your home, at the beginning. However, it seems your guests would know that).
ETA: It might be better not to put registry info in card, just like to your wedding website-assuming you have one. You can include that under registry info.
Post # 4
If you live in the US, I would suggest that you not include any reference whasoever to gifts (even the absense of them) in or on your invitation suite.
However, if you have a wedding website, you could provide links to your registries there. You could list your wedding website URL at the bottom of your accommodations card within your invitations (the card that provides directions to your venue(s) and hotel information for out-of-town guests.)
Post # 5
This is the standard info that shows up in our registry service.
We look forward to your presence on our special day. Of course, all we ask is your presence. If you cannot attend, your thoughts and prayers are appreciated. We do realize that many of you may wish to give us a wedding gift to commemorate our union together. Since we already have most of the traditional wedding gift items, we have decided to offer our guests a popular new wedding gift alternative – our honeymoon registry. This will allow you to help us create the honeymoon memories that will last us a lifetime.
Post # 6
agree with PPs…a link to a wedding website would be best. That, and word of mouth (tell wedding party and family to spread the word).
Post # 7
@gymchick2: Put it on a website.
Post # 8
First, honeymoon registries, in my opinion, are worse than asking for cash. They’re deceptive. Your guests aren’t actually buying you what you have listed; you’re getting straight cash out of it. Also, the service is taking a cut of your gift to cover “service fees” so while your guests think they’re giving $100, really you’re only getting $90. Please, please, rethink honeymoon registries.
Second, I agree with PP. You should never refer to gifts in your invitiation. Never. It is seen as rude and gift grabby. You can have a discreet link to registries (real registries, not honeymoon registries) on your website and you can put something in your FAQ.
If you want luggage and cash, create a small registry at macys. Register for luggage and a few other things you will need (everyone needs new linens at some point) and leave it there. With a small registry, people will usually get the hint.
Post # 9
Don’t have a wedding website. As much as everyone thinks honeymoon registries are horrible, I think wedding websites are just as presumptuous. If you don’t know “our story” or how we met, you are probably not invited to the wedding. So all the info is coming in the inv ites….accommodations, rsvp, and yes, as tacky as you all seem to think it os, I am including my registry info. Thanks for the rhoughtful feedback.
Post # 10
Many couples these days get married after they’ve set up individual or combined households and don’t need things like more toasters, sheets, towels, etc. That’s where a honeymoon registry makes the most sense. Yes, there are registries that “take a cut” from the registry that the couple has established. But there are others that do not. Registries, regardless of whether they are the the traditional format (e.g., we’d like to have this type of china in order to host future dinner parties) or the honeymoon format, have to make their money somehow. It will either be as a “service/convenience fee” to the couple who has registered or to their guests per purchase. Some are literal in that the couple will receive a voucher for “XYZ” excursion that your Aunt Barbara purchased. Others are simply cash to the bride and groom for whatever the dollar amount is associated with “XYZ” excursion that Aunt Barbara purchased. If the bride and groom are not inclined to purchase Baccarat crystal in order to host a once-every-5-years over-the-top dinner party, then I don’t see what the big difference is with requesting money for a honeymoon. Last year I purchased a $50 pizza stone for some friends from their traditional wedding registry. When all was said and done, it ended up costing me about $65. In 10 years this couple will not remember that I bought the pizza stone or if they had just received $65 to spend on their honeymoon. After 40+ years of marriage, my parents have never once looked at a gravy boat and reminisced about how “If it weren’t for ABC friend, we never would have received a gravy boat to start wonderful family traditions.”