Post # 1
I’m sure this is a very popular topic here. I’ve read some of them but none relate to my situation. I hope you guys can help because I am so confused on what to do.
I’m originally from NY and I moved to California to be with my Fiance. Before I moved, we had a get together with the family. Since I was not having a wedding in NY and I was leaving to another city with not enough money to start a home. my fiance had found an apartment for us but there was no furniture just an empty canvas. What we thougth was best is to have a engagement/going away party. Just family and close friends. We thought maybe not all of them will be able to make it to our destination wedding, but we at least get to spend a nice evening with everyone. Since we were traveling by plane some of our family members gave us envelopes with funds to help us start our lives together 🙂 Now .. the tricky questions…
We know we do not need a wedding registry because we pretty much have everything we need at the apartment bought with the gifts received at the party.
We were brainstorming and thought of the people that weren’t at the engagement party and are invited to the wedding. I do not expect for everyone who is traveling to my wedding to give us a gift . For us their presence is the present. However, we know that some people feel as if they most give a gift no matter how small it may be. They feel is just the right thing to do. Also, I know that not everyone will be able to attend my wedding but would probably feel that they should still send us a gift for the same reason I stated above.
I dont know what to do? :-/ I feel like its wrong for me to have the honeymoon registry because some people already gaves us gift,but at the same time I know some people will wonder well… wheres your registry and what can I give you as a gift? I just dont want people to think they are obligated to give us a gift specially since Im already asking them to travel. Please help ?? :-/
Post # 3
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having one set up if someone asks. But, TBH, I never use HM registries because I know a % of my gift goes to site fees. I’m much more likely to write a check, or give a physical gift prior to the wedding.
Post # 4
Since you’ve seen some other posts about honeymoon registeries, you probably already know that people have different opinions on whether they are appropriate or not. I fall into the no, don’t do it camp. And it sounds like you already have a perfectly appropriate response if people do end up asking about your registry: “we don’t have one because we already have everything we need.” If they really want to give you a gift, they’re going to be able to figure out (like your family did at your engagement party) that gifts of money are always appreciated. I wouldn’t worry about it if I were you. 🙂
Post # 5
No matter how you look at it, you are asking friends and family to open their wallets. Gift giving is evolving. Many couples getting married today already have pots and pans and food processors – why would they need more stuff? A Honeymoon Gift Registry is a great alternative – friends and family contribute to a couple’s overall experience and forever lasting memories through a trip of a lifetime. Not only is the gift giver contributing to something very, very special but when that couple returns they share pictures and stories of their adventure. In my eyes that is more special and meaningful than a pot or a pan. A recent Honeymoon Gift Registry study revealed that more money is given to Honeymoon Gift Registries than traditional gift registries. This trend proves that friends and family get more joy out of contributing to an experience rather than giving a material object.
In addition, let’s look at the dollars and cents of a Honeymoon Gift Registry vs. a Traditional Gift Registry. When you register for, let’s say a set of plates at Crate & Barrel, you are asking that person buying the gift to pay full price for that item. (not to mention shipping costs) The mark up on items like that is incredible – upwards of 200%. When you are contributing to a Honeymoon Gift Registry whether the couple is doing a DIY honeymoon or working with a travel agent/planner the couple has options of getting the best bang for their gifted dollars.
Finally, let’s look at the real costs of paying a Honeymoon Gift Registry Service. There are a few out there that are “free” but when is ANYTHING free? Those organizations are either selling your information to spammers (have you noticed an increase in spam emails since signing up?) or they are littering their website with all sorts of advertisements many of which go on your personal Honeymoon Gift page. There is a second tier of Honeymoon Gift Registries like my company, SendUsOff that don’t employ these tactics to get paid. They simply ask for a small percentage of the final total of what the couple receives. Remember that places like Crate & Barrel are asking for 200% on the front end; why not pay a much smaller percentage on the back end, get the gift you really want – a trip of a lifetime – and get a much bigger bang for your gifted dollars!
Jacq Nichols with SendUsOff.com
Post # 6
I personally would say no to the Honeymoon Registry. Because the companies that run them usually take a fee. As a gift giver, I would rather give cash or buy something off the registry (if there is one), because then I know what the couple is getting, without wondering if the $100 I put through the registry is only $80 after fees.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do a HM registry. I don’t like how most take a % of the gift as a fee and how the couple gets one big check at the end instead of a coupon or whatever for the activity that was purchased. If you do have everything you need, then just don’t register – that’s prefectly ok! If people ask where you’re registered (and I’m sure they will) just say you have everything you need and if you are saving up for something (HM, home, renovations, etc) you can also say that you are saving for XX.