Post # 1
Thisn’t isn’t a question on whether or not we will have a honeymoon registry. I know and respect that people have their opinions on the taboos of them in general, but please don’t comment just to say you disagree with them. We have a seperate registry with the traditional items that are varied from $4-$275. Typical gift giving in my town is $30-$50 per couple/family.
We had several friends in our circle do it already and everyone loved it. It is accepted in our crowd since we are 22 with most of our friends in college (not the most likely to buy a crystal vase or place setting).
We have our honeymoon cruise paid off already, we would use it for souvenir money, excursions, and to complete our traditional registry with whatever we get back after
My question is, should we include a line on our wedding website next to the honeymoon registry link saying our intentions with the money since some people dislike honeymoon registries being unclear or the idea of just footing the bill for the honeymoon.
An example: “This is a credible website our friends have used through Carnival Cruise Lines. Simply follow the link and see if there is an excursion or upgrade you would like to gift us. All unused or remaining money will be used to complete our traditional registry after the wedding.”
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Just say “The honeymoon registry is used for excursions and trip upgrades”. That’s all they need to know.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I don’t know what type of honeymoon registry you plan on using, but they look like a normal registry. The person buys the excursion instead of a plate, but there’s no obligation to spend the money on that thing that they’d “bought.” It’s basically just a classy way to get cash. You may have paid off your cruise, but they don’t know that. You can essentially fund the entire trip!
I’d be happy to share my wedding website and honeymoon registry with you if you PM me. (I don’t want to post it here because it has our personal/contact information on it.)
Post # 6
I would make sure that you can get the money refunded IF you don’t use it. Honeyfund basically transfers the money to your bank account, but if it’s a cruise ship or sometihng, they might just keep any extra money.
Personally, for the reasons that Christy42213 listed (Specifically, “The person buys the excursion instead of a plate, but there’s no obligation to spend the money on that thing that they’d “bought.” It’s basically just a classy way to get cash. You may have paid off your cruise, but they don’t know that. You can essentially fund the entire trip!”) – I do not participate in honeymoon funds. BUT, if you opt to do it, I would (1) be honest about it (If someone buys you a massage, get a massage, or tell the person) and (2) ensure that you can get any extra money returned to you.
Post # 7
I agree with PP. The less details the better and if you can find a traditional honeymoon registry, that’s ideal. The ones I’ve seen look like this:
– Two Ziplining Adventures! ($200)
– Romantic sunset dinner for two! ($300)
– Snorkeling equipment for the week! ($50)
– Two first class tickets to Paris ($10000)
It’s better when there is a cutesy sentence for each, but I was too lazy to come up with it for my example. The point is that people feel like they really did pay for part of your honeymoon regardless of whether that is the case or not. Our friends that did already paid for a huge honeymoon (because really, who is going to wait until the wedding to book tickets/hotels for their honeymoon, unless it is extremely delayed?) but the guests felt like they were contributing.
Post # 8
I don’t think any description or disclaimer is necessary. Maybe just “Help us make ourhoneymoon amazing!”
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@lilbluebird: +1 That’s exactly what I was trying to say, but apparently it came off like I was trying to be deceitful about what the money would be used for. Thanks for wording it better than I was capable of!
Post # 10
We are registered through honeymoon wishes. It has a list of activities we chose and all of them are in $25 increments. Although we will try our best to use them for what they were inended, if an excursion is fully booked or not fully funded the remaining money will be used to finish our traditional registry.
How Honeymoon wishes works is, we show up on the ship and there is a lump sum of cash in our set up account that we then can book our excursions with or just use to spend on the ship, we will try our people’s do what people gifted us as we chose them for a reason. We have one excursion already paid for and booked just in case. At the end of our cruise when we sign out we can either get the remaining balance in cash or deposited into our set up bank account.
Hope this explains it more. I’m using this disclaimer as a way for people to understand before hand that if their money doesn’t go towards the intended purchase for whatever reason it will be used for our traditional registry, some people are uncomfortable with it possibly going towards bills, the trip itself, or other uses. I’m not saying they are right or wrong in being upset, just that I’m trying to make everyone comfortable.
Post # 11
We used honeyfund, and put in descriptions and photos for our excursions. I think I put on the website about gifting us excursions, and special extras or something.
I’m not familiar with Carnival Cruise registry, but as a guest I would probably know the money was going for “extras”. Our flights and rooms were paid for months ago, so this was for extra stuff that we might not do otherwise.
Post # 12
So I just got an e-mail from Honeymoon wishes checking up since my wedding is coming up, I double checked and the terms and conditions have changed. They no longer refund all unused money. Unless gifted specifically the generic “contributions fund” all money will need to be used of forfieted. That is not what I signed up for and I’m pissed that they can change it like that without notifying me. Needless to say I think I can spend the $50 already gifted to us on my carnival account, but I have changed my registry to honeyfund.
As much as I only have things on my registry I will actually do, due to chronic illnesses the day of I might not be able to do a certain activity, so I need to insure that unused money can be returned and used for something useful such as my traditional registry.
Grrrr, still can’t believe they are allowed to change such a huge thing without even sending an e-mail notifying users of the change. Glad I double checked.
Post # 13
I’m using honeyfund and this is the explanation I put on our website:
“Since we have lived together since 2011, a traditional registry was far from our mind. Growing up in a family who lives for travel and being able to pass that love of adventure on to John, our honeymoon is really important to us and we want to make it our most special trip ever.
We have set up our registry on honeyfund.com and you can find the direct link below. If you have any questions about these types of registries, there is a lot of information on the site and I’m also happy to answer any questions.”