Post # 1
My FI and I have already been living together for 5 years, so while there’s definitely still some household items I want to register for, its not nearly as much as most of my friends who hadn’t been living together as long. We have a 2.5 year old, so as a result I really want to live it up on our honeymoon since its probably the last solo vacation we’ll take in awhile 🙂 I wanted to create a honeymoon registry, but have heard from a few people its tacky.
What are your thoughts? I made a poll – but would love to also hear pros/cons in comments as well!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I’m a traditionalist and I have always felt weird contributing to honeymoon funds – if that’s the only option I just give cash. Wedding gifts were traditionally to help couples get started off and start a home together, and I’m happy to help out monetarily by giving cash or gift cards to a couple that already has everything – but I feel a little weird contributing to a fancy vacation. I can say though that you’ll probably get a lot of cash at your wedding regardless of whether you set up a registry or not, so you can always put that money towards the honeymoon.
Post # 4
This is very much a personal decision and I’m sure not everyone will agree with my comments, but here goes!
I think the honeymoon registry is a great idea if you are not registering for a ton of house stuff as well. I don’t see the point in registering for things you don’t need, and some people prefer to give gifts instead of cash (I’m one of them!).
The cool thing about the honeymoon registry is you can do an excuraion or activity, and send the gift giver a personal note describing how you enjoyed it! Makes thank you notes easier too. 🙂
Post # 5
You should go according to what you think is okay in your family and among your guests. Traditions differ from one place to another, and what is considered ”tacky” by some are normal and no big deal for others. Ex.: here we’ve never heard of any kind of registries, but it’s custom that guests give cash, or even pay for their meal. It’s frown upon over the Internet, but it’s totally normal and expected in real life (in my area). 😉
The only thing I’ve heard about those registries and I think it’s why many people don’t like it is that you get cash in the end, while your guests pay for activities (ex.: swimming with dolphins) that’s not really what you get in the end … you have to be honest if you proceed with this registry, and actually do what your guests offered you to do.
If you only want money, then I would not create any registry at all. People will figure out you prefer/need cash and it will go to your honeymoon either way. But you also won’t have a website that takes, from what I’ve read on forums, a small percentage of the money your guests gave you.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I have been to one wedding with a honeymoon registry and I wasn’t offended. I thought it was smart.
Post # 7
It really depends on the situation, but in your case it seems like it could be a good option since you’re established and don’t need the traditional gifts. It’s usually better to do a registry through the resort you’re staying at so that guests can directly purchase the item/excursion for you. I never really liked the honeymoon registries where guests just give cash…besides, if guests want to give cash, they’ll give cash outside of the registry.
Post # 8
I myself think a honeymoon registry is great. We are having one through Disney Honeymoon Registry which shows the Guest what exactly they are helping with and it tells them what it is going towards. My Fiance and I live together and there arent many things we need. I find that with time all things change and in this day and age it should be fine! Plus I always see folks giving cash or saying they do not know what to get the couple so at least this way they say hey I payed for a massage or hey I helped towards their room. My personal opinion!
Post # 9
I will probably do a small traditional registry and a honeymoon registry. We already live together, so there’s not a whole lot we need, but a small traditional registry might be good in case people don’t approve of the honeymoon registry. I think a honeymoon registry is fun. That being said, I do think it’s kinda tacky to register for things like your airline tickets and hotel. Registering for things like dinners, couples massages, champagne, etc. (extras rather than necessities) helps your guests feel like they’re contributing to your experience rather than financing your actual trip, if that makes sense.
Post # 10
@Sugarbee711: Honestly I think they are kind of silly. You can just put on your wedding website that you are saving up for a honeymoon and would appreciate any donations to the fund (in a non tacky way) without going through a third party website.
Post # 11
The only time I was put off by a honeymoon registry was when it was in ADDITION to two traditional, very ambitious department store registries for a wedding with less than 100 guests. I get giving your guests options, but it just came off as greedy to me. If you already have all the household gadgets you want and/or your traditional registry list will be relatively small compared to the number of guests, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a honeymoon registry.
Post # 12
We have a traditional registry and a honeymoon registry. We have gotten gifts off both. I was most suprised by my fiance’s side of the family from England as they are more traditional but have so far purchased exclusively off the honeymoon registry.
I wasn’t worried about etiquette in this instance since people had a choice. You could always go that route.
Post # 13
I like the honeymoon registry. My friends who got married in April had a honeyfund registry. I prefer it to giving someone cash. They have options for different excursions or activities they’d like to do. I thought it was more fun picturing them using our money to do something fun than it would be to just give cash (even though it’s technically the same thing).
Post # 14
@Sugarbee711: I prefer to give traditional gifts, but I don’t think a honeymoon registry is tacky as long as you also have a traditional registry.
Post # 15
I am in my 20s and I love giving gifts off a honeymoon fund! In general, I think it’s a lot of fun to give people experiences that they will enjoy. That said, I’ve seen eyebrows raised from older generations about honeymoon registries. My fiance and I decided not to have one since there were things we wanted for our home.
Post # 16
@missoptimism: I don’t have a honeymoon registry, but I made two registries, each with about 25 items on them, for my very small wedding (26 guests). I absolutely do not expect people to buy everything on the list, but I just put a lot of stuff on there so they’d have options. I also didn’t link to the registry on my website, or include any info about it. I’m only telling people about it if they ask.
I was worried that it might seem rude to put a lot of stuff on there, even though I’m having a small wedding (I should add that mose of the stuff is <$75, and about half is <$40). I ultimately decided that it was better to give people choices on what to buy, than to register for 10 items. Do you think I should take some of the stuff off?