Honeymoon Registry… Tacky?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@smarshall:  There are a number of posts on this topic and they usually err on the side of “tacky.”

Where I come from (New Zealand) they are pretty common and most people I know use them. Most people I know already own a house and all their furniture and other wedding gift stuff. I think it’s a nice idea if you already have everything you need which is typically given as a wedding gift.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I convinced FI to do it…but he was pretty ifffy on it at first too.  we still have the traditional registry, but I set up the honeymoon registry so everything is for gifts of $25, 40, 50,…just broken down into smaller amounts.  Everyone I brought the idea up to loved the idea and said that we should definitely go for it.  I made sure to put lots of details so people will be able to see exactly what their gift would be going. Even my mom was iffy about it originally but when I showed her the “final” version of the website she really liked it and now thinks its a great idea.  We aren’t making it the only registry, but this way there  are options other than the normal household stuff 🙂  Of course I can’t tell you how it went, since we haven’t actually sent that information out yet…but hopefully everyone likes the idea as much as we do!

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Personally, I think it’s tacky.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

People are crazy. I have had many friends use them and it’s AWESOME! If there’s nothing else they want beause the couple has lived together or don’t have space to put all the “wedding stuff” they’ll get, why not gift them with memories!?

I had a friend who took pictures of the gift that was given (romantic dinner on the ocean, snorkeling adventure, sunset drinks cruise, etc) and sent it in the Thank You card to the person who gifted it. That was really sweet!

I think it’s a wonderful idea.

Weddings are changing and becoming modern too. Just because it’s not “traditional”, it doesn’t make the practice “tacky”.

And God Almighty, I’m so sick of seeing that stupid word on this site. “Tacky” needs to be stricken from the dictionary along with “Twerking”.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think they aren’t a good idea, personally. If you do decide to do one, you should be able to afford the trip/activities without others buying them for you. I know someone who had to cancel the honeymoon she planned because she was anticipating people paying for it.

eta: It’s usually considered a faux pas to explicitly ask for cash. People consider them tacky because it’s akin to asking for cash…because it’s essentially what you are doing. Your guests might be paying for an excursion or dinner, but what the couple really gets is cash and not a certificate only good for those activities.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think they’re pretty cool but you run the risk of offending the more traditional crowd.

I also think it’s a kind of complicated way to get money. You have to set it all up and the site takes a percentage for a service charge. Most people around me give money at weddings anyways. Why not just make a small registry of a few things you’d like to upgrade? That way the traditional folks will buy off the registry and everyone else will give you cash. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t really know how it works, but I think it’s cool if people can see what they are buying for you, for example a boat ride, but I think it’s tacky if they are just donating money and they don’t know where its going. I feel like guests take pride in getting you a personal or just plain awesome gift, and throwing any amount of money towards something they can’t see or predict takes away from them feeling like the gift is special.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We did a traditional registry and a honeymoon registry. Our guests loved it, and most went for the honeymoon adventures, rather than the household items.

I think honeymoon registries are becoming increasingly common, as people are waiting longer to marry and have established homes/careers/etc.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s tacky in most cases. 

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