Post # 1
My FI and I have lived in our house for the last 5 yrs, so we have everything we need!
I wanted to register for a honeymoon, as opposed to gifts, however my mother-in-law thinks this is tacky and in poor taste….what should I do????
Post # 3
check out wanderable.com. my sister used them for her honeymoon registry and it is CUTE and CLASSY bc it allows your guests to pay for destination-specific items. like, if your honeymoon was in paris, they could pay for “croissants” or “admission to the L’ouvre”
Post # 4
We have a honeymoon registry with honeyfund.com, and we have received nothing but rave reviews about it! If that’s what you want, go for it. There is no use registering for items you don’t want/need.
Post # 5
As a guest, I like them. I’d rather give the couple something they really WANT as opposed to something they felt like they had to register for just for the sake of tradition.
Post # 6
We did it. We used Honeyfund. Our guests really liked it and every item from the registry was purchased. I know a lot of couples who are doing honeymoon registries these days.
Post # 7
To those with honeymoon registries, what if you planned your honeymoon last minute? Were you able to set up your registry before knowing the specific location?
We are in the same situation and everyone is pressuring me to get a registry but we just don’t need anything!
Post # 8
I suggest adding a tangible gift registry (even if it’s small) because some people really like having something tangible, vs an experience gift or cash. It is what it is. In addition, some people may want to do both (e.g. we had some people give us both cash and a tangible registry gift). So unless you really really want something you don’t need, I would pick a few nice upgrade items or decorative items for a small registry (especially if you are going to have a shower) and then do a huge honeymoon registry.
Post # 10
I don’t mind them as a guest.
However, I have heard lots of negative opinions about them, and for that reason, I would not elect to do one as a bride. I think if you do a very small registry or no registry at all people get the picture. With no registry, people will ask “Oh, where are you registered?” and then you/parents/friends can say “We’ve been so lucky to have everything we need for our home that we chose not to register anywhere. Our next big goals are saving up for X.” That last part is touchy, you have to phrase it right and know your audience.
I will warn you, even with a honeymoon registry, some people WILL want to give physical gifts. If you don’t register at a brick & mortar store, they will pick something you may not like. There’s still that risk even when you do register, but it’s more likely when yo udon’t.
Post # 9
I love honeymoon regsistry’s! I would just make sure to check around before deciding on a specific site to use. I’ve heard that not all of them are created equally, & that some actually just deposit the money given for an item into the couples account (minus a percentage fee of course). I got my best friend & her hubby a romantic dinner on the town off their registry & they didn’t go to any dinner aside from the all-inclusive ones at their hotel, they ended up just using the cash for other honeymoon excursions.
Post # 11
@crystalrae: I don’t mind honeymoon registries, but I did have a friend that did one with no specific location or dates picked out. I totally understand why people do that (can’t afford to go maybe unless they get a certain amount of money?), but I thought that was kind of tacky just to have “To Be Determined” on there.
I think a better way is to pick dates & a location, even if it isn’t booked yet, and have the honeymoon registry represent extras. It’s all cash in the same pot anyway, but I’d prefer to see things like “Ziplining trip” “Champagne breakfast” etc on there rather than basics. That’s just my opinion though.
Post # 12
Another thing to think about on the honeymoon registries – either you or the guests are charged a fee. As a guest, I wouldn’t want to see that fee. As a recipient, I’d really hate that I was losing some of that cash to the registry company.
Post # 13
I think you should do what you want to do and not what your MIL wants you to do. Your life!
We did a honeymoon registry, and tons of people went out of their way to say what a great idea it was!
Post # 14
@NAvery: Actually there are several that do not charge a fee. Honeyfund is one – we used it.
Post # 15
We did it. We were in a similar situation so set up an account with a travel agent. We had no complaints, the guests loved it as they knew they were getting us something we really wanted.
We just made sure to show them all the photos when we got back since they all payd for it!
@crystalrae: With the travel agent account we could chose what to do with the money. We ended up getting cash back as we got way more than expected so we used it for spending money.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I think it depends on where you live and what people think about it. Our parents and friends think it’s a great idea but some of the older people we have talked to don’t like the idea at all. We do not plan to do a regular registry at all.
During my research of many of the individual sites I found that guests preferred to gift experiences and meals rather than plane tickets and hotel rooms. We plan to keep that in mind when planning and we will go ahead and book the plane tickets and hotel rooms then add experiences to the registry. We are planning for a London/Paris honeymoon so experiences would be something like: dinner in a London pub; champagne and a cabaret show at the Moulin Rouge; boatride on the Seine; admission to the Sherlock Holmes museum; cemetery tour, etc…