Honeymoon shortly after wedding or a few months down the road?

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: When did you go on your honeymoon?
    Within a few days of our wedding, and I wouldn't change anything! : (36 votes)
    62 %
    Within a few days of our wedding, but we wish we would've waited. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    A while after the wedding, and it was a great decision! : (19 votes)
    33 %
    A while after the wedding, but I wish we would've just gone right away. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    We didn't go on a honeymoon. Damn you and your first world problems, too! : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re leaving on Tuesday after our Saturday wedding. It’ll be nice to spend time with OOT guests and get everything settled before we leave, and we saved $600 on flights! I personally wouldn’t wait any longer than a couple days because to me it would feel like more of just a trip than a honeymoon. We go on trips all the time so it wouldn’t be as special if we didn’t leave the week after the wedding. We haven’t gone yet obviously but everyone I talked to said they were so happy they went right away. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    3948 posts
    Honey bee

    We left the Monday after our Saturday wedding and it was the best decision we could have made! By that time we were exhausted and needed some down time together. It also would have been a huge let down to have to come back to work a few days after getting married.

    Post # 5
    Member
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @DomesticDiva:  We are leaving on a red-eye late Sunday after our Saturday wedding. I really felt like we would appreciate having a nice getaway immediately after the wedding to unwind and just be together as husband and wife. I know delaying the honeymoon is a great option for some, but for us it felt like it could be anti-climatic and then later we wouldn’t feel like true “honeymooners” still on that just married high.

    Post # 6
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    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I am answering on behalf of my FSIL and FBIL.  They had a very expensive wedding because that is what they wanted and decided to INSTEAD save up for a honeymoon and have a great extravagant one on their 1 year wedding anniversary.

    I personally think this is a cool idea.  They spent more on their special day and then they are going to save so they can have a more special honeymoon and I think it really builds the anticipation.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1195 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @DomesticDiva:  We got married Saturday and flew out Monday.  I loved having an extra day at home to get everything somewhat put back together.  The only thing I might change was maybe doing half the flight on Sunday on a red eye or something.  Our honeymoon was in St. Lucia and there were no direct flights there from Houston.  We had to fly from Houston to Miami (on a 6am flight)…had to leave the house at 3.  Then from Miami to St. Lucia (3 hour flight) and then once in St. Lucia we had an hour and a half drive to our resort.  If we were to do it again, we would fly into Miami late late Sunday and then only have one leg of the trip on Monday.  Sorry I wrote a novel 😉 oh and my sil and bil decided to wait for a few months for a honeymoon and low and behold she got pregnant..so no honeymoon for them.  Another thing to think about.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1599 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are delaying ours (we haven’t actually had it yet.) We got married earlier this month and are hoping to go in feb/march. We delayed it for a few reasons:

    • We want to go for three weeks and I only get 19 days of PTO a year so I needed to roll over some time (husband gets 45 days…stupid french bank!)
    • We’re going to asia so we need lots of travel vaccines and I couldn’t deal with planning that 3 weeks before our wedding
    • Honestly, we just wanted to RELAX and decompress after the wedding. We are both just now feeling relaxed- the added stress of finding housesitters for the dogs and flying 26 hours immediately following a week of no sleep would not have been good for us

    Plus, now we have something else fun to look forward to!

    Post # 9
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    2042 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @DomesticDiva:  We, no I, was under a lot of stress by the time the wedding came around and honestly I had to keep reminding myself of the awesome honeymoon we were going to go on right after.  It was like a gift for having to deal with so much stress. 

    Post # 10
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    627 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We we’re married in June last year and took our honeymoon in Sept.  It was the best decision for us and I would never do it any other way.  It allowed us to look forward and fully enjoy the two events separetly with no stress.  MOney was a little tigher then, and so having them a few months apart let us put more into the wedding and then the honeymoon as we had more time to save inbetween. Also, we got spoiled at our wedding and used the money towards a honeymoon we otherwise couldn’t have afforded. It’s really upto what you’d prefer, I was just so happy to have two things to look forward to as opposed to having it all done in one shot 🙂

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    22135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @DomesticDiva:  Our flight to Maui left about seven hours after our reception ended, and that worked perfectly for us. But we also had a pretty relaxing honeymoon.

    One of my close friends did a mini-moon weekend right after the wedding and then planned a big honeymoon a few months later (during the low season of their jobs when they could actually get away). I thought that was a great idea, because they got to do both!

    Post # 12
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

    My wedding is saturday; and we are leaving Sunday for our honeymoon.
    I doubt we will regret it!
    You get to get away after all the stress from planning your wedding:)

    Post # 13
    Member
    243 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Bostongrl25:  +1

    We got married on a Saturday and left that Monday, and it was perfect. It would’ve felt weird and (as you mentioned) anti-climatic to come to work the next day — but at the same time it was nice to have Sunday to sleep in and pack.

    A vacation, just the two of us, was wonderful and very muchly needed after the stress of the wedding. We just lied on the beach and ate and drank for most of it (some expeditions, but most of the two weeks were just being lazy together).


    … But maybe you have a busier honeymoon planned?

    Post # 14
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    11722 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We waited about 3 months – I was in the middle of my last semester of grad school, so I couldn’t take more time off than I did for the wedding, and it gave me something extra to celebrate!  It was a great decision to wait — we were relaxed, financially recovered, had built some more leave up, and really just enjoyed being on vacation together.

    Post # 15
    Member
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We’re most likely going to have to delay ours because of FI’s 2L summer job. We plan on getting married in late-May and going on our honeymoon sometime in August, when his job is finished. The alternative is getting married in August instead of May, so in that case, we’ll go right away.

    One of my co-workers got married this past summer and waited about a month to go on her honeymoon. She said she’s glad she waited – she really felt like it was a honeymoon, not just a trip, and she was glad to get the feeling back of just getting married a month after the fact.

    Post # 16
    mswallabyBee
    2070 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    We left the day after our wedding, and it would’ve been nice to have one day of rest – if you can relax on Sunday and leave Monday, that sounds perfect!

    Here’s a few reasons why it worked for us:

    -After having tons of family in town for the wedding, it was sooo nice to have some alone time.

    -We moved in together the week of the wedding. It was amazing to go get married, leave for our honeymoon, and come back married and settle in together. Kind of traditional, and so special.

    -We saved ALL of our vacation time for the honeymoon, so if we hadn’t left right away, we would’ve had to go back to work on Monday. womp womp. I think having this big fun wedding and coming home would’ve been a little anticlimactic, and I’m so thankful we were able to go on a honeymoon right away.

    -The whole wedding/honeymoon thing was REALLY expensive. I think it was nice to do it all at once – splurge on the wedding, and splurge on the honeymoon. As soon as we got home, we started saving for a house and we became super-frugal. I think it would be harder to relax and splurge on your honeymoon if you waited a few months. We don’t normally splurge on vacations but since we were our honeymoon we ordered fancy cocktails without worrying about the price, we did a few expensive activities like white-water rafting, etc.

    -When wedding planning got stressful, it was SO nice to be able to think, just get through this and you get to go on an amazing honeymoon! Especially the week of the wedding…I kept focusing on that big trip ahead!

    We went on a very active honeymoon (we traveled to 4 cities in New Zealand and Australia, did lots of hiking, swimming, walking around cities, etc.) and it was still worth it.

     

    I’ve backpacked around Europe before (it’s incredible and you guys are going to have so much fun!) so I can give you a little advice about that-

    -You listed your wedding date as May 24, 2014. Is that true? Because I’d say late May/early June is one of the best times to go to Europe – the weather is warming up but there aren’t swarms of tourists yet.

    -What countries are you going to? That really impacts what time of year is best… Especially if you’re planning on going somewhere Mediterranean, like Greece or Italy – you’ll want to go while it’s warm and sunny if you want to hit the beaches. May/June is probably better than fall.

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