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    LittleAmanda    September 8, 2012   Vermont

    I am pretty lucky, in that, I can choose just about anywhere in the world to go. Depending on costs, we may not be able to stay very long, or afford the fanciest resort, but if I choose somewhere, it will happen. Even if just for a few days.

    So... why can't I decide? I had always had my heart set on Greece. It's beautiful, and I am in love with all things Greek- history, mythology, cuisine. It would have been a no brainer, but their economy is not doing so well at all. The Euro is a little weaker than it has been, but it would still be expensive. They're also experiencing some  discord, and it just doesnt seem like the best time to go. I have similar concerns with Italy (which I would also LOVE to visit). 

    We had talked about India, but that does require TONS of shots. We discussed the caribbean, but we are getting married in hurricane season. (Though, we did discuss going either a couple months before or after the wedding, and then for the "honeymoon" immediately following the wedding, just a small camping trip in New England). Hawaii was another spot on the list. But hoenstly, everything (even Greece! o.O) seems kind of "meh" and I can't understand why. It's my honeymoon! I can go anywhere my heart desires! Why is nothing appealing? How is this one of the harder parts of wedding planning?

    My other question is, passports. Currently, I do not have one. If I get one soon, it will be in my maiden name. When I marry, I am taking my FI's name. Will it matter, if we chose somewhere outside the US, that my passport will still say my maiden name? If so, other than Hawaii, what US places would you recommend?

    Does anyone have any ideas? Did you guys go through any of this when deciding on your honeymoon?

     
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    thanlon_88    June 1, 2012   Ontario

    I'm letting Fi decide on honeymoon - neither of us has travelled and I'm down for anything :) he really wants to go to Greece but unfortunately that is not going to happen this year! i've heard amazing things about Croatia so we may do that and hit up some other European countries :)

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    You can go ahead and get your passport now.  You are allowed to get a new one for free for a name change within a year.  Just have your travel papers in your maiden name also.

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    You pretty much have to travel on the passport that's in your maiden name.  And then, unfortunately you just have to get it changed, which I believe is cheaper if you do it within the year.  I dragged my feet on it and ended up just paying extra $$ to do it a couple years later.

    What are thinking about when you think your honeymoon?  Relaxing on the beach?  You could always hit the ABC islands in the Caribbean, which are pretty immune to hurricane season.  Are you looking for an urban/city-type honeymoon?  Maybe watch some travel shows to get some ideas/narrow things down?  We watch a lot of No Reservations/Bizarre Foods, which is how we got so excited about our trip to Thailand next year.

    Hawaii makes me feel kinda meh as well LoL.  The only thing I could think of in the U.S. in September would be Napa Valley, maybe?  My first thought went to South Beach, Miami, but it's hurricane season there too!

     

     
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    pinkshoes    July 2011   MA

    You can get your passport now in your madien name, you have 1 year from the date of issue to update it due to marriage/name change, and you will not have to pay for a new passport.

    We let price determine where we went on the honeymoon.  Our usual vacation are run around see everything we can super busy types, so I let my husband have his one beach vacation.  I REAAAAALLLY wanted to go to Greece also, but he didnt think I could do a relaxing Greek trip - and he's right.  So we made reservations at several different hotels in the Carribean (all with easy cancellation policy), then just waited to see which had the best airfare.  We ended up at St John.

    We're going to Italy and probably Greece this Sept also as long as its safe and hell and riots have broken out.  I think people are still traveling and a little economic craziness shouldnt stop you.  It's months away, who knows what it will be like.. book it, buy trip insurnace, and have a small back up plan.

     
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    LittleAmanda    September 8, 2012   Vermont

    Thanks for all the advice! I am glad the passport situation won't end up being terribly complicated, after all.

    I think I am just a bit overwhelmed, because I would like to do everything, every where. My FI has been on lots of trips to different countries, but I have never been anywhere. I sort of feel like "Where do i even start?" and instead of getting excited about possibilities, I seem to find fault in all of them. 

    @thanlon_88 I've also heard a lot about Croatia, lately. That's definitely an option! I think it's a great idea, too, to have your FI choose somewhere. 

    @hotchildinthecity Honestly, either beach or urban would be fine by me! I think that's where my problem lies. So many options! I do love Bizarre Foods, though. Maybe you're right, I'll see somewhere on those shows and be hooked. Good idea!

    @pinkshoes I think that may be what I am going to do, just go to Greece. You're right, it could get a lot better between now and then. I also don't want to run into the problem of not going now, when I have the chance, if things only get worse over there. I can imagine it would suck, if five years from now Greece is in worse shape and I am saying to myself, "Why didn't we just go on our honeymoon? NOW, we really can't afford it!" That would be awful, to NEVER get to go! I hope we can squeeze a little bit of Italy in, also. SO BEAUTIFUL.

    I really appreciate everyone's help!

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    @LittleAmanda: I felt SO overwhelmed as well.  We had a decent budget, so we just felt swalllowed up by all the choices.  We narrowed it down to beach + a little adventure, and not a place that's swarmed with cruise ships and all-inclusives.  We ended up in Anguilla.  Sometimes if you just even pick little things to narrow it down, you can start eliminating places rather than trying to start from scratch.

     
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    andielovesj    August 13, 2011  

    I will always vote India.  As long as your shots are otherwise up to date you probably only have to get 1 shot (and if you are in the typical touristy areas you may not even need Typhoid).

     
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    angarrett81    September 15, 2012   live in Hoboken / wedding in VA

    We're going to Greece 2 weeks after your wedding for our honeymoon!  I wouldn't take Greece off the table necessarily - I did a lot of research and found that most places that people want to go visit in Greece are not places experiencing extreme discord.  We are spending most of our time in the islands but even going to Athens for a couple days.  And we got a pretty good deal because of the economy issues.  Just my two cents. Smile

     
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    LittleAmanda    September 8, 2012   Vermont

    You've all been so helpful! We have decided, Greece it is! 

     

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