(Closed) Honeymoon tip jar/ Money tree at reception…tack and rude?

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Tacky in my social circle.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Weddings are not fundraisers. The end.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

hmmm… I don’t love the idea for the wedding.

It reminds me of a tip jar at a bar or coffee shop and I think it does bring the level of class down and possibly creates an awkward feeling in guests who would just as soon write a check and put it in their well-wishing card.

Have you heard of honeyfund?

http://www.honeyfund.com

Its a website where guests can donate with their credit cards so its a little more tasteful/anonymous to give financial gifts and with credit cards they might even get a kick back with points/etc.

I have been to weddings with money dances here in CA but its always kinda akward at first and I don’t love the idea of being paid for a dance either… its totally up to you tho.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Tacky around here. People are already bringing you a gift.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Agree with pp and your FMIL, it’s bad form. You’re guests are already bringing a present, asking for more just feels greedy.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it depends on where you’re from…

I know when I first started discussing wedding plans, I wasn’t going to have a dj, and my moms basic reaction was, WHAT ABOUT THE DOLLAR DANCE? I got alot of grief over NOT having it. It’s pretty much expected in our family.

I’ve been to weddings that had a money jar, I thought it was cute, not tacky. And at the end of the night, it was filled up. Guests wrote cute little notes and wishes for what the couple should do with the money, “have a drink on me!”, “buy some aspirin after a long night!” ect.

I could see how in very wealthy areas it wouldn’t be accepted.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

What about setting up two jars: Bride and Groom. Guests bet on who’s going to get tthe cake smushed on their face. And you get to keep the money. It’s a fun way to feet a few extra dollars, nothing crazy. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Using a wedding as a fund raiser is not appropriate. I would vote tacky. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It depends on region and custom, I think. My European roots would have me do something like a dollar dance. I’ve not really thought about it yet though. I certainly don’t think it’s any different from the tradition of holding a party before the wedding and making guests pay for tickets in order to fund the wedding, which is popular in many places.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m gonna disagree with most Bee’s. But then, I don’t tihnkI would ever call someone else’s idea for their own wedding tacky, even if they asked outright.

 

Do whatcha gotta do, lady!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think having a tip jar out for your wedding is highly inappropriate, and that’s basically what you’re suggesting. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@amanda1221:  This is a better idea then just having a “honeymoon” jar or something. I’ve seen it online where there are 2 jars or I think wine glasses in the pics I’ve seen & a sign saying something like “who wears the cake?”

I see nothing wrong with the dollar dance AT ALL but it’s always done in my family. Many people on here find it tacky but it depends on your family and your customs. If it’s popular in your circle, don’t pay attention to people who throw around the word “tacky.” If it’ll come off odd to most people or you don’t think they’ll understand it or find it fun, then don’t do it. I don’t think I’d do a dollar dance if you’re not having dancing though.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Asia:  I have grown to despise the word “tacky” because of how often it is thrown around on here! lol I agree that I would never call something I didn’t like tacky, ESP without knowing the person & their culture, family, traditions, etc

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