Post # 1
we’ll have our wedding six days short of our daughter’s first birthday. We’re not quite sure yet when we’re going to go on our honeymoon. Shortly after her bday or a a bit later in the year, depending on work (I’ll have just started my job again after maternity leave) and the weather at wherever we’ll end up.
I’ve always been dreaming of a “classical” honeymoon, i.e. Seychelles or the like.
However, I’m not sure how this is going to work for our daughter: long-distance flight, beach vacation, etc.? It’ll probably be the first long-distance (or even any-distance) flight for he. we’ll definitely take her along, leaving her with the grandparents is not an option for us. Also, we probably wouldn’t take anyone with us so we’d really need to make sure the vacation is fun for her as well.
What do you say? would you advise not to travel too far away? How long should the flight be max? How many stops max? Obviously, the shorter, the better – but being in Germany and wanting a “classical” dream destination isn’t really gonna go well together, is it…
Thanks for any advice and experiences you can share.
Post # 3
If you are in Germany then I am not a ton of help. But maybe look in the 4 hour range. Is it posible to head over to London?
Post # 4
@MsquareM: Why can’t you leave your daughter with her grandparents? Do you feel that she’s too young to leave with anyone for that length of time?
Your honeymoon is supposed to be a time for you and your husband to just enjoy each other’s company and relax without any other distractions. I don’t think taking a one year old on your honeymoon seems practical – she’s at an age where she constantly has to be entertained and supervised, and if she’s never flown before a long distance flight might be too much for her.
Would you consider taking a family vacation with your daughter after your wedding, and then having a honeymoon maybe next year when you feel more able to have her grandparents care for her? You’ll probably be doing a lot of family things on this trip anyway and this way you still get to have the honeymoon you always wanted, just at a later date.
Post # 5
@WaitingDogMama: London would be feasible flight duration-wise (roughly two hours). no offense to the UK bees though, but I’m seriously not gonna do a honeymoon in London 😉 I live the city, but more for a weekend trip.
my SO and me love traveling and have seen quite a few places (Mexico, Brazil, South Africa, …) and i’d like our honeymoon to stand out and rather be sth we wouldn’t do otherwise in the next twenty years. Perhaps I’d need to look into some islands in the Atlantic more closely, even if they won’t really feel very seychelles-y 😉
Post # 6
Mallorca? Greece and/or the Greek islands?
Post # 7
@Ruby-Redshoes: that’s right, we wouldn’t want to leave her with someone else for such a long time. She won’t even be in kindergarten by that time, so she’ll be very used to having us around. also, we really don’t see out daughter as a distraction 🙂 we’re excited to get married but she’s so much more important to us than enjoying just each other’s company.
So yeah, that’s really out if the window 😉 even if she was a year older, any vacation, regardless of honeymoon or not, just wouldn’t feel right without her and with all the worrying I’m sure we’d have a worse time than dealing with child-friendly entertainment 😉
hoping for bees who have gone long-distance with a little kid on their honeymoon and it’s been great for the child as well??
Post # 8
@Glasgowbound: those are lovely destinations and I could definitely see ourselves taking a lovely vacation there however it would feel too “normal” for me to be our honeymoon. Yes I am being difficult I’m sorry 😉
Post # 9
@MsquareM: I feel for you! I also want the rather more classical honeymoon destination: maledives.
What about the canary islands? Like Fuerteventura, etc. It is a little bit further out, but still close enough for the little one.
If it helps at all….when I was little, my parents lived in China for a couple of years and they took me with them when I turned 6 months….when I was 1 1/2 we flew back and apparently it wasn’t an issue. I was happy collecting shoes of other passengers and throwing them on a pile while they were sleeping… Obviously, I don’t know if I was cranky after the flight, but I’d imagine that the time difference might throw off your daughters’ sleeping pattern….
Post # 10
I don’t have kids, so I have no first hand experience in travelling with small kids.
However, I love travelling and won’t stop doing so once we have a child, thus I have researched the subject a bit. I live in Scandinavia, and I know that travelling to say Thailand with a baby is not that rare, and it’s about an 11 hour flight from here. Just pack enough entertainment for the kid, and you should be fine. Take-off and landing can be the most difficult parts, because of pain in the ears, so a direct flight may be a good idea.
I’d look into Mauritius or Thailand, because they are tropical paradises and seem to have lots of family-friendly hotels. Mauritius might be good because of smaller time difference.
Post # 11
@MsquareM: A lot of resorts have amazing child activities and fun things to do as a family, so I am sure you’ll have a great time wherever you go! I am not a mom, yet but my cousins have babies and each of their experiences are different. Each child has a different level of tolerance for being on a plane, but I do know that all of the babies have done okay on 5 hour flights (from Califrnia to Hawaii and from California to the east coast).
Post # 12
I can understand not wanting to honeymoon in London – I live here and it’s great but absolutely not relaxing!
i think you could probably continue with your plan. I started flying long hail st 5 months old, there’s really no minimum. And if you want to keep travelling, you’re probably best off starting her young. I would consider investigating places with direct flights if possible though.
Maybe a slight compromise would be looking to rent an apartment/villa. That way you get to be where you want, but you can also have easy control over her food and a quiet, shady place to retreat to when you/she need it. I’ve found a lot of hotels in the Caribbean offer apartments – so you have hotel service, but also a kitchen etc.
as for entertainment – firstly for this I’d invest in an iPad, it’s not something you want all the time, but for travelling the films and intersvtive books are a godsend. Secondly, what toddler isn’t entertained by a bicket and spade on the sand!
I think think a family honeymoon is lovely, it shows that you value the limited time you have to be 100% in one another’s company.
Post # 13
we’re doing a destination wedding/honeymoon at the same place. we have a 2 yr old daughter that we are bringing with us. my parents are attending so they will be watching our daughter most of the time we are there for our honeymoon. We do not mind that our honeymoon will not be the classic “just the two of us” type of thing. We had a child out of wedlock and well, it is what it is! hehe 🙂
we plan on having “just the two of us romantic trip/second chance honeymoon” for our 10 year anniversary. kids will be older and i wouldn’t feel as bad leaving them with somebody for a week or so.
Post # 14
I don’t have advise on where to go but I just wanted to chime in and say my daughter has been all over the world with me and she behaves and loves traveling. Just like with anything else kids get used to it. I say take a long flight go and dont limit yourself to flight times that you would think is best for a baby. The worst part for kids is the airport i think anyway.
Post # 15
@MsquareM: Hi there, I am taking my son on our honeymoon too although he will be nearly 6 so it will be a bit different for us, we are going on a lakes and mountains holiday. Don;t let anyone tell you its not a honeymoon as you have your baby with you, you have a family now and I feel that any child should be part of that celebration, I mean how could you even relax properly being that far away from your baby.
Personally I really wouldn’t recommend long haul with a baby of that age nor would I recommend such a resort as they Seychelles… Its just a long way and a lot of money for a baby who just won’t appreciate it, and I just think that it would be really stressful. You would also have to prepare yourself for any rude passengers that see any child and on a plane and look at you in horror.. if your baby was to start crying on a long haul flight when people are trying to sleep then that would be very stressful for you… just a warning as some people forget that they were children themselves
I would personally go somewhere thats really special in europe and save the seychelles until your daughter is at least 4/5, I would say the holiday when my son was nearly 5 was when he could most enjoy the place, be able to sit down for meals, take more interest in days out and most importantly remember it.
I think the best beach resort in europe is Sardinia, it is absolutely stunning there. In my opinion its the closest you can get to the caribbean in europe, it is just my favourite place… but its also not that cheap
Another suggestion is a new island for tourism in Portugal called Porto Santo, very close to the island of maderia but much smaller… it is just beaches everywhere and feels really tropical.
Also Santorini in Greece is definitely one to consider… it is one of the more expensive greek islands but also very special
Cyprus is beautiful yet also kid orientated
There is also the Cape Verde islands in Africa but the sea can be quite rough there
I would just plan to go to the seychelles on your 3/4/5th wedding anniversary. Good luck choosing
Post # 16
@Aprilsfool: Well, the Canarys would feel like regular summer vacation again … The China trip sounds great, though – glad to hear the travel wasn’t a problem for you back then!