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We are getting married in July, but since we have weddings to attend the two weekends after ours, FI and I decided to postpone for a couple of months. We are now thinking that we'll go sometime in either Nov or Dec. This way we'll get a couple of months to get into our new married life routine and once it gets cold we can jet away for a warm week in Hawaii!
As to the minimoon - we are thinking that we might go up to Maine or something for a couple of days right after the wedding just to get away.
We're getting married in March, and due to our jobs we have postponed our honeymoon until the summer (we both work in Education). We're off to San Fran and Napa so we figured the early summer would be a nice time to go and much less stressful.
We too have been offered a minimoon (great description, rasgoola!). As we are having a wedding OOT, if we can get the time off, our parents have offered to pay for us to go to a Five Star Resort on our drive back home.
We are considering for financial and job reasons. I may be taking a new job and don't know if I can take the time off that soon.
A friend of mine got married a few years ago, and she and her husband took a delayed honeymoon. They were young, a college senior and a recent college graduate, and paid for their wedding themselves on a tiny ($4,000!) budget. Needless to say, they could not afford a honeymoon right away. They saved for about a year and then went to Aruba for a week, and they had an amazing time.
I talked to her about it recently, and she said that despite the stress of their small budget, they were really happy that they did not have to go into debt to have their wedding. I'm sure they have similar sentiments about the honeymoon -- they're happy that they didn't spend money they didn't have on doing it right away. They saved up for it, and I'm sure they were able to enjoy the trip more knowing that the money they were spending was meant for that purpose.
I think my FI and I will do the same, actually. I don't see any problem with delaying the honeymoon if that's what works best for you financially.
We're getting married in October, but honeymooning the following June-- it's a better time of year to travel to where we want to go (Bora Bora and Moorea), and gives us more time to save, as well as more vacation time free from work.
Plus this way, you'll have TWO things to look forward to-- I say stretch it out, especially since summer is the available time for what you want to do. I have a feeling that immediately following the wedding, I'll be in a bit of an overwhelmed daze, and not really ready for a big fancy trip. This way, I imagine we can fully enjoy the honeymoon, without needing lots of extra sleep just to recover from the wedding stress and travel (I'm getting married back "home" in the US, but live in the UK).
We are, however, having a quick, fun, minimoon a few days after the wedding.
If you have your heart set on a specific destination or just can't afford the $ or time off, then postponing makes sense. However, I will say that it would seem more like a great vacation than a true honeymoon. I might be biased because we did the traditional honeymoon after the wedding thing, but that just-married a few days ago high coupled with a great vacation is an amazing once in a lifetime experience. The glow from the wedding, from having a new husband, all the great times.....ahhhhh. Having been married now since June, I don't feel like going on a vacation at this point would quite capture that magical honeymoon feeling.....although I sure would love another vacation :)
@Janna19 - that's exactly what I worry about! I know it'll still be fun to get away but I do worry that it's not going to be a true honeymoon with the happy/glowy just got married aspect to it.
Does anyone else worry about that?
We got married the weekend of Thanksgiving for a variety of scheduling reasons, and I'm in grad school so we had to delay the honeymoon. We had a Jersey minimoon for a few days after the wedding, and then went to Hawai'i for a week in Jan once the semester was over. Best. Decision. Ever. I say go for it -- the minimoon is fun and celebratory, and it gives you time to catch up on sleep, save, and plan at length for the real honeymoon! (Plus, it's something to shake any post-wedding blues.)
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Postponing can also be tricky. Several married friends of ours planned to go on delayed honeymoons. Three years later, none of them have. They got wrapped up in buying houses and having babies. As a newlywed myself, we are finding that our financial priorities have changed greatly since our wedding. We would not want to spend money on a honeymoon now because we are saving up for a house. I'm glad we went right after the wedding. It would be a shame to never get to go at all!
We are getting married in June and not planning to go on honeymoon until the freezing winter next year to somewhere warmer to get away from the cold. As long as you have the plans in place, I think it's actually better to extend the joy of getting married a little longer. :)
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We'll be getting married in January and waiting until late March/early April to go to Paris for both financial and weather related reasons.
I'd say you and your FH could either wait 6 months and do Nepal (maybe just take the Sunday and Monday after your wedding off for a mini-moon somewhere local), or wait a year, save intensely, and take your dream trip to Africa. Don't give up on that dream!
I hope that helps! Good luck!
If we have a wedding, we'll probably do it and then honeymoon immediately. If we don't, we'll probably just pick a nice date and marry in the courthouse, but still won't honeymoon until summer 2010 [which is when our wedding would be] because of school commitments.
We went on a honeymoon immediately, but as far as I am concerned any vacation I take in the first year is a honeymoon (and maybe a few thereafter?:-D)! We have friends who have so far been on four or five "honeymoons." We are going to San Diego next month for a dance weekend and as far as I'm concerned it's honeymoon part deux!
No matter when you go, really I think this question is about prioritizing vacationing together. Some couples never go on trips and others go on lots. And they don't necessarily have to be big or expensive trips, it's just making time to do fun things together. You don't need to be recently married for that, although it is an excellent excuse :)
My friend who got married last year took a week long minimoon in Hilton Head following her wedding (her husband is surgical resident and is restricted as to how much and when can he take vacation). They went on their HM to Italy about 6 months later. It worked for them, and honestly, two vacations are always better than one.
We are planning our wedding in September and might not go on our HM immediately following the wedding since I applied to graduate school and if I get in, I would have classes at the time of our wedding.
I don't think it's all that rare anymore.
Our wedding is April 4th, 2009 and we have not even begun to plan a honeymoon. Mostly because we are putting a lot of our own money into the wedding and purchasing a home at the same time... but also because I don't feel a honeymoon is completely necessary at this time. My FI and I have been on many fabulous trips together.. and plan on many more, I don't think an immediate honeymoon is necessary. Plus for us, fall trips are much cheaper than spring/summer.
Our wedding is in June - the BEST time of year in Vermont. We didn't want to leave New England until the winter (which are cold and LONG). So, we are going four our minimoon in Saratoga Springs, NY (we wanted some place not too far that we could take the jeep) and will book a full-blown honeymoon in early December (which is just prior to the rate-hikes, it seems!). Can't wait! :)
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If it's not plausible to take a honeymoon right after the wedding, at least take a minimoon for a few days to enjoy being married. And start making concrete plans for the postponed honeymoon so that you can ensure it will really get to happen!
We didn't wait months to go on ours, but we did wait 6 weeks. We had a semi-destination wedding, ie in my hometown where no one resides anymore, but not a popular dw spot although it as in Florida.
I can say I am so glad we decided to wait! It was nice to come home and decompress and just be married without having to plan the wedding and then be whisked away on our honeymoon. It also gave us time to really think about our honeymoon and figure out where we wanted to go and see.
I say do what is best for you, but I don't think waiting weeks or months to go on a honeymoon is a bad idea.
I say minimoon, minimoon minimoon. My whole family, extended and immidiate, plus a lot of recently married friends, have insisted on a minimoon for us. They all say the most wonderful thing is enjoying /experiencing a few days of "oh my god we are married" without the distraction of real life. Those that didn't and postponed it, even a few weeks, say they wish they had had time to get over the huge event that was their weddings - even if they were small.
We will minimoon, then postpone the real thing because of:
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We are considering it, too. We really want to go to St. Lucia but are getting married at the end of August and, as you know, this starts hurricane season in the Caribbean! Our second option was Cabo San Lucas, Mexico but I am too afraid to go to Mexico with all of the drug wars now. So, though we really want to honeymoon right after our wedding, we don't think we'll be able to swing it if we go to St. Lucia. Another option (and my favorite) is Greece but I think that would be more than the $6k we want to spend honeymooning...
So it looks like November honeymoon for us! :(
If we wait we are planning on going on a "minimoon" too up north to my family's cabin in Door County, WI for 3 days after the wedding. There would be nothing worse than going right back to work on Monday!
We are getting married in May but won't be taking our honeymoon until July. Financially we will be a little better off after saving a bit after the wedding. We are just taking the Monday after the wedding weekend to spend a little more time getting things settled before going back to work Tuesday. It's not ideal but it's what we have to do out of necessity. :( If you can, you should take a minimoon and spend time together, and then make it a priority to go on your dream trip when you can. Good luck! :)
We are going to do a minimoon and then go on a real honeymoon for one of our anniversaries. It will still be nice to get away for a little bit. :)
We're getting married in May (just over a month and 1/2 away) and we aren't going on a honeymoon until next year probably. We can't afford anything right now, my my FI is going to school right now to be an EMT, so he's super busy with that. I also have a lot more responsibilities at work right now, so I need to concretrate on that stuff.
We're planning it now, trying to figure out what we want, so we can save our money for it :)
We're getting married in June, but we aren't leaving on our honeymoon (a Mediterranean cruise) until August. We planned it that way so we could leave right after I finish taking the bar exam.
We're getting married this September but probably not honeymooning until 2010. I'm hoping we can save up enough to visit a really tropical location like Bali or Bora Bora. Woo hoo!
We're staying in our wedding location (Vegas) for a few extra days as kind of a mini-honeymoon.
we just got married this weekend and won't be going on our honeymoon until july. (i'm a teacher.) it was bad enough having to do sub plans for the days i was going to be out and i was sooooooo incredibly tired after the wedding... so i'm glad we're not going anywhere until 4 months later... there's so much to do at the house (unpack gifts, rest, rest, rest.. ) i don't think there's anything wrong with not going right away... :)
My sis and bro in law waited a month before going to the Bahamas. He was a senior in medical school and she had just graduated from college..they also waited until after the holidays with family as they married the week before Christmas!
We are doing things a little differently. We have lots of family that will be in town for our wedding weekend, so we are planning a "morning-after brunch" for all of our guests who want to attend.
That afternoon, we plan to leave for our "minimoon," which will last 3 days. Then we will return to the real world. Because we are not going to live together prior to the wedding, there will probably still be some moving of furniture and things before we go back to work the following week.
Right now we are looking at houses, and hope to buy one before the wedding, so saving money on the honeymoon is really a bonus for us. We figure that there will be plenty of traveling in our future, so there is no reason to spend a bundle immediately following the wedding.
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We might do this too. We might not have the $$ for it yet. So we just might do a cabin in the mountains or something for that weekend.
My fiance and I are waiting 2 months for our honeymoon. I just started a new job and can't take time off for a while, plus we both have kids from previous marriages so we are waiting until our exes have the kids for vacation time in the fall- then we will take our honeymoon. He and I are taking 4 days after our wedding just for ourselves at a cabin in the mountains, then our honeymoon will be in the fall for 2 weeks. In a way I would really like to take the full 2 weeks right after the wedding- but with the kids we have decided that our main focus after the wedding is the transition for our kids- and not time alone.
The deciding factor for us was that when we started comparing prices of flying and hotels we will be saving a lot of money on the honeymoon being off season.
It's not ideal and massivly romantic- but life with kids rarely romantic anway. Lol But we do what we have to for our kids.
But, I will not lie and say that I will be chomping at the bit to have him all to myself for two whole weeks during those two months. But we are using this neat website to help pay for our honeymoon - since we have enough things for two households the last thing we want is another set of pots and pans or decorations that are not our taste. So, we are registered here where people can give us a cash gift that we can use on our two weeks in Europe. tours and even an upgrade in our airline tickets.
http://jewel.honeymoonwishes.com/
I would highly recommed using the site, its easy and fun.
Mrs. Sea,
I was faced with the same exact decision, as I'm getting married at the end of September and our dream honeymoon is in Australia. If we could afford it now, it would work out great! Probably spring in Australia. But since we can't, I opted for the minimoon, and we'll have to postpone Australia for a full year! Our "minimoon" will be long though (7 days), because we are doing something so extremely cheap: Roadtripping! (I really think people get so focused on other countries they underestimate just how much there is to see in the U.S.) So I'm hoping it will still be a fun adventure for us just after the wedding, and I didnt have to sacrifice Australia dreams -- best of both worlds.
Hey Miss Sea Spray, we got married on December and haven't gone to honeymoon yet. Timing and money are some of the hold back.
But we are having fun in our new home and enjoying each other's presence so much, it's honeymoon on a different level 
. We also go for "minimoon"s like EngagedToPanda mentioned above. Doing things together with the love of your life is always a pleasure.
Mean while, we're keeping our eyes open for destination honeymoon and will fosho have fun when the time comes! (Australia, Bali, or Europe we're coming)! 
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Your thoughts & experiences?
My Fiance and I are getting married in winter 2009. We initially picked this date because it was cheaper and because of our ideal honeymoon. We want to go to Africa to hike Mount Kilamanjaro in Tanzania. It will be their summer that time, and it is the best time to hike it. However, after realizing that we CAN NOT afford this whatsoever. (SO so sad), we are thinking of doing the annapurna trek in Nepal. However, you can't do it until our summer time. We would have to wait about 6 months. BLAH!
Has anyone waited to go on your honeymoon? Did you opt for a minimoon right after the wedding instead?