Post # 1
Your thoughts & experiences?
My Fiance and I are getting married in winter 2009. We initially picked this date because it was cheaper and because of our ideal honeymoon. We want to go to Africa to hike Mount Kilamanjaro in Tanzania. It will be their summer that time, and it is the best time to hike it. However, after realizing that we CAN NOT afford this whatsoever. (SO so sad), we are thinking of doing the annapurna trek in Nepal. However, you can’t do it until our summer time. We would have to wait about 6 months. BLAH!
Has anyone waited to go on your honeymoon? Did you opt for a minimoon right after the wedding instead?
Post # 3
We are getting married in July, but since we have weddings to attend the two weekends after ours, Fiance and I decided to postpone for a couple of months. We are now thinking that we’ll go sometime in either Nov or Dec. This way we’ll get a couple of months to get into our new married life routine and once it gets cold we can jet away for a warm week in Hawaii!
As to the minimoon – we are thinking that we might go up to Maine or something for a couple of days right after the wedding just to get away.
Post # 4
We’re getting married in March, and due to our jobs we have postponed our honeymoon until the summer (we both work in Education). We’re off to San Fran and Napa so we figured the early summer would be a nice time to go and much less stressful.
We too have been offered a minimoon (great description, rasgoola!). As we are having a wedding Out of Town, if we can get the time off, our parents have offered to pay for us to go to a Five Star Resort on our drive back home.
Post # 5
We are considering for financial and job reasons. I may be taking a new job and don’t know if I can take the time off that soon.
Post # 6
A friend of mine got married a few years ago, and she and her husband took a delayed honeymoon. They were young, a college senior and a recent college graduate, and paid for their wedding themselves on a tiny ($4,000!) budget. Needless to say, they could not afford a honeymoon right away. They saved for about a year and then went to Aruba for a week, and they had an amazing time.
I talked to her about it recently, and she said that despite the stress of their small budget, they were really happy that they did not have to go into debt to have their wedding. I’m sure they have similar sentiments about the honeymoon — they’re happy that they didn’t spend money they didn’t have on doing it right away. They saved up for it, and I’m sure they were able to enjoy the trip more knowing that the money they were spending was meant for that purpose.
I think my Fiance and I will do the same, actually. I don’t see any problem with delaying the honeymoon if that’s what works best for you financially.
Post # 7
We’re getting married in October, but honeymooning the following June– it’s a better time of year to travel to where we want to go (Bora Bora and Moorea), and gives us more time to save, as well as more vacation time free from work.
Plus this way, you’ll have TWO things to look forward to– I say stretch it out, especially since summer is the available time for what you want to do. I have a feeling that immediately following the wedding, I’ll be in a bit of an overwhelmed daze, and not really ready for a big fancy trip. This way, I imagine we can fully enjoy the honeymoon, without needing lots of extra sleep just to recover from the wedding stress and travel (I’m getting married back "home" in the US, but live in the UK).
We are, however, having a quick, fun, minimoon a few days after the wedding.
Post # 8
If you have your heart set on a specific destination or just can’t afford the $ or time off, then postponing makes sense. However, I will say that it would seem more like a great vacation than a true honeymoon. I might be biased because we did the traditional honeymoon after the wedding thing, but that just-married a few days ago high coupled with a great vacation is an amazing once in a lifetime experience. The glow from the wedding, from having a new husband, all the great times…..ahhhhh. Having been married now since June, I don’t feel like going on a vacation at this point would quite capture that magical honeymoon feeling…..although I sure would love another vacation 🙂
Post # 9
@Janna19 – that’s exactly what I worry about! I know it’ll still be fun to get away but I do worry that it’s not going to be a true honeymoon with the happy/glowy just got married aspect to it.
Does anyone else worry about that?
Post # 10
We got married the weekend of Thanksgiving for a variety of scheduling reasons, and I’m in grad school so we had to delay the honeymoon. We had a Jersey minimoon for a few days after the wedding, and then went to Hawai’i for a week in Jan once the semester was over. Best. Decision. Ever. I say go for it — the minimoon is fun and celebratory, and it gives you time to catch up on sleep, save, and plan at length for the real honeymoon! (Plus, it’s something to shake any post-wedding blues.)
Post # 11
Postponing can also be tricky. Several married friends of ours planned to go on delayed honeymoons. Three years later, none of them have. They got wrapped up in buying houses and having babies. As a newlywed myself, we are finding that our financial priorities have changed greatly since our wedding. We would not want to spend money on a honeymoon now because we are saving up for a house. I’m glad we went right after the wedding. It would be a shame to never get to go at all!
Post # 12
We are getting married in June and not planning to go on honeymoon until the freezing winter next year to somewhere warmer to get away from the cold. As long as you have the plans in place, I think it’s actually better to extend the joy of getting married a little longer. 🙂
Post # 13
We’ll be getting married in January and waiting until late March/early April to go to Paris for both financial and weather related reasons.
I’d say you and your FH could either wait 6 months and do Nepal (maybe just take the Sunday and Monday after your wedding off for a mini-moon somewhere local), or wait a year, save intensely, and take your dream trip to Africa. Don’t give up on that dream!
I hope that helps! Good luck!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
If we have a wedding, we’ll probably do it and then honeymoon immediately. If we don’t, we’ll probably just pick a nice date and marry in the courthouse, but still won’t honeymoon until summer 2010 [which is when our wedding would be] because of school commitments.
Post # 15
We went on a honeymoon immediately, but as far as I am concerned any vacation I take in the first year is a honeymoon (and maybe a few thereafter?:-D)! We have friends who have so far been on four or five "honeymoons." We are going to San Diego next month for a dance weekend and as far as I’m concerned it’s honeymoon part deux!
No matter when you go, really I think this question is about prioritizing vacationing together. Some couples never go on trips and others go on lots. And they don’t necessarily have to be big or expensive trips, it’s just making time to do fun things together. You don’t need to be recently married for that, although it is an excellent excuse 🙂
Post # 16
My friend who got married last year took a week long minimoon in Hilton Head following her wedding (her husband is surgical resident and is restricted as to how much and when can he take vacation). They went on their Honeymoon to Italy about 6 months later. It worked for them, and honestly, two vacations are always better than one.
We are planning our wedding in September and might not go on our Honeymoon immediately following the wedding since I applied to graduate school and if I get in, I would have classes at the time of our wedding.
I don’t think it’s all that rare anymore.