Post # 1
My FI and I have started talking about what to do for our honeymoon. He has pretty much left it up to me for where I want to go, ha. Mexico has been ruled out, as neither of us wants to go there. At this point, I’m thinking Dominican Republic, a Sandals resort (Bahamas, St. Lucia), or anyplace else in the Caribbean. We’re getting married in October, but would do the honeymoon in either January or February 2015.
Last night, his sister asked us if we were interested in going with her and her husband somewhere to celebrate their 10-year anniversary, and also would be celebrating our honeymoon. They were thinking of Puerto Rico in January, as you wouldn’t have to get a passport and have had good reviews with the resport she had been looking at. She said that she knew that we probably wanted to be by ourselves for this trip, but that it would be kind of fun to have another couple along to do things with, but not everything.
I’m debating, as I see pros and cons of saying yes and saying no. A part of me wants to say no, as my FI and I never travel anywhere… so going someplace tropical together would be a treat. However, it would be fun with them as we hang out with them the most out of anyone else we know. Plus, I’ve known other friends who have gone on their honeymoons in a group and they’ve had fun… so I know it’s not uncommon.
Has anyone gone on their honeymoon with another couple?
Post # 2
I would do it for any trip other than my honeymoon.
Post # 3
Kacie209: I wouldn’t do it. Maybe you can plan a trip with them for another time, but this is the time for you and your brand new husband to unwind after the wedding and just enjoy each other.
Post # 4
No, no, no. This is your honeymoon. The ONE vacation that you should take alone.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
You get ONE honeymoon [hopefully haha] & this is the only vacation I would probably have to turn down if it included anyone other than my husband!
You seem intrigued though & so don’t let some of our random opinions affect your special time if going with other people is right up your alley!
Post # 6
No WAY!! Unless you guys are super bored of each other that you NEED entertainment from another couple. Other wise HELLS NO!!
Post # 7
Kacie209: Why would you not need a passport to go to Puerto Rico? (just curious) Anytime you fly somewhere, whether its in your own country or not, you need a passport. I’m not sure how that works if you are taking a cruise. And although I haven’t had my honeymoon yet, a lot of my friends have. They all went alone and said they’ve met other couples at these resorts while on their honeymoon and had a great time! I don’t think I’d wanna go with my brother and his wife on a vaction/honeymoon with my fiance even though we get along just fine. I would have to say no to this one as you said you and your fiance never travel together. I wouldn’t want to go on a trip where i’d have to work on someone elses itinary. I would ask your fiance how he feels about the situation and make a decision that you both can agree on!
Post # 8
Mez03: what are you talking about? If she is departing from anywhere in the US, she can go to Puerto Rico, Guam, etc with just a driver’s license. It would be the same as flying from Idaho to Oregon.
Post # 9
I would definitely NOT do it for my honeymoon! I think that alone time right after you get married is very important. There will be plenty of opportunities to go on trips with your sister.
Post # 10
Honestly, my fiance and I have talked about this before. His dad is getting married 2 months before us and we absolutely love spending time with them! If you sometimes end up getting in arguments with your SIL, I wouldn’t do it…there’s no way I would take that trip with my SIL but my FIL I would definitely! One, it cuts down some cost, and two, my fiance although we enjoy doing things just us, we also like having another couple to do things with. It makes the experience better for us.
Post # 11
Don’t share your honeymoon! Savor the flavor!
Post # 12
I think that fact that you are going a bit after your wedding it something to consider – if it was immediately after the wedding I would be a little more inclined to say no but to be honest a few months after the wedding is more “vacation” like than honeymoon like (from someone who did a delayed honeymoon and loved every minute of it – but the few days after our wedding when we mini-mooned/staycationed were more “honeymooney” with the goo-goo eyes and couldn’t keep our hands to ourselves type stuff)
Personally I think it would really depend on the other couple (and you said this would be the best option), where and when…. if it was a huge resort that we could get “lost” by ourselves all day but then do dinner with them or ladies hang on the beach together while the guys go snorkeling but then have a romantic dinner alone on the beach the next night I could see how it could be great. It gives you some built in “friends” and I usually think that vacations can be more fun with a group.
My concerns would be do your travel styles mix? (ie are they going to want to go on a tour at 6 am every day while you want to hang around and brunch till noon)
Do you think they/you will be respectful of privacy? (ie will they be knocking on your bedroom door and asking whats going on in there?)
And is there any issue that you need to look out for? (like your BIL is a huge drunk that makes scenes or you SIL sulks and hysterically cries for the rest of the week when she doesn’t get to pick the restaurant)
Post # 13
Mez03: erm… no you don’t…. only if you are leaving the country. PR doesn’t count as international as it’s a US territory.
I guess I’m on the fence???? Have you ever traveled alone, do you get bored alone or do you enjoy each other’s company the entire time? Would it be considerably cheaper? Etc… I’d say go on your own honeymoon, travel with them later. But I also understand enjoying traveling with others, it certainly makes things more interesting.
Post # 14
I don’t see anything wrong with it. You dont have to spend every waking moment with them. But at least you’ll all have someone to take your pictures
Post # 15
Overjoyed: I didn’t know you could fly to places without a passport even if you are in the same country. I guess because its highly stressed here (in Canada) to fly with a passport that its a very uncommon thing here that people don’t fly without a passport even though they are staying within the same country. I guess because I live in a city that boarders the USA, I’m so use to just using my passport all the time from crossing the boarder that I tend to forget what a passport is actually needed for when it comes to travelling.