(Closed) Honeymoon woes

posted 9 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

you are totally valid – you should go somewhere where you can create a new experience, new memories together. he already has memories tied to the Bahamas – just explain you want to explore some place new together & start your life together by creating new memories. there are a million better places to go than the Bahamas, find someplace great together!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree – go somewher new or better go somewhere he hasn’t been with an ex!  We’re going to London, Paris and Rome.  I’ve been to London and Paris before on school trips and with my parents.  My FI has not.  I’m excited to show him things I love about these cities and then we’ll explore Rome together for the first time.  If he’s taken a guys trip to Thailand and loved it, I don’t see a problem going there so he can show a place he loves, but stay away from spots he went with an ex, especially for your honeymoon!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Although I do agree with you that it’s good to start new traditions together, keep in mind that there a a TON of islands in the Bahamas and all of them are quite different.  So if he’s really set on the Bahamas, you could definitely do something completely different than what he did with an ex.

Also if he traveled lots of different places with his ex (I’m just speculating here), then you’re not always going to be able to get away from places they’ve been before.

Anyway, I definitely agree with you, but trying to see the flip side of things as well.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Good points  from pp’s.  Have you talked to him about your concern about going to a place he went with the ex?  Like Hotchildinthecity said, if he’s dead set on the Bahamas, maybe you can explore a different island.  Just sit down and tell him you’re uncomfortable and work on finding a place you’re both happy with.  Then you can leave the details up to him.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would prefer not to go on my honeymoon under those circumstances. Knowing myself I would be more likely to think about her on my honeymoon then he would. For your own sanity pick a different place. Also from your profile it looks like you will be going to the Bahamas during Hurricane season if you go shortly after you get married 08/14/10 (also a very good excuse).

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’re actually going on a honeymoon to the same resort that FH went to with his ex-wife.  It wasn’t their honeymoon, but they did it together.  We talked about it and he really liked it, but didn’t get to do much because she wanted to be a stick in the mud.  He’s excited about going back and being able to experience the things he wasn’t able to before.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re going someplace FI has been to as well – he was SO excited because Zihuatanejo is like his favorite place ever.  I have to say, I went to the Bahamas with my ex (like 6 years ago) and Ie been back since and not once thought “I did this with ex, ex and I went here!  I remember this place!”  I woulnt worry about it too much.  Like everyone else said, there are a ton of islands there and 1000 things to do.  I seriously doubt he’ll think of his ex on his honeymoon

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would totally want to go somewhere new and make my own memories.  That being said the Bahamas are a huge area so maybe you could go but not stay at the same place he did before?

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you talking the same country or the same hotel? The Bahamas is really vague! And it is really pretty. I’d never even considered something like that. Just subtly mention like “what about the Riviera Maya, what about Jamaica”

Honestly, he’s waaaay past his ex and the last thing you should be worrying about is her popping into his head! If this is a constant concern, you have to talk to him about that. After all, if they had green sheets and you have green sheets, you don’t want to be concerned about that.

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