Post # 1
So, I’ve seen tons of threads about Honeymoons (where are you going? how long are you going, etc.)
We are not taking a Honeymoon becasue we have a 3 year old and have no one to watch him to take a Honeymoon… as a matter of fact, he may even be with us in the hotel the night of our wedding…
So my question is, any brides have children but still taking a honeymoon? If so where are your children staying? How does your family feel about it?
I know that we did things backwards by having our son before we got married, but I wouldn’t change it for the world, I love my son more than anything…but at the same time I am very sad and jealous sometimes off other brides that are taking a week off for a honeymoon in a romantic setting alone. Our son is three and we have never had a night alone since he’s been born…we’ve had a few hours here and there during the day alone, a couple times a year when family’s in town and “babysits” for us. (We live at least 6 hours from the closests family member)
I understand the point of a honeymoon…I get that…and I know it may seem strange to some that we would still like to take one even though we’ve already started our family…. so I don’t need bashed by any haters….
I’m just curious, that’s all… : )
Post # 3
We don’t have any kids but one of my best friends did when she was married and she still went on a Honeymoon to Jamaica. Their daughter was a little over 1 when they were married. Their Honeymoon started out as being a 4 day/3 night but a hurricane hit when they were there which caused them to have to stay for an extra 3 days (what a debacle that was). Her parents watched their daughter when they were away. Having to stay longer really screwed them (and her parents) but their original Honeymoon plans weren’t really that big of a deal. Most people were surprised they took a Honeymoon because they’re broke, not because they had a kid.
Post # 4
We took one and had 3 children (conceived our 4th on our honeymoon). We were so thankful to our parents and siblilngs for watching them. We live close to a major tourist attraction and that’s where we honeymooned, so we were close to home in case of an emergency!
Post # 5
My cousin just got engaged, she has a 5 year old son that will be staying with family while her and her husband take their honeymoon.
Post # 6
My nephew will be staying with my parents when my sister and her new husband take their honeymoon this summer. They’re going to Italy right after the wedding for about 2 weeks.
Post # 7
There is nothing wrong with wanting to take a honeymoon after your marriage if you have a child. You are no less deserving of that time together than a couple without children. Is there really nobody in your family willing to take your child for at least a few days after the wedding so you can get away? You may not have the luxury of taking a longer more expensive honeymoon because you have a child, but you should be able to do something.
And nobody will watch him on your wedding night either? Jeez! Have you asked?
Post # 8
We going in May, we have no human kids, just the furry kind that people will be able to look after…
One thing- glad I didn’t go right after the wedding, I had (and still have) a brutal cold and it was just too busy.
Post # 9
@busterbluth: We live in Charlotte and wedding’s in Myrtle Beach…I had asked my Dad if the next day after the wedding he would drive back to our house and watch our son for a few days until we got back, he thought it was a great idea, but cancelled on us a few months later….something to do with airline tickets costing too much.
I haven’t asked anyone to sit for us so we can take a honeymoon but have mentioned to family that it would be nice if we could take one… they all say the same thing… What about Jonathan (our son)? No one ever offers and I don’t feel right asking since they’ve all been very clear about how they feel about the idea! “Why would you take a Honeymoon? You’ve been living together for 4 years and have a child??”
Post # 10
As far as the wedding night goes….the only person that I’ve asked so far was my Dad and Step mom but they are leaving at 6am the next morning to catch their flight home!
Post # 11
Have you thought about taking your son with you? Maybe go to Disney or something so it can be a family vacation. Or maybe a cruise that provides childcare so you get some alone time? Obviously it would be great if you guys could get away on your own, but I’d much prefer to take a family vacation than not get away at all. Alternatively, maybe you can offer your dad some financial assistance for him to come watch your son so you guys can get away, even if that means you can take a less expensive Honeymoon, i think it would be worth it. Shame on your family for not offering to take your son on the wedding night, though!