Post # 1
So we are starting to think honeymoon. We have a 2 year old together who will be almost 3 at the time of our wedding. We don’t know if we should bring her or leave her to be cared for by my mother and his. This question is holding us back from even starting to think about where we will go! I really would love to spend time alone but feel bad for leaving her for an extended period of time, which we have never done. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
As a mum I am in the same boat as you. We are going to leave our son with my parents. Like you we have never had any period of time away from him and we probably won’t anytime soon so we are going to utilise the alone time while we can! Maybe when you get back you could so something special with her as a family?
Post # 4
It is your honeymoon I would leave her with the grandmothers. This is a time to enjoy each other.
Post # 5
@FutureMrsConroy: That was part of our problem with figuring out where we will go for our honeymoon. If we went somewhere the kids’ haven’t been (like almost anywhere, lol), I’d feel guilty for not taking them. Especially somewhere like Hawaii, New York, etc. We’ve been together for 7, almost 8 years, so that’s also a factor.
We chose to go to San Diego during July (any comic/movie freaks will immediatly realize the huge event occuring during that time…). We went two years ago with the kids, so going back without them would be awesome. 1) they’ve been, so no guilt trip, 2)we can do more without them!
Now, we’re hoping to have another wee one by then, but that one will be staying home, since he/she will be too little to really enjoy it. So, again, no guilt for not taking the possible baby.
Not sure if that helps, but that’s what we did. Maybe pick somewhere that you’ve been before, as a family, that you’d enjoy going without a little one. Or go on a cruise with child care, so you can have “us time” and family time? Though, I’d question how the nights would be, lol.
ETA: might help to know my two are currently 8 & 4 and we’re getting married next year. They also spend several days to a week at my parents, so that isn’t an issue, either.
Post # 6
I know how hard it will be to leave your 2/3 year old at home, but at that age they can be quite a handful. I strongly suggest that you and your FI find someone to leave him/her with while you go on your honeymoon. You need some alone time before you get down to the business of your family. Maybe just make it a minimoon, so you won’t be gone that long, but you will still have that time to yourselves. You can always take a vacation later with him/her.
Post # 7
Don’t take the baby on the honeymoon. You’ll be too worried about the kid to enjoy each other.
Post # 8
It’s more of a family vacation than a honeymoon if you take your daughter with you. You shouldn’t feel bad. She’ll be in capable hands.
Post # 9
Don’t take the kid! She won’t remember the trip and she’ll be fine with a grandparent. I think you should enjoy some time alone together. When’s the last time you were able to really spend an extended amount of time for just the two of you. You could always call and speak to her or set up a skype account so you guys can do some video chat so she can at least see you too.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t take the child. She is staying with the two women that raised you. Many grandparents take children in situations. I wouldn’t give it a second thought.
Post # 11
What’s best for your child is that you and his or her father have a GREAT relationship. One way to foster that is to make sure you two get away WITHOUT the baby from time to time… ESPECIALLY for your honeymoon. He/she will be fine with you gone for a week or so. Get away and enjoy yourselves!
Even if you feel bad that the kid hasn’t gone to your honeymoon destination, who cares?! The kid is only 3. He/she has a whole lifetime ahead of him/her during which he/she can travel.
Post # 12
I say leave the child with her grandparents. A honeymoon is for the couple, not the family. You will have plenty of years to go on family vacations, but only one chance to have a honeymoon. Enjoy the time as newlyweds. You won’t get this time back.
Post # 13
I personally wouldn’t take a child on a honeymoon because then it’s a family vacation.
Post # 14
Leave the kid dat home!! I know it will be hard, but you deserve some alone time and an actual honeymoon. Plan a family vacation for later. 🙂
Post # 15
Leave your kiddo! We left our 2 year old and she split the time with my parent’s and with DH’s that way neither one spent too much time caring for a toddler. They love her, but they are grown out of having a 2 year old around all the time. It was a much needed trip and it was SO nice to be able to just go out and do something without having to figure out if it would interfere with naps/food etc. In fact there were a few times we didn’t know what to do with our new found freedom. I definitely say go by yourselves
ETA: I know P got a little sad and they said the last few nights she was crying for mommy and daddy before bed, but we brought her back little goodies and she was definitely very excited to see us when we got back and she didn’t seem too emotionally affected by it 🙂
Post # 16
FI and I are taking our daughter (who will be 2 at the time) on our honeymoon to Hawaii. I’ve never left her overnight. I would consider leaving her but FI said no way. We don’t drink much or go clubbing anyway. I know there will some stuff we won’t get to do but I would honestly miss her too much and spend the whole time worrying about her.