Honey/weddingmoon in crisis – may be a big waste of money :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
15011 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I hope it all works out. Fingers Crossed. 

For the future, is it possible in the UK to have a youth record expunged? My brother had a similar issue, stupid teenage fight almost derailed him getting into the military. Our family lawyer was able to get the record expunged and now he has a completely clean record. 

Post # 4
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

oh god, US immigration is a nightmare even if you just want to transit, let alone taking a criminal record into the equation.  i really sympathise. whenever i fly home to london (from mexico) i now pay a little bit more NOT to go through the US

hope it gets sorted out ASAP and/or you figure out a plan B

Post # 5
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Man, I’d be tearing my hair out.  I understand wanting to go back to Vegas. I loved Vegas. I guess all you can do is try and think about it logically. How much extra will it cost you to go via Asia and Canada? Can you get credit from the flights you currently have booked towards the new flights or does non-refundable also mean they won’t give you credit in this case? 

If it were me, and the hotel in Mexico was free cancellation/not already paid for I think my first choice would be to use the credit from the flights to think about going somewhere else rather than worry about the visa coming through on time/at all and going via 3 different airports to get to my destination. You want the build up to your wedding and honeymoon to be as pleasant as it can be, not tied up in knots.

The US immigration thing is so intimidating though – I had to get a visa a while back to go over an do an internship in NY for 6 months while I was at uni. Flying to Melbourne (no embassy in my city/state) for the day, locked in a waiting for four hours as thier computer system was down, probing questions, so many documents to prove I would come back to Australia. I mean it’s Australia – not a third world country I am trying to escape from! I’m happy to come back.

Post # 6
1190 posts
Bumble bee

@caramelcupcake:  Holy crap! This is awful!!! Could you buy travel insurance or wedding insurance, just in case you are unable to go? I am just thinking worst case scenario; I don’t want you to be out all of your money.

(I’m not sure what the limitations are for travel insurance)

Post # 8
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@caramelcupcake:  Yayyy! I’m so glad to hear that.  My DH also has one stupid thing on his record from when he was a teenager, sucks when people try to still judge them for that when they have changed so much.  I’m glad it all worked out 🙂

Post # 9
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🙁 I hope things work out soon!

Post # 10
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@tksjewelry:  Certain convictions are considered “spent” in the UK after a period of time. It really depends on the type of offence and whether a prison sentence was served. However, youthful cautions will qualify as spent after the requisite number of years. Unfortunately, the US does not have the same system of cautions and a police check with reveal “no live action”. However, this will have to be explained to a US Immigration Officer.

Great news that your FI’s visa has been issued though, OP. What a relief all round!

Incidentally, while many people have been less than angelic in their youth, I wish more teenagers would realise just how much effect even a minor run in with the police can have on their adult hopes and aspirations so far as travel and immigration is concerned. Neither the UK nor the US seem to be as sympathetic as you might hope with youthful transgressions! Still, it is much easier to be wise in hindsight!

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