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I think you only use Honour if you're British? But I'm just guessing.
I used "honour", but I'm in Canada and we use the british spelling. But I know when I was researching invite wording, it stated that British spelling was preferred "unless you prefer the American spelling".
But I think a lot of the points of etiquette are... insane? I broke most of them and not one person has said anything that i've heard of.
I think the extra 'u' is used in England, Canada etc. Like for colour.
yeah totally up to you..British commonwealth countries spell it with a 'U'.
I'm doing "honour" because it's a Victorian theme, so I'm pretending to be British :)
Ah! I didn't even think about it and Honour is on our invitations right now! I'm thinking about changing it back..
I concur - honor is the American way of spelling it; honour is used in British English (and most international english).
I know quite a few people here in America who spell that way with a British affectation... and, while my opinion is biased because of them, it comes across as unnecessary and pretentious. Again, I say this of the people I know, not necessarily your invitations. It is just a potential reaction worth considering.
Even though honour is the British/Canadian spelling, it is said in etiquette books to use that spelling (which the invite companies will automatically print no matter what the formality) regardless of your nationality if your wedding is formal. If your wedding is semi-formal (which the majority are) or casual, use the American spelling. However your marriage will not be doomed for failure if you choose not to use the British spelling for a formal event.
I'm another canuck! We're using "honour". He's American though so I wonder if all our US guests will think we're just being pretentious by adding the "u"? hehe
It's actually really funny that this came up... on the WB boards, I use all American spelling. "Favorite" "Honor" "Color" but in my day-to-day life I spell all those words with a "u" :)
I've actually read that you use "honour" if you are getting married in a church and "honor" if it's not---BUT I really can hate some of the etiquette crap so I say do what you would like :) I think people are used to both and won't think anything of it.
It depends on where you are from...
Honor is American.
Honour is British which is the standard in Canada as well.
Honour is considered the more formal with its British background but it doesn't really matter either way.
It makes no sense to me why you would use the 'u' if you're marrying in a church and no 'u' if not. Just...dumb.
I'm with Amaryllis, I think that unless you normally use a 'u' when you spell the word in everyday life, it seems laughably pretentious. Guys, the Brits aren't 'fancier' than us Americans. It's just a different spelling convention. I will be writing "honor".
At first I was going to use "honour" on mine, because the ceremony is in a church, but then I realized that I'd have to say "favour of reply" and add u's to who knows what else, and I decided it wasn't worth the formality. The British can keep their u's. :)
I thought for either spelling, honor was only supposed to be used for church weddings. For non church weddings it is "the pleasure of your company."
we are using "honour" - its colonial williamsburg... we practically HAVE to do it.
Hi,
You should absolutely use the Old English "Honour." That is what etiquette mandates!
Old English is an early form of our language and their word for 'honor' certainly was not 'honour' at that point (I took an intensive course in the language and if I remember correctly the word would be 'ár'); m-w.com lists the origin of 'honor' as coming from Middle English's 'honur', a word with French roots, and the introduction of French to the English language is one of the major things that marks off Middle English from Old English. And why, even if it were from Old English, would that one word remain from an obsolete form of our language. Why not the entire invite (which would just be hysterical, and I think my prof would have been nerdy enough to do that for his own wedding)?
If "etiquette" mandates that I use a senselessly gratuitous and pretentious form of a word on my invitation, etiquette can suck it (not that I've even seen conclusive evidence that etiquette mandates that). My wedding is in NYC, not the UK.
Anyhow, I do not make etiquette rules, but traditionally, from what I have researched-
for a more casual wedding in a hotel or out of doors, you use "honor."
in a house of worship, you use "honour."
In school, I learned the spelling as "honor"... I didn't grow up in Britain/Canada/Australia/etc. Why would you use "honour" if you're American and your wedding is in the States? Do you use "colour", "flavour", "neighbour" "labour"? If not, I would stick to "honor".
This is one of those things that can go either way. It doesn't really make sense for Americans to use honour, but it has been tradition. We do all kinds of things for weddings we don't do any other time.
The OP said her wedding was fancy, in a ballroom. If the ceremony( and not just the reception) is in a ballroom, not a house of worship, the correct form is to use "the pleasure of your company."
http://www.brides.com/planning/invitations/feature/article/113932/
r u form the usa or from canada? the one with the u is canadian spelling it's like color and colour one is not more fancy then the other
I used honour because my mom made me change it haha. This far into the wedding planning I am willing to have a U if it keeps my mom out of my hair for a little bit. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom very much... but it wasn't worth the argument.
I'm an Aussie and we use Honour - I ordered our invites from an American seller and made sure that I retyped the existing wording in my message to her and used the "our" instead of "or". Color and Honor are one thing, but Favorite with no U freaks me out! LOL
Ya, the u is a commonwealth thing, but honestly, I don't think most guests are going to notice whether or not there's an extra u. I think it matters a lot to brides and MOBs because we fixate on invites, but our guests will skim down to the time/location details.
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Which one? Are they both acceptable? Our wedding is fancy, yes. In a ballroom.
Which one are you using??