Post # 1
Both my fiance and I are very close with our parents and I would love to honor them during the ceremony. My idea is for both sets of parents to come up to the alter and stand with us(when called by our misnister) as he recites a short reading that i wrote about our parents. Then they return to their seats. Short and sweet. But my fiance is against the idea, while i have my heart set on it!
Should i ask our parents for their opinion (bc im sure they would back me up) or should we hash this one out ourselves. Im just so upset bc i worked so hard writting it and this is something that means so much to me. I just want to cry! HELP!!
Post # 3
Have you asked him WHY he’s against it? I think it’s a sweet idea, but I can understand where your fiance is coming from–the day is about you and your future husband, not your parents. And DO NOT bring your parents in to “back you up”–it sets a very bad tone for the marriage. You and your fiance should be able to handle this privately, like adults.
Post # 4
What about something else that isn’t so much in the middle of the ceremony? That way you guys can compromise. I can understand why he wouldn’t want something in the ceremony that is supposed to be about you and him that is instead about your parents.
Darling Husband and I got presentation bouquets that matched our wedding flowers put together for each of our parents in addition to writing a note to them about what they mean to us and thanking them for all of their support. During the ceremony, these flowers and notes were up on the alter. After we were pronounced husband and wife and were preparing to walk out, we picked up the flowers and notes and on the way back up the aisle, went to each set of parents and presented them with the notes and flowers and exchanged handshakes/hugs. Simple and sweet yet not mixed in to the actual ceremony part.
My parents did something similar at their wedding 26 years ago and my grandmother still talks about what a wonderful gesture she thought it was.