Post # 1
We’d like to honor my dad, grandfather and my FH’s grandparents who have all passed.
One the back of the programs I have an “In memory” section with a poem and their names. I was going to have a moment of silence/prayer during our ceremony for them, and at the reception I was going to have their pictures displayed near the card table with a candle and a small note.
Is this too much? I have some small private ways that I will be remembering them as well, but I dont want to bring everyone down.
Post # 3
@Bostongrl25: I feel like all three things are a bit of overkill. I’d consider the poem in the program or perhaps the pictures near the card table. That remembers them without forcing it on people in the same way a moment of silence does.
Post # 4
@Cappugcino: Ya, that is true. So do one but not all 3?
Post # 5
@Bostongrl25: If you absolutely feel you must, then perhaps two. But I attended a wedding once where there were so many reminders of a deceased relative of the bride that it was more like a second funeral than a wedding. Both bride and the deceased were related to me, so I understood; however, it was really depressing and a lot of guests felt it was as well. I get wanting to have loved ones with you who should be there and aren’t, but the focus needs to be on the joy of love.
Post # 6
I asked my FI if he wanted to have a “in memory” chair to set aside for those who cant attend. His response was “on the happiest day of my life why would i want to be reminded of sad things like people who are dead?”
Case closed. So please think about that.
Post # 7
We only had the “in memory of” thing on the back of the program and that was enough. If you add too many reminders of the loved ones that couldn’t be there it will definitely bring the mood down. it’s your wedding.. you want the mood to be upbeat.
Post # 8
I would skip the In Memory on the programs and stick with the prayer and photos. We had a memory table set-up in the church and at the reception venue. Everyone thought it was perfect.
Post # 9
Echoing PPs – pick one thing that will be the most meaningful to you. Chances are, your deceased loved ones would not want their deaths to be a focal point of your wedding -they’d want everyone to celebrate and not feel sad.
Post # 10
Ya…you all are right. I should pick one and leave it at that.
I really like what I did in the program, so I think I’ll keep that and ditch the rest.
Post # 11
I had Sophie the bear to honor all of those who passed. Her story was in our program. See PP for Sophie’s story. My niece was her caretaker for the day, at the party she had a place of honor at the bar next to both of us
Post # 12
I am having flowers from the ceremony brought by special people in my family to grave sight for 4 ver close deceased relatives including my father. Also, I will have some nice pictures and a flower at the reception. I think its overkill when people leave a seat for a deceased loved one but the rest sounds fine. Maybe instead of a moment of silence, you could have prayers of the faithful where someone will list things to pray for and one thing could be for all those who could not be present. This is part of our Catholic ceremony.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I agree to pick one thing- I think on programs is a nice touch (probably because that’s how we did it.)