Post # 1
I’m getting married in May. One of my bridesmaids died on December 29th. She committed suicide after she had been battling with bipolar and depression since she was a teen. My bridesmaids’ dresses were ordered two weeks before she died and we received them recently. Her dress was delievered to the place she lived at and the landlord then turned over the dress to my friend’s father. I was gone this past Monday on a business trip and her father came over to my place and didn’t find me, so he left the dress with another bridesmaid who called me on Tuesday about the dress.
We are still devastated by what happened and we were planning to put an “in memory” thing in the wedding programs. But now I’m thinking about have the dress cut up and made into small gifts for other bridesmaids to remember her by. Does anyone have any other ideas about what to do?
Post # 3
I’m so sorry about your guys’ loss :(. It would be nice to use part of her dress as bouquet wraps for everyone or maybe even as clutches?
Post # 4
Oh gosh. I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s a horrible story and I’m sorry that such a tragic event has brought you here for your first post. I love the idea of making use of the dress for your girls, that’s such a beautiful gesture. What about making hair flowers or small clutches out of the fabric? Or even a fabric rose/flower to put in each of your bouquets?
I think the note in the program is nice, and you could do a memorial candle as well. Do you have a photo of all of you together, or do you think it would be too soon to put out a photo?
Again, I’m so sorry, you must be going through a really hard time. Welcome to Weddingbee though, we’re all sending you, your friends and your BMs family big hugs and positive thoughts.
Post # 5
I am so sorry for your loss, but that is just a nice gesture what you plan on doing with the dress…Maybe you can make little pouches for the ladies or soemthing liket that…
Post # 6
I am sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine!
Another idea you could do is have a bouquet made that would have been her’s, put it in a vase on a table with a picture & an “In Memory” candle? Just another idea?
Post # 7
FI’s BEST friend just passed away in a terrible head on collision two days before Thanksgiving. So far we’re planning to have a memorial table as well as have him listed as a “silent groomsman” in the programs along with a few words about him.
Sorry to hear about your friend. It’s never easy.
Post # 8
How horrible and sad, I am so sorry to hear about it. If I were you, I would include her in the part of your program where you note the people who weren’t able to make it (deceased) but other than that I wouldn’t make a big deal. It’s your wedding day which is about you and your FI.
Post # 9
I like the idea of making the girls all clutches. Or you could use her dress fabric to wrap the handles of the other girl’s bouquets (or both, since theyre unlikely to carry the clutches down the aisle.)
Im so so sorry for your loss. I lost a very close friend 2 summers ago to bipolar disorder and suicide, so I know what you are going though. Huge hugs
Post # 10
Thank you all for the condolences. To mrs. tobe, I’m sorry about your FI’s friend. I had checked out the boards here several months ago and was going to register but I got busy with other stuff and I had bookmarked the site on my laptop. I noticed the bookmark earlier this morning. So I decided to join here to get some advice about this and other things they may come up.
I thought about clutches or maybe fabric flowers as other have suggested. I got back from my trip on Wednesday night. I called my friend’s father and asked me if he wanted to keep the dress and he said that didn’t want to because it would have been too hard. He has dealt with a lot. His wife, my friend’s mom died five years ago from cancer.
The “In Memory” candle is a good idea too. As for pictures of us all together. I have a picture of her, me and my MOH. The other bridesmaids are my two cousins and FI’s sister. Maybe I could use that picture for a memory thing.
Post # 11
To KellyV, I’m sorry about your friend and hugs to you too.
Post # 12
Sorry 🙁 to hear about your friend. You could also honor her by having a boquet that she would have carried displayed somehwere.
Post # 13
If you find that it would be too difficult for people (yourself included) to have a memorial set up-maybe you could attach her photo in a locket to your bouquet. I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 14
I read on another thread that someone had a place in the recessional for the bridesmaid. So it would go bridesmaid 1, bridesmaid 2, a length of time for bridesmaid 3(your friend), bridesmaid 4 etc. Then at the alter or front there would be a space between bridesmaid 2 and 4.
You could also have a bouquet made for her and placed at the front to represent her. You could have a locket on your bouquet with her photo in it. You could have her name in the program or a photo of her on a memorial table.
Think of things that she really loved and try to utilize those. I think making the dress into a clutch or maybe your ring bearers pillow would be a wonderful touch.
I am very sorry for your loss and I am so sorry that you are grieving this while planning your wedding. I’ll be thinking of you.
Post # 15
My fiancee and I are getting together with our wedding party next weekend to discuss this. My FI is also in a similar situation. One of his friends from high school and childhood was going to be in our wedding. We asked him to be apart of the wedding right after we got engaged a couple of years back. He was deployed to Iraq a few months later and was injured. He lost both legs and is wheelchair bound. He has had other health problems and he decided to live in Florida with relatives. We are in Oregon. My fiancee was also thinking about mentioning him in a speech or something.
Post # 16
If there is enough material- purses or little coin purses would be great. What a sad loss. 🙁