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I am having a locket on my bouquet with my grandpas pics and my FI is wearing a pin on his jacket with his gma and fathers pic.
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@Tessemasgirl I really like those lockets-- would you mind telling me where you got them?
I'm hoping for more posts to this thread because both FH and I have both lost important people to us and I like the idea of honoring them.
I'm interested as well, would like to honor FI's father.
One couple that we know is getting married labor day weekend has a tribute to the groom's dad on their wedding website. Not sure if they're planning anything for the ceremony, i'll update if i see anything worth mentioning.
Yes I ordered them from Etsy
http://www.etsy.com/shop/AristoCrafty?ref=seller_info
VERY inexpensive and nice
We will be having a moment of silence during our reception at the speeches, I think my fiance is going to include in his speech a toast for absent friends and family (since a lot will not be able to attend as we are different nationalities) and we are going to include a few moments of silence to ask for people to remember my brother especially on our wedding day.
I did a locket on my bouquet also.
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I will be dancing with my grandfather to a song that reminds us of my grandmother...I will have the DJ make an announcement...
I will also be doing a father/daughter or moms boyfriend/daughter dance, but that's a whole other issue!!
We will start w/ the minister welcoming everyone & letting everyone know that the next song is in rememberance of the loved ones that aren't able to be with us. At that time the harpist will play Somewhere Over the Rainbow. During that time DF & I will be giving a flower to eachother's mother, sort of a "welcome to the family" type thing. Does that make any sense??
We had a vase up on the alter that had the favorite flower of each of our loved ones that had passed (so there were 5 different flowers in the vase - one for each person). We then had a note in the program that indicated who each of the flowers was honoring.
I think the greatest tributes are the subtle ones - ie, a locket on a bouquet, a casual note in a program. I have been to many weddings in the past that have had an almost sombre, awkward undertone because they contained certain "funeral-esque" moments - in my opinion, your loved ones lost would want this day to be about YOU, and celebrating your joy.
My FI's sister passed away about 5 years ago. I am surprising him with locket cufflinks with her picture in it.
WE had one candle for every family member that has passed away and then the mothers lit them. On the program we just put that the candles are lit in remembrance of name, name , name, name....
I wanted to put a vase with my brothers picture by it at our sweetheart table, but i dont want to be sad :(. I know it will kill me looking at it all night. I was thinking maybe have something by the entrance where the guest book will be.
Wow i really love the locket on bouquet idea... maybe i should do taht.
I am going to carry the rosary my Nana has that was made from the flowers she had at my Papas funeral. I am also going carry his glasses....for some reason I would always raspberry his glasses it was a joke between us so after he passed my Nana gave me his glasses and told be he didnt need them in heaven because he could see great and wasnt sick anymore.
I dont want to bring the mood to a somber place so will will honor our loved ones in subtle ways.
We have had a lot of deaths in our families over the past 6 years so we are just going to do a toast for all the people that couldn't be there. We don't want to offend anyone by doing something for one relative and not for another so we are just keeping it generic. Although, I am doing something special for my Grandma which is wearing her necklace since she only passed away 2 weeks ago (a month and a half before my wedding), but that is personal for me since she was so excited to come to the wedding. This way a part of her will be there.
well I am having a memorial candle with my mother's name on it at the altar and this poem in a frame beside it. It says..Although we can't see you, we know you are here smiling down on us, as we say "I DO" Forever in our hearts, forever in our lives and so we say our vows, in loving memory of you...Then My FI and I will light the memorial candle. During which time I will be having the singing of a song...I miss my mother too much not to include her in my wedding ceremony. Because she was a fantastic mother and big on weddings. She gave my sister a beautiful wedding when she was alive and I am sure would have loved to see her baby girl getting married. She will definitely be included in my day....
In addition to the note in the program honoring grandparents, etc, I am going to make an extra boutonierre in honor of my FI's little brother that passed several years ago. We are going to display it on the gift table.
I like this idea because his brother would certainly have been in our wedding party (and wearing a boutonierre) if he was still alive.
@Ms Silver: That just made me cry so much. I am in the exact same boat. My mom was here for my olders sisters wedding and she passed away before seeing her baby get married. I want to do something for her at the wedding, but Im afraid that i'll be way too emotional and wont be able to stop crying if there's something right there reminding me that shes not with me. Of course, its not like I would just forget about the fact that shes not there just because I dont have something honoring her. I dont know, I just feel like I dont want to make everyone sad. My Fiance's dad has passed away as well, so this day is SO emotional for both of us. Its the happiest time of our lives, but its also hard to not have our mom/dad.
Ill keep you and your family in my prayers okay?
I lost both of my parents. My FI lost his mom. I planned to have a small (1in x1in) frame with my parent's picture on my bouquet. Then, pictures slides of family pictures. I'm not sure about his mom since his step-mom will be present. But the biggest challenge will be not to get emotional. I'm tearing up even writing this....
I think the lockets are a great idea...myself have 2 I would like to remember and he has one....we looked into songs for us to dance too but the one was really old and he didnt think we could dance to them...we are still trying to figure it out also...
I had one single rose in a bud vase on the alter. The rose was in memory of my husband's mother. The bud vase was my grandmother's vase and was in memory of all 4 of my grandparents who had passed. I had a note in the program explaining the symbolism of it. What really touched me was that after the ceremony, my husband's family came & asked me if they could take the rose back with them & give it to his grandmother (his mother's mother) who wasn't able to make it. I was touched that they would do that and of course she was glad to have it.
We did candles. I had a pillar candle that said In Memory on it and then votives with the names of our loved ones. It ended up being in front of the alter and unfortunately my photographer never got a shot of it. We also put a note in our program. My MIL also ordered some flowers in a vase for his dad so those ended up with the candles too.
This is the best shot I have of the set up...
My fiance and I will be getting married around Christmastime so we will be buying miniture poinsettas for each of our relatives that have passed. We are also buying them for friends of the family who have gone in the past year (or who would have been there). We are also buying one for the former Priest of his church who passed in May. In total there will be around 9 miniture poinsettas set around the church and in the windows. We will be donating them to the church following the wedding.
I had pics of my daughter and niece (and goddaughter) right by the BMs during the ceremony. We also had a paragraph in the ceremony script where we remembered those present in spirit only. My daughter is on the right.
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My grandma passed a month before I got engaged. I'm making a brooch bouquet with all of her broochs (she collected lots!) to honor her. I also will have some in the bouquet from my other grandmother who passed last year and my great grandmother that passed away when I was a teenager. It may not be something that everyone recognizes as a tribute to them, but I will know and that's what's important.
We are having candles to honor his dad and my grandfather. They are tealights in a sphere engraved with the words "In memory... of a life so beautifully lived... a heart so deeply loved." I thought it would be nice to do something for them both and he liked the candle that a friend of ours had for her dad, it was similar to the one in the OP. I'm trying to decide if I should put their pictures behind the candles or just have the candles.
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What are some ideas or ways that you ladies are going to be honoring a lost loved one or someone special that cannot be at the wedding?
I had originally wanted to do a memorial candle like the one pictured below. My FIN was fine with this until my mom had to say do you think it is kind of creepy to light a candle for someone that has past? Then he changed his mind. However, I still want to honor a few of our pasted family members.
Any ideas please!