Honoring Deceased at Wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am in the same boat. I miss that generation so much and I so wish they could physically be there- they’d be so proud.

I am going to have a little table with a nice flower arrangement on it- with framed pictures of all the people we miss with a few candles tucked somewhere with in our reception.

Post # 3
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

mdcmod:  i think thats nice – I haven’t seen that done – very original. 

I will tell you what I did, 

I honored my father, Godparents, and DHs grandmother by mentioning their name in the wedidng programs. THe poem was very similar to the one in your picture. 

At the reception I had created a montage of pictures of my father with my sister and my mom to be played during dinner with Daddy’s Little Girl by Michael Buble and Somewhere Over the Rainbow by Iz playing in the background. 

Post # 4
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

mdcmod:  If you’ve having a guest book, I would place it on that table.  I’m thinking of having pictures of my grandparents and my parents (my father is deceased) on a small table like that with some sort of note.  

Post # 5
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I lost 2 grandparents since my engagement, and he lost 1 years before we met. We are also trying to come up with a way to honor them. We may do a candle, but I’m not sure the venue allows it, since obviously candles have fire on them, lol. We picked this candle to match our wedding flowers.


I also want to leave some flowers from my wedding at the gravesite.

Post # 6
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we listed deceases parents (we both lost our fathers) and granparents in our program.

as jewish tradition, we lit a candle and said a prayer in memory of our fathers during our ceremony.

Post # 8
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

DH only has one living grandparent and all my grandparents are deceased so we also put a small poem in the back of our program with their names and DH’s uncle’s name.

On the table with our guest book we also had wedding pictures of our grandparents, parents and a picture of us.

Post # 9
3088 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

mdcmod:  Right now, we are planning on having a moment of silence to remember my grandmothers during the ceremony. They were such a massive part of my life that I want to honor them at the wedding. In addition, we are having a table of family wedding portraits and will have theirs there. Their presence will be very much missed and very evident to our family and I simply want to take a moment to remember them. It will be the first time that a large portion of our family will all be together at the same time. My sister had a picture of our Nana (as she was the only grandparent we had lost at the time) with some candles and flowers at a table beside the wedding photographs. 

Post # 10
1355 posts
Bumble bee

I plan on having a small table with their pictures on it and the poem

Remember me with smiles and laughter, for that is how I will remember you all.

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Post # 11
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This was a fireplace in our reception area…we did the row of family members and friends we had lost in a mix of frames with an in ♥ memory bunting below. 

Post # 12
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I lost my older brother in 2005 to suicide. When we met with the coordinator for a brief rehearsal with just us and my parents, my mom and I had a bit of a crying moment because I’d been having a lot of troublecoming to terms with his absence.

The day of the wedding, the coordinator saved a seat in the front row between my parents and grandparents with an ivory ribbing tied to the chair so it could be saved for him. It was so sweet and served as an excellent reminder of him, and of other family members who couldn’t be there that day. It was a subtle touch and I appreciated it.

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Post # 13
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

mdcmod:  We have lost a lot of family members as well. I’ve been thinking about a way to remember them.

MrsBuesleBee:  I think I may take this idea, hope you don’t mind!

Post # 14
12 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Wheeler Historic Farm.

My fiance would like to release white balloons in honor of both of his parents after the ceremony, so I know we will do that. We are having a small private ceremony with our lines, my mom and grandparents at his family cabin where his late parents and grandparents built it together, and where his grandparents lay, so he feels like they will be closer with us. That will be Friday night, and Saturday will be the whole big event and it’s a historic buildings so I’m looking for a way to honor them there as well, because candles and balloons are not allowed. I might show him your sign and see what he thinks:)

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Post # 15
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

BurlapnLace:  Great option! I, too, am doing a memory table for my dad’s parents, my FI’s mom’s parents an an aunt of my FI. I never thought to put that on the guest book table. I’ll have to see how large of a table we get, since I already plan to have a couple signs on that table already – or may have to move one of the signs to our place card table instead.

I already have a sign that says something similar to the original poster, but also will have the grandparents wedding pictures, and a recent pic of my FI’s aunt. We debated her, only because he wasn’t close to her – but his family may get offended that we don’t honor her just because.

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