Post # 1
My fiance’s father passed away suddenly two years ago. His cousin (like a brother to him) passed away suddenly about a month and a half ago. We are trying to come up with ways to honor each of them… I don’t want to do anything that would be morbid/possibly make people uncomfortable (such as leaving an empty chair for them)… but want them to be honored in some way. Not sure how to go about doing this… any ideas? Most of our grandparents have also passed away– where do we “cut off” honoring those we have loved and lost?
Post # 3
I would say only immediate family need to be “honoured”. I would simply say a little something in your speeches. Or a prayer mentioning them before the meal.
I asked FI if he wanted anything to remember the people in his family, but he said no “this is the happiest day of my life i dont want to bring people down by mentioning the fact that we’ve lost people. We will all remember them our own way.”
Just something to think about.
Post # 4
My BIL grandmother passed away about 6 months before his and my sisters wedding. And BIL dad passed away 10 years prior. They honored them by putting a piture of them on candles and the candles were lit during the ceremony.
Post # 5
I’m personally looking to do something like this, any ideas how to get this done?
Post # 6
We are doing a memorial table, with a memoria candle that I made myself using a large flameless candle. Will have photos of my father and grandparents on the table with the candle. The setup will be in the cocktail room or in the reception room, not sure yet. I will not announce anything, but it is there to honor their memories without making it morbid.
Post # 7
We had memorial candles that stayed lit from dinner through to the end of the evening. All of our family really like the idea. They looked similar to the photo @mishagirls79: posted.
We thought about it being the cocktail room and then moved in to the reception hall because we wanted these people “present” at dinner, but we thought the logistics were not great so we ended up just having them in the reception hall all night. Turned out great.